It's because of the stigma over nerdy guys being the gross geeks who never shower and live with their mom's until they're 35. This stigma has sorta changed over the years, but there are still a lot of guys who seclude themselves in their rooms, never shower, and constantly geek it up with D&D, anime, and Star Wars movies, haha.
The reason nerdy guys seem to get the shit end of the stick is because people in general are picky. Many girls want a guy who's active because she feels like their future together is more secured if he isn't always talking about Star Wars (that's not to say that EVERY "nerdy" guy is a Star Wars fanatic), and many nerdy guys don't want a girl that isn't as attractive as the not as attractive girl who actually shows interest in him, as opposed to the really beautiful women who sometimes don't give them the light of day.
There are lots of people out there, and you don't really know just how many until you've traveled the world. I wouldn't give up yet on finding the right person, despite the stigma around the nerdy guy thing. One of the nerdiest guys I ever knew had really bad facial whiskers, bad acne, and constantly had a deck of Yu-Gi-Oh cards in his bag to play with other fellow nerds, and he's maintained a relationship with a pretty girl for over 5 years. It'll happen. :)
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A. We don't. It's just that more "non nerds" approach women.
B. Just because a guy isn't a "nerd", doesn't mean that he goes out and gets drunk and "makes bad decisions". I sense some slight arrogance.
C. I like watching anime, playing videogames, I love science, reading, researching, I have more books than friends. So if a guy feels the same way or we share similar hobbies, then that's a plus for me cuz we'll have more to talk about. Geeky guys very rarely ever ask a girl out. I know what you're gonna say "It's cuz we're shy and the girl should be approaching too." I agree. And I have. With geeky guy friends and classmates. They rejected me. So there's that lol
Geeks are my preference but I'm not theirs apparently :p
All women don't try to avoid dating nerdy guys. It's kind of like saying all guys only go after blondes. It's possible you think so because you aren't looking at the correct type of girl. I, personally, like it when I can play video games with a guy, or talk with them about books. But not girls are like that, keep in mind.
I just copy paste my opinion from a take with this subject:
What girls (or people in general) don't understand is that it's not your hobby that makes you a nerd but the way you're dealing with it. A girl might reject a guy only because he likes to watch cartoons or plays video games, reads comic books, ''Ugh... what a nerd'' she will think. But she will date another guy who is obsessed with sports cars, is filling his Honda Civic with stickers thinking that it is cool and is waking up 3 o clock in the morning to watch the F1 tournament in Japan live AND of course collects TOYS sports cars. Or maybe she will date a guy who is obsessed with football and soccer teams and players and goes to see 'his' favourite team every weekend and gets pissed off if it loses the game and is wearing his team's T shirts on a daily basis (omfg). Excuse me ladies, aren't the two examples above a supreme level of nerdy behaviour?
I too was always a loser with girls. The few relationships I had by now were all very short and some were simple hook ups without any meaning and I know it will be like this for the rest of my life, not because Im bad looking! I actually dare to say that I am handsome enough and I attract girls often but no relationship will last and turn into something meaningful, all because of my hobbies.
A part of me is still a Nerd/GEEKt I like anime documentations and etc i used to look a total stereotypical nerd nasty glasses chubby lack of communication skills with the ladies. But that all changed when i realized what potential i had in me. Use your intelligence as advantage don't dress like a nerd. clothe yourself fashionably. Go to the gym if you already don't to loose weight if you have a few extra unwanted pounds. Dont complain that you dont have a beach bod and expect a girl to just fall for you, personality counts but you have to be presentable. GET Ripped. Build up your confidence and just remember WORK HARD PLAY HARD. Worked for me should work for you
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I'm down with the hobbies, gaming, programming, (fandoms, if you want to count the "mainstream nerd"), but the people that hold these common interests tend to be socially slow. its painful to try to hold conversation; it feels too forced. And the same for no conversation; it feels awkward.
A lot of the guys I knew in high school that were nerds rarely went out into the sunlight. Their health suffered and their body left misshapen. Not very attractive to me, but they could get girlfriends. I know a few that got engaged during high school.
My experience with nerdy/geeky guys and flirting has been mostly negative. I have a few as friends but they are all socially awkward, except one that is just unpredictable and becomes violent (to the point he'd murder someone) when he looses a game. I would date a nerd or geek as long as they would be willing to leave the house (I need sunlight to be happy), were not violent, and wouldn't turn down sex to play a game.
You classify a "nerd" as someone who just plays video games and watches anime. But some of those guys are the ones that are socially awkward and just flat out aren't good socializing with girls.
So I assume you fall into the socially awkward group. Which isn't difficult to fix, and if you prefer to stay within your comfort zone, you can easily find you a cute video game/anime loving gal, there's a shit load.Nerds typically are socially awkward, are babied, and show little to no drive to succeed in life. They don't care much about looking or smelling good either... and if they do, it definitely doesn't show!
To be fair, those are usually the uber dorks though. lolA lot of nerds have terrible social and communication skills, especially when it comes to non-nerds. As a nerd myself, even I find a lot of other nerds unbearable when I'm around too many of them, and I can easily imagine what it must be like for someone who doesn't even understand the nerd context to deal with people on that level.
Nerdy guys are smart. I sit next to them on tests/exams/quizzes.
I like nerdy guys because in the future they will be rich and not like the cool guys who became baby daddies and drug addictsI've been attracted to plenty of nerdy guys. It's all about preference. You just need to find someone who enjoys what you enjoy so you can have a nerd fest and make a nerd nest together.
I don't, I think nerdy guys are cute and a lot of them have the better jobs :P
I also enjoy nerdy things, so what's not to like?
And going out drinking all the time is really overrated.you just haven't found your nerdy girl yet. I watch anime with my bf all the time. watching tokyo ghoul season 2 right now by the way. lol
depends on the girls really but also in saying that some nerdy guys dont express how they feel towards a girl also so its kinda hard for girls to know..
Why do men tend to avoid dating nerdy girls?
They're usually not good socially.Because some women don't know what a good guy looks like at a glance.
Poor social skills and lack of attentionto apperance, often. Also, nerdy doesn't automatically mean nice. My last serious bf was an engineer and the biggest jerk I've dated.
Luv anime!! And video games are cool. Can't say I don't like it... XD
All your activities are indoors, how can girls meet you?
I am one of the biggest nerds I have ever known... 😄 so I have no problem with nerds. Haha
If the nerdy guy has a nice body and personality then he is a go.
In a young girls mind "making bad decisions" is there reason to be. Without poor choices they would have an existential crisis, so naturally they cannot relate to guys who don't play that game.
I love nerds. My boyfriend is a nerd, and I love it. It's not about looks, but there is some cuteness in nerd's personalities.
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