Why do a lot of girls settle for less than what they deserve? It's as easy as just MOVING ON!

[Anonymous]

Why? A lot of times you see a girl that is worth much more than her BF. She could have any guy she wants... But she settles for less... A lot of times, you see a beautiful girl with a lame Boyfriend or a loser that doesn't treat her as good as he should...

What's going on in the girl's head? She may "love" the guy (notice the quotation marks), but when does a little self-respect and common sense come in and say, "There's so much better out there. I deserve better! Why do I even bother with this guy?"

Especially girls who aren't into drugs but they settle for a guy that is and want him to stop. (I never saw the appeal in drugs anyway... like kissing an ash-tray.) Or girls who are obviously mistreated, but still somehow don't see it... Like their "love" blinds them into thinking that its ok that they are being treated poorly as long as they still love the guy or if he does something less than desirable, its ok, because she "loves him..." Think about the future, when there's kids involved and you could be setting them up for getting involved in drugs down the road, or whatever... And I GUARENTEE you don't want that if you truly loved your children.

Why don't girls stop thinking based off pure emotion and give things a little thought. Yeah it hurts a little, yeah you think the guy may be the "only one" for you, but once you've moved on, you see that there's a whole world, out there, of people. It's just up to them to actually pick a decent guy.

It shouldn't be hard to get past a relationship like this anyway, so moving on shouldn't be that hard, especially when you think of someone else being out there that's a lot better. He might even be a close guy friend, that has liked you for a long time, but was too shy to say anything... Or really nice... That'd probably end up being a great relationship... Why shouldn't he be given a chance?

I don't know, I just see a lot of girls on here, and in real life that could be so much happier if they just didn't put themselves though so much BS emotional drama. Given a little bit of thought, they could save themselves a lot of heartache, whether its now, or later in life.

Sorry to be brutally upfront, but that's just how I feel when I see all these obviously bad relationships that are gonna get a girl into some trouble later down the road. Or maybe she's suffering now. Just move one and find someone better, I sounds hard, but in the end, its really not that bad and you'll be happier.

Just looking out for the girls! :) I want them to be happy, and by happy I mean REALLY happy, not what you think is happy... :) I know girls want a "fairy-tale" ending, but even then how does that even go with someone who is lighting up a joint all the time/on drugs, or mistreats his lady... Those examples and "fairy-tale" don't even belong in the same paragraph...

Agree or disagree? Thoughts? I'm curious to see people's opinions.

[Anonymous]

This was truly insightful. I had no idea that an anonymous user over the internet knew what it took for me to find true happiness more than I did. I'm astounded by the fact that you know every aspect of the relationships these girls are in, and even more so that you know exactly what women are thinking, having never been one. Just be careful not to fall of your high-horse; I've heard it hurts.

You don't have the right to tell them which guy they're supposed to be dating. They're big girls.

You're an ass if you think drugs make you a bad person. An addict is totally, totally different.

They'll make their own mistakes and learn from them in their own time. Until those girls learn and decide for themselves that he's not worth it, absolutely nothing is going to change their minds. If someone else forces a girl to leave a bad relationship, she WILL go back until she has closure and is ready to leave.

When girls make mistakes about the guys they're dating, if they're not a special kind of stupid, they learn from them. If they don't, chances are there's another problem, or a void they're looking to fill. Something like that takes more than just logically understanding "This is bad for me, I'll stop it." It's a pattern of behavior you find yourself falling into before you even realize what's happening.

What if they don't want a "fairy tale"? What if they've found someone who makes them happy, they've been happy with them for a long time, and then something happens that changes them? There's a loyalty built up there that makes it almost impossible to just leave when that happens. What if I need someone someday, and everyone else chooses to walk out on me because it's easier? Then relationships have no value. I'd rather have something powerful and imperfect than fleeting and pleasant.

[white_wizard]

I think your being a tad harsh. he makes a pretty decent observation that, while you may not accept the premise, doesn't mean its not happening. yeah, they're all big girls that can look after their own interests, but it doesn't bely the fact that its maddening impossible for us 'logical thinking' men to comprehend.

he's not talking about fairy tales, he talking about guys who disrespect and treat their girls like dirt and know they can get away with it because the girl has love blinders on..

[Opinion Owner]

He talks about fairy tales in the last paragraph.

All right, I know I'm being harsh. It's just insulting when someone criticizes something they clearly don't understand, and does it while pretty clearly looking down on the people he's supposedly "looking out for."

[dwiller943]

Because it's either we settle for what we don't deserve, force ourselves to be lesbian, or stay single for the rest of our lives.

[white_wizard]

i kinda get the sense that you are the 'good guy' and your selling yourself as the alternative to some relationship a girl you know is in and you can't understand why she is with some plodding neanderthal instead of you.

I can relate. I been there. girls operate differently then men. its why we have people like Dr. Phil, but I digress.

U make a valid point. Most girls wouldn't put up with a car that kept stalling and ran out of gas every 30 seconds and the radio crapped out, etc.. they'd trade up for a high end quality car. The key here is, they won't ever end up trying to mate with their car. Therein lies the rub.

Women choose men based on unforseen criteria for breeding and stability and childrearing and a whole host of other bio/chem factors like pharamones. Charisma and confidence also go a long way and will choose a confident arogant SOB over a gentle but meek pushover.

Its all in the genetics and you'll never change it. Simply understand that as women get older, their priorities change and so do their thought processes. So do yourself a favour and try not to let it bother you, let women be to deal with their own issues, and don't be a shoulder to cry on for the woes of girls you feel are in that position. Tell them they made their bed and you don't want to hear it. Don't have to be cruel about it, just adamant you won't be an emotional crutch for someone who chooses to accept the consequences of their choice.

ps-not everyone who does dope is evil, but if he prefers his drugs more than his girl, yeah he's a loser.

Hope that ramble helped.

[Seedsnddbf]

Yeah, it was a good idea to remain anonymous on this one. It was a poorly stated opinion, if that.