If you start ignoring a girl, will she notice?

Question

She always used to seem genuinely interested in talking to me, she even talked to me first sometimes ( I mostly talked first). She always was laughing and smiling around me. She told me a lot about herself, including what she likes to do and her family. We talked about how we don't really know our extended families because they live so far away. We both really like this one tv show and we talked about it a lot too. One day I was late and she thought I was not here so when I came in she was smiling and said "Yay your here!!!" Then I got her a card for her birthday and she was like "Aw this the first card I got all day!" and she was really happy about it. Our teacher gave us notes and we had to take pictures of them so she asked me if I needed them and gave me her phone number. Now we never talk anymore and she never initiates the conversation like she used too. She will talk to everyone else in the class except me and I dont know why. A few days ago her best friend asked her to prom and now Im really angry and I dont feel like talking to her anymore. If I dont look at her, talk to her, or acknowledge her anymore will she notice?
And when we text I text her first and she replies really fast (sometimes less than a minute and usually 1-2 min) then after a few text messages she stops texting. So she must not like me?

fbird90nw · Accepted Answer

Never ignore them no good comes of it. Plus it's petty and childish. You have to be brave and ask her. I know it sucks but it's the only way. But usually if i like a girl and i used to be a shy flirt, I'd talk to everyone in the room except them hoping it make them come over. Never worked. I don't think girls give out numbers to someone they didn't really care about. As a friend or possibly BF material i don't know? Usually women like you they don't like to seem needy or clingy so contact is usually is going to be initiated by the guy. The good news us she texts back quickly. You can't get mad over her friend asking her to the prom though. She has no control over that and if she wants to go with him that's fine man, you don't own her plus the opportunity presented itself. The guy doesn't always get the girl he wants no matter what society tells you. I lost a whole lot lol so I'm coming from experience brother

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

It is possible she sees you only as a friend, and that is how she always felt. It is possible she senses that you like her romantically, and she doesn't want to encourage that.

Are you angry at her, or are you angry at the situation? Why exactly are you angry?

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

I think you miss read the signals, all she did was be friendly to you and try to get to know you, just because a girl is friendly to you doesn't mean she is interested in something more, i don't know why this is such a hard thing for a guy to understand and it makes us girls see what guys really think of us that us girls are some how all out to get naked with a guy lol we aren't... she was just trying to be your friend and i just don't see why guys can never be a friend with a girl... because we can be friends with you, why miss a great chance on making a friend? it baffles me why guys miss out on this chance, i guess it's an ego thing lol but still... if you start ignoring her she's going to then think your being super immature about things, don't do this... because then you really have missed out on having a good friend.

sarahbear11 · Accepted Answer

the whole "silent treatment" thing only works if you are actually close friends (i am admittedly guilty of that myself if i think i "need a break" from talking to someone) honestly u just don't know her as well as u think you do and she probably has other stuff going on in her life (maybe she was just leading u on for a bit as an extra option until she made sure some other relationship was gonna work out.. i do that sometimes too... oops) if you just ignore her she probably won't care too much in the long run... a guy just stopped talking to me out of the blue one day after we discussed hooking up a few times and it was weird but not heartbreaking cuz i had other more important things going on... so just be cool, be her friend, maybe someday you could be more than that... but probably not...

Blancal0ve · Accepted Answer

PlusPlease please please don't ignore her... It hurts a lot.. I had a guy do this too me super recently and I feel crushed and awful and I stopped eating and it was awful. Plus, she's obviously interested and might like you and ignoring her would be horrible for her... and you... It's not her fault that her best friend asked her to prom, so don't blamb her for that, its not her fault and she was in no position to say no (by the sound of it). She could very well be hurt already, but you can fix that and bring a little more happiness into her life by texting her. Text her and try to work it out!!

Anonymous · Answer

We will notice, but it shows you aren't interested anymore so we get hurt and leave. Believe me, I'm going through that right now. He came to me by himself and then doesn't talk like he used to and talks to other girls. I don't know if he's a player. So I leave him to see if he comes back to me like he did the first time.
We are afraid of being clingy because that turns the guys off and we don't want to lose them.
Maybe you did and she got hurt and that's why she doesn't talk anymore. When she doesn't talk, you'll know she's hurt. If she messages quickly, she misses you and is waiting for you.
IK I am. :'|

iloveblacky123 · Answer

stop ignoring her... DO U KNOW HOW MUCH THAT HURTS US!!! if you ignore me it sends me into a self pity mode thinking you hate me!! i can't stand it when someone ignores me! i keep trying to get you to talk, i want attention all girls do!
So stop ignoring her and just sit down and talk to her!

loverofmusic · Answer

No don't ever, ever ignore her, unless your really not interested in her and don't like as potential gf material, if you do want too be with her one day, then don't do it. Continue texting her and text her first, and talk too her, there's nothing more heart breaking too a girl then being ignored and texting a guy first everyday and for him too never make an effort too text her first or in anything.

ShatteredMusic · Answer

yes she will notice... if she is a really true friend or she likes you then she would be really hurt if you ignore her. So whatever it is, just dont do it.. Truth always comes out anyways so if you dont really want to ruin that.. talk to her. Its always a good way to solve problems.. plus, well maybe she doesn't really like her best friend as more than that. she maybe went just so she won't hurt his feelings. there are many reasons to that.. so definitley talk to her.. xx hope that helps

mobiusforniner · Answer

I'm going to give you advice based on my experience with this exact behavior. What you're experiencing is called a "dismissive avoidant" attachment style. She enjoys the attention at first but when feelings and emotions are triggered, she pulls away. This attachment style is extremely difficult to overcome and will leave you perpetually thinking you're always at fault.

You must understand- it is NOT about you. Approach with caution, because this type of relationship will be very confusing and painful. It demands patience and requires you to seek self respect and confidence so that you're not always wondering why it isn't working.

The reasons for such behavior, I believe, are rooted in some kind of childhood trauma. Which, again, isn't yours to solve.

And, to answer your initial question, yes- if you ignore her she will notice.

pandapaws22 · Answer

She will notice because you were able to notice that she was ignoring you. So why wouldn't a girl be able to notice the same thing? But she probably just is busy with her life, just like all of us are. So don't stress about it, if it is meant to be for you guys to be together then it will happen! She will come back around if you start talking to her in class.

lalamixx · Answer

You're old enough to know people hurt as you probably are right now. It's either you talk to her, tell her whats bothering you settle ot and go your separate ways depending on what her response is.

We are all human... And will notice if there are being ignored. If once you've talked about it... things don't change, then move on and just ignore her, make new friends and be happy.

Maybe she might realise how good you are or she just made new friends...

Fishycx · Answer

I'm sorry you have to be in this situation. I've actually been in an extremely similar situation almost exact as that and it sucks when people do that. I'll never understand why. But honestly, I think that she's going to notice. If a girl likes you she'll notice. She might not talk to you as much and it might be all confusing because of this but I think she'll notice. If not now, eventually she's going to.

Anonymous · Answer

Yepp she notices. She's talking to everyone but you to see if you'll go over and start talking to her, or if you miss her. I just had the same thing happen with me and my friend. We were so close but one day he just stopped talking to me. So now we both talk to everyone in the class but each other and its so alkward and its like I miss him a lot as a friend but I don't go up to him and start a conversation because I'm not sure why he's not talking to me anymore

OptimisticallyBryant · Answer

I don't know about that. He who cares the least is usually the way to go. If she sees you being happy and go lucky she will notice in a big way and she will start talking to you again with curiosity and vigor. Remember "He who cares the least always win" she has to be DEAD to you dude. Live it, love it, DO IT.

Agrojag · Answer

She may. But regardless it's best for you to disassociate from her. She's causing you stress and no girl is worth that. I think that's a good message to send without getting angry and having an argument.

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

If you ignore girls, they might like it. If you ignore women, they'll just see how stupid and childish it is and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly forget about her. If she isn't open up to as much as she used too its not a good sign. If she talks to everyone else in the class room then sorry to say butt eff her. You dont deserve that. If she notices you not try to engage in a conversation and doesn't call you out in it or talks to you first then you know where you stand

lovelina14 · Answer

That's really hurtful. When I get ignored especially with a guy I really like I want to explode and when they give me a stupid excuse saying that they're "busy" makes me even feel like crap. Try to talk to her about what's going on

Kels_ay · Answer

Definitely. Please do NOT do this. It doesn't work, and if she does like you, ignoring her will not work. You can try it and see how she reacts, but if she doesn't bother with you after, then you either hurt her or know where you stand.

Anonymous · Answer

Same happened to me. I ignored her, she noticed, asked me if I was mad, I told her she changed, she denied it... While clearly she backed off. Now we don't talk much, I'm careful, I'm not paying to much attention to her, I'm not sure if she is fine or not with that, but what ever... all I wanted was to be friend, she misrode me, she got what she deserved

AmyGirlyeaah · Answer

If you ignore her and she likes you. She will go to millions of guys to make you jealous, so don't do it.

pyramid_princess · Answer

She'll notice if she cares about you , but won't if she doesn't  If someone ignores me, i never disturb them again.

JackKerouac77 · Answer

Nope, you'll just cry 96 tears

Anonymous · Answer

It does work, trust me! Especially so if you are wanting to get the attention of a popular girl who all the guys give their attention to. If she notices you are not she will be more inclined to make an effort and take an interest in you, I've done it before. BUT, it is a hard line to walk and easy to screw up. So I strongly sugget talking to her and putting in the effort other than ignoring her as a tactic. I have the whole ignoring thing backfire a lot of times.

If you start ignoring a girl, will she notice?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said