Are shy/timid girls boring?

[xCutesyLolitax]

Hi guys (: So today, I've just realized I've stumbled across comments such as "shy girls are sooo boring" or "quiet girls are cute at first, but then they are just boring." Umm... u_u is this true, in your opinion? :'( I am a really shy, timid girl whose frightened easily, blushes a lot, and I've been told more than once im a goody two shoes because I always obey the rules, and if I dont, its by accident and I study a lot! o: Also, it takes me a while to open up to people (but it eventually happens (: ) and I cover my mouth/face a lot, either when Im laughing or embarrassedu_u My friends tell me Im really shy and sensitive but that I could be playful and silly at times. In addition, I never ever get mad and I cry easily, but Im happy most of the time. Are these type of quiet girls boring? :( Honesty will be appreciated, thank you (:

[WpCurious]

I think guys should just approach shy girls in a different way. Everybody has a wild side just waiting to come out, a more confident and care free side. If a guy is able to make a shy girl comfortable she'll open up more. I used to be really shy in high school, always quiet, also a goody two shoes, but that does not make me boring, in fact, according to my friends I'm one of the most fun people to be around, it just depends on how comfortable you are with people. If guys want a shy girl to talk find out what her interests are and what she is passionate about and ask her questions about it, this will definitely get her talking and before you realize it she'll be so comfortable and you will be able to talk about anything, probably struggling to get her to stop talking. Some people adapt quickly to strange environments and other just don't, that does not make anybody boring. And also shy people are the best judge of characters because while they are quiet in the back ground they observe their surroundings and the people's behavior, don't judge someone just because they are shy. Shy people have a lot of potential they just need someone to help them reach it. There is nothing bad about being shy, it gives you a bit of mystery. ;P

[pyramid_princess]

Aw you seem so nice, i fiind shy people are usually loyal friends. One of my friends is painfully shy, she opens up to people she gets to know, there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people judge shy people as boring, but its cos they haven't given themselves the chance to get to know them. As you get older your confidence will grow and you will become less shy. Dont change who you are just for the sake of others, cos you will attract the wrong sort of guy. so you follow the rules, that just shows you dont have a rebellious nature,

[kimmythebomb]

NO. shy/timid girls are not bori. I am not one of them but I know that guys are too lazy to extract the fun out of a shy girls, they don't wanna figure them out bu thers nothing wrong with the girl they just have to be comfortable with the guy to let their interest be known. cuz they want fast food not a slow cooked meal. i like fast food also but its bad for me. wait for your moment butterfly

[MattSX]

dont hear that kind of comment, I mean, if thats the way ya are , f*ck it whatever, if there's someone to like ya, it must happen to be the way ya are.

Of course its kinda disgraceful when ya talk to a girl and, I mean, its pretty much it, only ya talk.

It would be great if you're so shy, to find a way to decrease that shyness of yours, cuz I've been extremely shy in a part of my life, and when I realized the opportunities that we let pass by just because of that, I knew I've got to do something.

After that I've met a girl who changed me in many ways, as Im a different person now, and although your shyness can't be something for ya to be afraid of, ya simply should find a way to as I said, decrease that shyness and get rid of it, otherwise it will surely just damage ya.

take care girl..

[creepeil]

Honestly shyness and boringness are not dependent on one another. Typically though, shy girls are boring because they're too shy to say the interesting stuff about them because they're afraid of what people will think. I. E. Shy. But, Shy girls can be fun too. If a girl doesn't really talk to anyone in class, but when I talk to her she tells me about crazy stuff or funny stuff, then she's instantly fun. She's still shy, but she's interesting. Iunno, I think shyness mostly stems from insecurity: being afraid of people thinking you're stupid when you be yourself. Therefore, shy people are usually not going to be them self around others. For the most part though, shy people are a boring. There are obviously exceptions.

[Xonen]

I think the reason this stereotype exists is because the majority of people don't get to know shy girls on a more personal level. I'm sure if you asked any of the people who made those comments a question like "what's her last name?" or "what's her favorite color?" they wouldn't know xD

[dazedandconfused22]

I find them to be stupid and get walked all over by people. The only reason guys like them is because they can be dominated easily and they can get those kinda girls to do whatever they want.

Have a little back bone and realize that you are good enough and you don't need to get fucking embarrassed at everything you do or say.

Ugh.

[xCutesyLolitax]

Excuse me, but how does intelligence (or stupidity for that matter) relate to being shy? o: That's an invalid statement and the two are completely irrelavant. Guys can like shy girls for many reasons. Yes, I am shy. ^^ And no, I will not do whatever"they want", as being shy doesn't imply you lack the abily to make your own decisions^__^ Instead of attacking shy people, please realize some people have had different life experienes than you, and their background or past might have caused them to behave the way they do. :)

[dazedandconfused22]

People with enough intelligence realize that being shy is an excuse and being an introvert is not. You can be an introvert and not be socially awkward around people.

People use shyness as an excuse to come off as either cute or to make up for their lack of social skills.

[dazedandconfused22]

https://www.gettheguy.co.uk/blog/shy/

"you're not shy you're boring" watch the video I think it will really benefit you.

[xCutesyLolitax]

I see. From where do you find the basis to these sort of assumptions? Again, intelligence is not revelant to shyness, as someone can be shy/socially awkward and be smart at the same time. I've been through personal things that have caused me to be shy and for the most part, fearful of others without INTENDING to; however, this sort of behavior has not affected my intelligence. You claiming shy people is "an excuse to be cute and make up for lack of social skills" is quite untrue in my personal opinion, simply because one doesn't CHOOSE to BE shy. This claim of shyness "being an excuse" causes one to feel that this is something done on purpose. This is not always the case. Of course, a naturally shy individual can pretend to be social, but that won't change the fact it feels uncomfortable and awkward. Therefore, you will still be shy, even if you don't come off that way.

[xCutesyLolitax]

However, I think I might understand what you're trying to say o: The argument I'm trying to make, however, is that shyness in itself (in most cases) is not an EXCUSE to make up for lack of social skills; it IS lack of social skills. In other words, one who is naturally shy or has become shy due to past experiences is not projecting such behavior on purpose or even consciously. Claiming it is but an excuse is stating it is something done purposely to MAKE UP for something. "Stop being shy" is easier said than done. Shyness can be an integral part of someone; wether they like it or not.

[dazedandconfused22]

I guess it was rude of me for calling you stupid I apologize for that. I just think that you shouldn't let your past experiences rule over you. I am sure you a strong women and you can break free from being shy and break free from the excuse of thinking you lack social skills.

It's all in your head... you have the ability to be whoever you want to be and the only person stopping you is YOU. Shyness is your own worst enemy and it CAN be over come. Don't succumb to it or make excuses or try to stay shy because in the real world I can promise you it won't get you far. In a career setting you need to be confident and go after things you want and you are not going to be able to do that if you are shy and unsure of yourself.

[xCutesyLolitax]

Its ok!(:
Why must shyness necessarily contradict strength of character? Some people prefer to stay quiet and reserved simply because it is in their nature, and I personally believe there is nothing wrong with such behavior. "You have the ability to be whoever you want to be and the only person stopping you is YOU.": This is an invalid statement, given the fact you're making false assumptions and it is also highly subjective. On what premises have you based off your assumption that I haven't already found happiness and comfort in who I am? I strongly dislike the fact that society nowadays looks down upon shyness as "making up excuses" or being weak. Some people are social and others simply are not. "Shyness is your worst enemy"... I promise you, it isn't. Shyness in itself is the quality of being reserved, quiet, nervous, and a bit socially awkward amongst social settings; however, is irrelevant to strengh of character. It has never stopped me from doing things I've wanted to before.

[Anonymous]

I'd prefer a shy quiet girl than a flirty one. Mainly because they would be more loyal and once they open up, you can build a long lasting relationship. Big downside is that they would never initiate or show a lot of interest, so its hard to decide if you should go for it or not.

[Anonymous]

I like them... hard to get along with at first but I find they have an interesting way of looking at life and they're usually hilarious. I'm not sure why they're shy... but it does go away around the right people. They all have their own personality I find. Some won't stop talking about anime, others just criticize others, some are happy and joyful... I'm almost always surprised.

[InARush]

I know this is a late reply, but I don't really care lol. There's no reason that shy or timid girls should be boring - it just takes more time and effort to get close to them, that's all. But usually you will be very much rewarded for doing do because I reckon that shy people are usually real gems of humans. They have much more to them than meets the eye, so if you judge them at surface value they may seem boring at first. But they are often very deep thinkers, and are really warm and gentle and emphatic. I really love shy girls :-)

Plus let's be real, shyness is really cute and endearing, come on :-)

[Azara]

A person would shave to take the time to get to know a shy person. People who assume anyone is boring from one meeting is just looking for immediate gratification. That person doesn't really care about getting to know none just about being entertained.

[Reluctant]

I think it depends on how open to new experiences you are. If you plan on staying in your shell once somebody gets to know you, it gets really frustrating for anyone who is more outgoing than you. If you are at least willing to try new things even if you aren't good at them, you won't be/aren't boring. Also, be open to meeting new people. One of the biggest turnoffs in my current relationship is my SO's unwillingness to meet and hang with my friends unless it's on her terms (her favorite bar, her friend's party, etc.). You can be shy but still be willing to check out new stuff. Focus on that.

[helpman]

Boring depends on girl not shyness

An example
I have 3 friends shy, beautiful, fat
I had conversation with all them and it turns out the beautiful girl is very boring to talk to,
and fat or shy girl are really good in having conversations and always make me smile :)

Boring for me depends on how the girl talks not how she behaves :)

[Anonymous]

Being shy doesn't make you boring, being boring makes you boring. Quiet people tend to listen more and focus on inner passions. That outlook on life can lead to a very creative and intelligent person which is always interesting.

[LittleMissShorty]

I love your comment! I'm very introverted and can be really shy, but because of my quiet, curious nature, I am someone full of passion, interests, and I'm very creative. I myself become very bored in groups, because everyone talks about things that don't matter. I think a lot of quiet people think more deeply, and would communicate more if people actually talked about things that matter.

[Opinion Owner]

I tend the feel the same way around most people. I'm not shy though. :p I am pretty reserved in many situations but am very confident and talk to people easily.

[ResidentialWhovian]

I don't mind if someone is shy if you or another individual were introduced to me via a friend first you probably wouldn't be that shy seeing how my group of friends is made up of geeks/nerds who are slightly obnoxious (myself included) but if you still were I would wait for a while and find out what you were interested in so on and so forth.

[Theguyoverthere]

I went to lunch with a quiet girl once and it was indeed really boring. I couldn't get her to talk about anything. It just became a really boring lunch. There needs to be spark and conversation and exchanges among each other or there is no chemistry.

[snrxtreme]

it is not about being shy with people around. you can be shy but you should open up to your guy. guys like to listen girls talk. they like to comfort a girl by hugging them or by holding them to their chest. they expect you to speak about your problems to them. that makes them feel they are important to you.
final verdict:it is not that guys dont like shy girls but it is that they want to you to open up and speak. else they will definitely feel you are boring

[front2back]

No, they're usually the ones with all of the twisted and kinky fetishes.

[JoshyJames]

I agree

[beautifulangel76]

I'm more quiet but I'm not shy. I know one shy person and she is boring. She barely even talks to het friends. I like talking but I won't just start up a conversation with someone I just met normally. It all depends on if I'm comfortable or not.

[rafty]

Well, Shyness is a real beauty of feminine personality. Its natural and really more attractive. On the other side, Male who have high temptations wants to engage and involve with girl so quickly so they could do their act :P. . . In short, Your loyal husband will always appreciate ur shyness and reservedness but a guy who just want to fulfil his temptations will want u more open. . . How it is clear to u now :)
Stay Blessed !!

[ManOfFire]

If people think that quiet girls/boys are boring, it's probably because they don't know them very well. I'm sure your friends don't think you're boring at all.

[JohnScofield787]

No they can be very charming. Now if they are always that way, i. e. they never open up that would be boring but as you said, you will over time. You are good... don't worry about it.

[Souma95]

Nope, they're great, because once they finally open up to you, you usually find that they're nuts and really fun to be around :") My bestie is one of them!

[miserybusiness]

Yeah, from what I've experienced, shy girls are a huuuge turn off for most men

Don't worry, you're young. You'll crack out of your shell eventually

[art84]

Shy girls are kinda boring, I remember trying to talk to one and it was just awkward. She wouldn't really open at all when asking her questions.