If a girl makes fun of you does that mean she likes you?

[Anonymous]

I keep bugging my crush, either acting as though he doesn't exist, or making fun of him.

It's so much fun.

I mean, I don't expect anything, (if I did, I obviously wouldn't choose to behave that way), but I wonder if this is a general rule.

That if a girl makes fun of you, she either hates you, or she likes you.

[JSmuve]

Yes, she either hates you, she likes you, or she has no feelings towards whatsoever. That's an exhaustive list so a girl making fun of you tells you nothing about how she feels towards you.

[Asker]

Ah, but the real question is, why is the guy putting up with it?

[JSmuve]

Because

+ he's stupid
+ insecure
+ wants to fuck the girl
+ isn't really bothered by it

[Asker]

Wouldn't you just roll your eyes if you weren't bothered by it

[aficionado]

If a girl (or a guy) makes fun of me or ignores me for no apparent reason, then he/she would be out of my life sooner than they think.

[Asker]

You know, this is precisely what I would do as well.

BUT when I behave like this, the guy usually seems to not 'cut me off,' which makes me wonder if they think I like him, or if he likes me

[aficionado]

Well... most guys do tend to put up with this sort of thing if they REALLY like the girl, but i personally don't.

[Asker]

Would it also be if they're indifferent? Kind of like they have nothing to lose if the girl's behaving like that, they might as well entertain them.

[thewanderingme]

it means she's immature.

[Asker]

Maybe.

But he's putting up with it.

Hmmm

[Ihav2fart]

Girls make fun of me all the time! I don't even know anymore! ! ! ! ! !

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I wouldn't put up with that. He needs to grow a pair and stop letting himself get strung along.

[Asker]

Would someone put up with it if they realized they'd been a jerk, and the girl's taking out her frustration

[Opinion Owner]

No. Adult men don't put up with shit. If a guy makes a mistake, he owns it, apologizes, then goes back to behaving like an adult himself and fully expecting her to do the same. Dealing with dramatic and indirect Bullshit is unacceptable.

[Asker]

Well.

The only reason that I do it, is because he seems to be letting me.

Of course I wouldn't behave like that if it were someone else.

[Opinion Owner]

This guy isn't someone you are actually interested in. You clearly don't respect him--and that's ultimately his fault for accepting that kind of behavior from you, but it certainly doesn't excuse you from poor behavior, you always have to own it.

I'd suggest to stop what you are doing, and i would suggest looking for a guy you are actually interested in, rather than making a game of both of your feelings.

[Asker]

I don't know whether that's entirely true. I did like him, and was really intimidated by him. My behaving this way is just to compensate for how much he's indirectly lowered my self-esteem in the past.

I guess watching his feelings hurt makes me feel better, because of what he did.

I don't understand whether his putting up with it is him realizing I'm just taking it all out on him, or something else.

But I'd say yes if he asked, the problem is he doesn't.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow.

You definitely need to move on to another guy. The situation you are in is unhealthy. I'm not going to break down the psychology, but that isn't good for either of you. And it strengthens my belief that you aren't actually interested in him.

Find a guy who treats you nice, who you respect, and where both of you are thrilled to be with each other. Anything less than that isn't worth your time or emotion.

[Asker]

I'm not actually interested in him; I just want his approval type of thing? Because he made me feel like I'm not good enough? Is that what you're saying?

Yeah there's probably some truth to that. But I still don't understand why he's putting up with me, he didn't in the past. I know he's attracted to me, but I don't think that's a good enough reason. Out of curiosity why do you say I don't respect him? Isn't intimidation a form of respect?

Yes, I do know that I shouldn't settle for less, and aspire to be with someone who I like and enjoy being around. I've never thought of this thing as long-term. But I know it's not worth it

[linkywinky]

STOP PLAYING GAMES.

[Asker]

I'm not playing games, I didn't even realize I liked him until I picked up on how much fun it was bugging him

[linkywinky]

Uck.