POLL - Do girls mindfuck/manipulate alpha males too?

[Anonymous]

There's a saying that Alpha Male > Women > Beta Male.

You know those guys who are relaxed and their nonverbal communication is amazing... they seem to "get it" as far as everything goes even though they don't seem too "bright"... alpha males also dominate more often than not.

These guys don't seem to be bothered by girls for the most part, if at all. Though some of them too agree that women are manipulative.

Also girls, have you even been with a badboy/alpha/dominant male? How does it feel and could you manipulate him? If so can you share your stories please

Yes

No

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YES please give reasons or say something at least

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So obviously there's some truth in it since half the people are saying yes. please REPLY GIRLS :/

[Anonymous]

No. When you're confident you can get a girl elsewhere you don't get manipulated like that. The minute they try to play games you just move on to another one. If they try to use sex to manipulate you, you just get I from somewhere else. They can only manipulate desperate men. Also when girls try to knock your confidence you just find it funny that they think their opinion affects you at all when there are plenty of other girls who like you, in fact it says more about them and their insecuritiesthan you.

For example I got talking to a girl and she started trying to play games, she'd send dirty texts and suggest we meet up then make excuses not to turn up. The first time she didn't turn up I let it go because shit happens, the second time I decided I wasn't gonna bother because she didn't even make an excuse this time, didn't even get in touch. I got talking to this other girl, met her a few times (eventually got into a relationship with her). The previous girl got mad when she heard about this from someone else, all of a sudden she wasn't playing, instead she was mad and started trying to tell me I was ugly and pathetic and bla bla bla. I just LOL'd, I was getting my dick sucked elsewhere, why would I care?

Then there was a girl who tried to get me to pay for everything when we went on a date despite telling me that she was a strong feminist. In fact at one point she demanded I pay, so I just told her to piss off. Anyway at the end of the date she invited me back to hers with the usual "but we won't be having sex" (they always say that so they don't look like sluts). It would have cost me a lot to get a taxi so I agreed to stay at hers for the night. We got back and she said "it's bad that I've brought you back on the first date isn't it?". I replied "no not really, it's not like we're going to do anything is it?" and her face dropped lol. We went to sleep, then she texted me the next day asking for another date, I said I think we should just be friends.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

An actual alpha male (more scientific) than the internet-bro-alpha version idiots talk about on the internet would NOT get manipulated. He's too experienced with women and knows too much about social interactions, too socially skilled, to fall for little mind games.

If you're talking about the egotistical, super macho internet-bro-alpha, then yeah, that moron would get his ass manipulated a thousand different ways.

I highly encourage you to stop thinking in terms of the childish Alpha/beta/sigma/greek letter paradigm. Not helpful or useful in anyway for learning to be socially adroit.

[Asker]

So how should I be thinking? I want to learn this social/nonverbal stuff too but I don't know where to start and the label of Beta doesn't help either

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Think in terms of goals and seek social fluency. Set out a goal of one thing you want to learn, then observe people who can already do it. How do they act, how do they move? What is their vocal tone? What is the girl acting/doing, what is she saying, how is she saying it?

So observe first. Then start testing by trying to emulate what you saw. You noticed he maintained strong eye contact? Then learn strong eye contact (short tip: focus on the nose between the eyes, don't move from eye to eye), when to break it off and how often, etc, then talk to girls using strong eye contact, see how they respond--then break down why, what could have influenced them, etc.

Go out and observe how a guy moves each body part, when he moves, why he moves. Do the same for women. Observe, emulate. Do the same for speech.

Observe, emulate, theorize, emulate. Repeat that cycle over and over.

[Asker]

I have a thing against being "fake" so everytime I emulate someone I can't because I feel like I'm being fake then I freeze up or get awkward and forget what I was saying because I'm too focused on myself.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

It isn't faking, it's learning. You are attempting to learn the principles behind body movement, speech, and social interaction. When learning an instrument, the first thing a student has to do is simply emulate the teacher and learn how to hold the instrument--they aren't faking.

If you desire to become fluent in the social arts, the first step is to move past your insecurities.

Emulate just one thing at a time. Don't try to learn how to hold good eye contact, great conversation, beautiful hand movement, etc etc at the same time. Choose one thing, determine exactly what you are going to try to learn, and then keep doing it until you understand it and it feels natural. Then go onto the next thing to learn.

[Asker]

I have a problem letting myself go.. I'm too insecure about it and I feel like I can't let myself go...

I think this is my biggest problem and 90% of everything would be solved if this were possible wouldn't you agree? When you let yourself go you're in your superintelligent subconsious mind which makes things so much easier.

This is what I'm determined to learn. It's not really a social art

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

That's something you have to get past, and the only way to do that is to put yourself in situations that are uncomfortable to you.

Do it gradually, don't jump into the deep water immediately. Start in the shallows, acclimate, then go further. You won't be able to make progress in other areas of the social arts until you do this. Put yourself in social situations and anything else that puts you on edge.

[Asker]

I have a hard time letting myself go even when I'm alone. I'm working on it though. Starting from the shallows.

What is slightly discouraging though is looking at the people swimming in the deep and the thought of how long it took them to reach there.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

If you want to make progress, you can't compare yourself to other people.

Only compare yourself to your previous level of ability and knowledge. Have you made progress? Can you make progress faster? Those are the questions to concern yourself with--other people's skills and experience have no bearing on your own skill and experience, unless you are doing the learning cycle I mentioned above. Comparing yourself to them will only make you feel inadequate and undermine your efforts. Don't do it.

[Asker]

Yeah but a girl can make me feel inadequate and shameful if she finds out my weakness you know? That's what I want to know how to stop... if it's even possible... cuz I'm beginning to believe we're always at their emotional mercy lol

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

You are never at the mercy of another person unless you choose to be.

We are not our emotions, and we can choose how we respond to situations and our feelings. If you are feeling powerless, it's because you aren't really taking full accountability for and control of your responses to the stimulus of the world.

First, you need to shed your fear and insecurity. That is no way to go into an interaction with anyone, and if you go in believing that they can and will manipulate you--well you are going to run into a self-fulfilling prophecy. But if you firmly adhere to your own agency, manipulation ceases to exist. Know yourself better, know your values and what's acceptable to you, and have the balls to stick by your convictions. Learn to trust your judgement, refine your knowledge through experience and observation.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the girl and their ability to know how to keep him mesmerized by her spell - beating him at his own game, that is. One of the ways is looking like a billion dollars (think cat eyes!!) while being approachable yet mysterious. I had this one night where I decided to try and be that girl - and it actually came out better than I expected. The thing that worked for me is 'fake it till you make it' while staying classy - being that if you convince yourself that people like you (and adore you) it gets a lot easier for you to bond with them and find common interests. Others will quickly notice and it will be like a domino effect - suddenly every guy (and girl) wants to talk to you. Mainly talk about them, though - never reveal too much and don't let them come close - this being the same tactics that most players use. Then, when it comes to the player I would actually want to manipulate, I would first become his good friend and get to know his soft spots some time before this night - then I would spend the night casually befriending his close friends, having a great time while he is talking to yet another girl - and in the end, he would gaze at me forever just before dragging away with his one night stand. I would eventually be the girl who's on his mind and now he's the one chasing me like there's no tomorrow. Maybe I was just 'lucky' - even though you might want to ask youself what you want out of this - and if it's really worth acting like this for the given purpose.. Well, I think it was quite fun to feel powerful and in control like that but now I'm not sure I would even want this guy anyways now that I've played the game. I guess it would also depend on how emotionally unavailable the guy is. I don't really know if my 'advice' was useful, but here goes.. :)

[Asker]

It's all about the chase huh? Your advice was kinda helpful I guess... That guy was pretty weak though...

[Opinion Owner]

they get weak once you figure them out, I guess. But the thing is - it could eventually be because we actually did have chemistry in the first place and I'm to paranoid to see it given his one night stand tendency. And now I won't know whether he's just in it for the chase or if he actually loves me now that I've gotten to know him and we have a lot in common. Otherwise we could be one of those couple where we're both assholes and therefore deserve each other.. haha.. No, sorry.. I'm working on the positive vibe

[Asker]

it's fine, all girls do this.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah and I think that's exactly what would be a player's biggest advantage; the tendency that girls overthink and overanalyze. By making us wonder whether there is a sparke, that guy would be stuck in our heads till forever as we eventually would pick up on every little hint he's throwing... ;)

[Asker]

Yeah but we can't out-manipulate you though. Just use and throw.

[udolipixie]

Do girls mindfuck/manipulate alpha males too?
A. Yes

However I find gals that sare alpha females are the ones who successfully mindf*ck/manipulates alpha males. The animal kingdom shows alpha males can be deceived, manipulated, and usurped. Alpha males aren't all-knowing beacons impervious to manipulation. If anything in my experiences/observations guys who think they know-it-all about gals and are oh so socially skilled tend to be the easiest to set up. I find the only almost guarantee to not fall for manipulation is to be indifferent and most guys are not they care about things mostly themselves and their pride/ego/alpha status.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

I don't believe in the Greek letter nonsense, but to use the term alpha for the moment... I would not consider a man who isn't indifferent to a situation or it's outcome to be an alpha. I think learning not to care about any particular outcome is the mark of an alpha. To that end, alphas, male or female, are the least likely to be manipulated due to the lack of investment in a given interaction. That said, I still give the advantage to the male, due to an important gender difference--the biological clock. A guy can afford a greater expense of time.

[udolipixie]

@ScruffyNerfHerder
I'm unsure how the 'biological clock' is an advantage when the alpha female doesn't care about any particular outcome.. o. O

I'm guessing you mean a greater expense of time to have children if so it seems there's not that much difference since *recent* studies show male sperm declines in quality after 35. Many theorize the rise of Aspie kids is due to older guys having kids to recall a quote I read in one 'just because he can have kids doesn't mean he should'. I highlight recent as research on the influence of male age on a couple's fertility has been largely neglected until recent.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Haha, I did say in a given interaction, did I not? We still have long term motivations that never quite go away.

Yes, children are what I was referring to. And while a male's sperm quality may decline (I actually love reading on these topics too), a woman loses her ability to conceive. That's a major difference. Plus, men are still attracted to --and can get-- younger partners to mate and have children with. That's much harder for a woman as she ages, although it is becoming more common, but if she can no longer conceive--well, her value on the dating market plummets from a macro, biological perspective.

So while individuals may or may not have an advantage in a given interaction, men in general will have more of an advantage at the top of the dating game from the macro, biological perspective.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

In terms of the OP's obsession on manipulation, two strong, outcome independent people won't be manipulating each other. They influence each other as much as they allow, and they will agree or disagree as they see fit, and go along with another's perspective or desires so long as it a mutually appealing option. I think that's an excellent state to be in, an actual equality.

And I just want to highlight that--influence is not the same as manipulation. Top men and top women won't allow themselves to be manipulated.

[udolipixie]

You did say given interaction however it's more reasonable to state given the individual. The 'biological clock' only matters to the given individual as the given interaction can be meaningless to another individual.

1. I'm not seeing the major difference in guys conceiving unhealthy children vs gals not conceiving. It seems we have different views on having any kid no matter what than no kid.

2. Guys being attracted to and getting younger gals is a wash as gals are generally attracted to and getting older guys.

3. Many guys increasing do not want children so the plummeting dating value due to not being able to conceive seems more like your personal opinion. However many gals do want kids and I imagine they'd prefer healthy ones so when the male fertility decline is common knowledge...

So basically you premise of guys having more advantage seems to be they can still have kids despite the risks/delays to the kid and gals who can't desirability plummets (opinion).

[udolipixie]

"In terms of the OP's obsession on manipulation, two strong, outcome independent people won't be manipulating each other. "
Meh I find that depends on the individuals I know plenty of strong outcome independent guys and gals who manipulate each other. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

"Top men and top women won't allow themselves to be manipulated. "
I find the only ones close to impervious to manipulation are sociopaths. In my experiences/observations people tend to insecurities/tendencies/habits etc that can be manipulated. Different views.

[Asker]

almost all women can manipulate all men. Who am I kidding? ALL.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

I disagree that men are wanting children less--they are wanting marriage less, for a variety of societal reasons. Our biological motivations haven't changed, just our relationship to societal conventions. As for the desirability of the sexes at various ages, that isn't just my opinion, there is research on that. Men's preferred partner age remains around women in their early 20s (fertility link), whereas women prefer men closer to their age, but peaks around male age 35-40 (again, a fertility link). That said, what is true of a population at large may not be true for individuals, so there's plenty of room for disagreement on the personal level--plus, cultural changes also play a factor in shifting behavior, but that doesn't change biological preference (people can simply override biological impulses because of the ability to think and choose).

[Asker]

You're arguing with a woman dude. wtf.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

"Meh I find that depends on the individuals I know plenty of strong outcome independent guys and gals who manipulate each other. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't:

Again, I would argue the difference between influence and manipulation. Going along with someone else's desires does not mean that your personal agency was overridden. I could be wrong, but I sense a touch of jaded thinking from you regarding this. Perhaps I simply have a more optimistic view of people.

"I find the only ones close to impervious to manipulation are sociopaths. In my experiences/observations people tend to insecurities/tendencies/habits etc that can be manipulated. Different views."
I agree sociopaths are more immune to manipulation and influence--they obviously run on different emotional wiring. That said, people who are not sociopaths, while they may be more susceptible to manipulation, are not by any logical necessity people who can or will be manipulated.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

I think it's a bit cynical to believe too strongly in manipulation. It comes dangerously close to denying a person's personal agency--while humans obviously can be manipulated, we are also ultimately responsible for our own choices and actions, and believing too strongly in another's persons ability to manipulate comes close to saying "he/she made me do it, he/she is responsible for the outcome of the chain of events, not me."

This is one reason why I disagree with many social theories--too much abdication of personal responsibility for an individual, too much blame on others.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

@asker
I find her difference in opinion and perspective interesting and wanted to explore it. I hardly consider this an "argument." I like learning from other people, and it never hurts to challenge one's own assumptions and perspectives.

And stop being so fatalistic and extreme on women being manipulators, it's unfair to them, it's unattractive, and it doesn't help you get better with women.

[Asker]

I'm okay with women and only use them for sex. If I stay too long the shit beings...

[udolipixie]

@Asker
I highly doubt almost all gals can manipulate guys. More likely it's almost all gals can manipulate some guys. Many gals I know are unaware of how to manipulate a person. If anything I find gals generally 'barter' for sex ala I'll do X if you give me Y which seemingly guys see as manipulation rather than a transaction.

[udolipixie]

@ScruffyNerfHerder
You can disagree all you want however it doesn't change the assertion of studies. .. o. O Non-US countries like Britain have been the only ones I've read where the guys aren't declining in their desire for children. In fact in Britain studies claim men more than gals want kids. psychcentral.com/.../53416.html

The desirability of the sexes at various ages seems to be just your opinion as the research I've read shows gals prefer guys older than them not closer to their age.. at least for America.. Hence why the average American couple is the guy being 5 years older. So gals desirability doesn't really plummet as guys being attracted to and getting younger gals is a wash as gals are generally attracted to and getting older guys. A 40 old guy may desire a 20 year old but a 30 year old is likely good as well. A 50 year old guy may desire a 20 year old but a 30 year old is likely good as well and a 40 year old is likely okay too.

[udolipixie]

@ScruffyNerfHerder
I'm unsure how you argue the difference between influence and manipulation for scenarios you know nothing about. o. O I witnessed them, I know the guys/gals involved, and it was manipulation playing on insecurities/habits/traits/vices.

"That said, people who are not sociopaths, while they may be more susceptible to manipulation, are not by any logical necessity people who can or will be manipulated. "
I'm unsure why you're stating this as I didn't state non sociopaths are people who can be or will be manipulated. I did state alphas aren't impervious to manipulation and the only ones I find close to impervious are sociopaths.

That's not stating 'non sociopaths can/will be manipulated' it's stating 'alphas aren't incapable of being manipulated'.

[udolipixie]

@ScruffyNerfHerder
Meh I see nothing cynical in believing in manipulation as I see it as creating a context/scenario geared to controlling a person something that seemingly happens daily.

In my opinion believing in manipulation only "comes dangerously close to denying a person's personal agency" for those who leap to manipulation means not responsible. You may have done something because of the context/setup by the manipulation but you did it the manipulators not to blame. I kind of see it as revealing a person's true character sort of like asking guys would they rape if there were no consequences for him.

[sugarvenomx]

Alpha males are the easiest to manipulate ever. It's all about their ego and their hardon not much upstairs.

It's omegas girls watch her back with

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for replying.

What kind of things do you manipulate them for? And do they seem to mind... Because I wouldn't mind doing a lot of things if my ego and hardon was taken care of, you know? I'd love to hear more about this :D

[sugarvenomx]

Well I'm borderline so emotional manipulation is kinda my forte lol. Guys that think they're got shit... I have no respect for. They're narcissists who only like to dominate on a superficial level because it makes them feel good about themselves. You just have to use sex and flattery really.. and play off like you're dumber than you are

[Asker]

Yeah but what do you manipulate them FOR? Why do you do it and what do you get, you know? Are they RELUCTANT to do this for you without manipulation?

I know the kind of guys you're talking about. I'm probably one of them and I get shaming tactics/mischaracterization/bitch behavior all the time... though it's getting better as I'm learning more about the world outside my beloved mom's basement :P

[sugarvenomx]

I manipulate them for me lol. I'm not a golddigger if that's what you mean. It's an emotional thing for me I guess. I get off on manipulating people and I don't know why.

It's why I have a hard time finding guys I really like because Im most attracted to a guy who I respect who I genuinely can't manipulate and who is actually able to be dominant with me (not just physically)

[Asker]

nono.. i wasn't trying to call you a gold digger at all! I can understand that you get off on it, but how do you manipulate them emotionally? I hope you don't mind explaining, but I would really like to know.

I'm a bit of a noob as far as this stuff goes. I think that all men can be manipulated so you won't find one.

But others say that alpha males cannot be manipulated so I guess you're not talking about alpha males

[sugarvenomx]

Well it's complicated. It's just making people say and think and feel and even do the things you want them to. It can be little things or big things. It's one of those things that just comes naturally to some people and you do it without even realizing

For me I'm a bit if an emotional vampire. If I latch on to a certain guy I use what it takes to pull him in and make him take care of me emotionally without giving him much or anything I don't want to in return. It's a severe problem with me tbh.

[sugarvenomx]

I can think of two guys in particular I strung along like this for a loong time. I felt nothing, they were in love. They thought I loved them but I didn't.

I'm a bad person in some ways

[TonyRyan]

Crap, she knows we exist o. o. back to the drawing board...

[Asker]

But the thing is that do they seem to mind when you make them feel a certain way? If they do, how do these alpha males react? I know that most girls just do it unconsciously and have to make a conscious effort not to manipulate a guy who they really love.

What kind of things do you make people DO? And even think and say... please explain it some more if you have the time of course. I really want to know how things work cuz I'm not that experienced with girls as you may know.

Thing is, I'd do almost anything for a girl if you stroked my ego and gave me good sex. What else is there in life?

I run from girls who crush egos. And you can do it very easily, iirc. Do you agree?

[sugarvenomx]

Just... know what to look for. first of all I almost always warn guys about myself at the start. I'm like... I'm really fucked up and ruin people emotionally with mind games and they just think I'm damaged.. which I am. So I just always end up slipping back into the pattern cuz they make it so easy... they think I'm just this doe in the woods who needs saving.

if you meet a girl who gives you platitudes and is overtly sexually available but also seems troubled and is very hot n cold and makes you take care of her emotionally.. and makes you feel addicted.. just run lol. Cuz there's lots of girls like me out there.

Also like I said... if I CAN manipulate a guy I can NOT love him. Which is why it's hard for me to fall in love. I need someone better at my own game then me who I'M addicted to and that's hard to find

[Asker]

I'd personally not mind doing most things for a girl if you took care of my hardon and ego. I'd do almost anything then and I love doing things for girls/helping them... like most guys... I think you're fine in that respect... And most people are damaged in more ways than one

What do you mean "emotionally ruin"? Because that's something I'm scared of tbh

[sugarvenomx]

Well because everything ends right? And for me it can get pretty nasty. That night you look a guy you don't feel like you need anymore right in the eye and say.. I don't love you I never loved you. You're just really sad and pathetic now pleas leave me alone.

It's like a house of cards you know? It just all comes falling down. Apparently guys I've dated have called me "evil" after I ended things and I've made so many people hate me its not even funny. But the sad thing is some literally never get it

[sugarvenomx]

But see I'm honest I say all this stuff! But people just don't believe me cuz my face:\

[Virulent]

"It's omegas girls watch her back with", the weakest of the weak? That's weird.

[Asker]

Why do you keep these guys you never loved around in the first place? Or do you just say that you never loved them to manipulate their emotions?

What do they literally never "get"? Cuz I want to be one of those who get it. I get that women are the emotionally dominant sex yeah... but not much else lol

[Asker]

Thanks for being honest

[sugarvenomx]

@Virulent I meant sigma I get the two confused.

Tbh I think you'd be one of the guys who doesn't get it Asker lol. It's mind games and its just how some people function and it's not fun

[Virulent]

Oh humans and your silly "designations". Who comes up with this shit?

[sugarvenomx]

@Virulent its just a word really I don't take it that seriously.

[Asker]

Please help me sugarvenom! I really want to get what the other guys you talked about never get. I thought it's fun for you girls because you always win

[yellowmamba024]

How exactly are alpha males the easiest to manipulate? If you don't mind me asking. I have been hearing day in and day out that alpha males are the biggest challenge to women.

[Asker]

hahaha... I wanna know this too

[Drake]

yes, cause alpha males are known to fight for someone or something. If they dont and threat it like garbage thats considered a jerk or an asshole. An alpha male will pursue you, but will be less affected if you would tell him no. He will see it as a new curve in his "process". An alpha male knows you can't get power over someones actions and reaction, but you can intimidate and proclaim powers by sending out verbal and non verbal messages. an alpha male will be bothered if you started leading him on or something in that figure, but he will have the balls to ask you;why you do it, and that you should stop doing cause it will only hurt you in the further future

[Asker]

So alpha males can be manipulated, but have the balls to not be manipulated?

[Drake]

na, if theyre being manipulated, they call the girl our for being playing with;seeing it as immature or the girl having her own personal issues. Everyone can be manipulated.

[Asker]

But she will deny it and delude him or whatever.

[Drake]

no, her first reaction would be indeed:not true/denying. Than she'd be caught in her own games. Now the trick is to say nothing and let her "return". As she will see, youve broken her protection shield.

[Jack-Shepard]

Yes they do, and they do it silently while the alpha male thinks he is not being manipulated, that's the worst form of mind fucking because she implanting ideas in your head and make you think that they're yours... just like the movie Inception, they use a lot of tricks to get to behave, mostly its the reward and punishment strategy, where she throws you a bone when you're good and withdraw sex when you're not...

but don't worry it only takes one time to know how to reverse it and play them even harder.

[Asker]

We can beat them at it? How? Girls in their 30s 40s 50s play their men like bitches

[Jack-Shepard]

Yes because their men let them, we can always beat them at their game, its all about finding their weakness, that one thing that makes them go nuts, and then reverse the rewards punishment system while willingly letting her play you, so she'd think she is still in control and she is still playing you while in fact you are the one who is playing her, its harder than it seems, and this is why most men end up being being played so hard, but if you managed to pull it off, that's it.

[Asker]

How do you find her weakness? How can you use training while letting her play you :/

[Asker]

So women are better than most men right?

[Jack-Shepard]

Well i don't know how to find her weakness its different from one women to another, you have to pay attention to what sets her off and try to use it and see what happens.

I wouldn't use the word training it implies that you're trying to alter her personality and that's not what i'm talking about, this subject is so complicated i could write you a book to explain the idea, but let me just summarize it to you, "Let her play you, so she doesn't get bored, and find what is it that she wants the most and use it to your advantage", for us men the thing that we want the most is sex and its the first thing that women use against us, if you found that thing she is so important to her, you found her weakness.

[Asker]

Damn.. I don't know really what to say. I'm not good at this stuff... the process seems like a mountain to climb

[Jack-Shepard]

It is, and i'm sorry but i couldn't explain it more, its really complicated... if you find your girlfriend to be that manipulative its easier for you to break up with her and find another girl than to spot her weakness and go through that process, its painful and time consuming, all i want you to know is that if you set your mind to beat them at their own game, you will be successful but at what cost !!!

[Asker]

how much time do you think it'll take me to learn most of it or a good amount? Thanks for your advice!

[Jack-Shepard]

I'm not quite sure, if you are in a relationship right now, and you believe you are being played, then it shouldn't take more than 2-3 months for you to start noticing the results, but if she finds out you're playing her you're up for some serious shit. you're quite welcome and i'm glad i could help.

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing: life is about having options. If you've got options, you're in the driver's seat. If you don't you're going to get driven.

Is you're current employer the only option you have for a job? Then don't expect a raise or a promotion anytime soon. If you have someone else willing to pay you more THEN you have a shot at advancing. Same thing holds true with dating. If there's only one girl you've got a shot with, then she can easily manipulate you if she chooses to. But if you have other options--if there's another girl or two or three that you have just around the corner, then you're not nearly as susceptible to manipulation.

This is where a guy who has good dating options (maybe this is what you mean when you say alpha) is in much better shape than a guy who has few dating options (your beta guy).

[Anonymous]

Currently dating a womanizer, successful, powerful, charming, and all of that. He thinks he's using me, what he doesn't know is that I'm using him without him knowing. I found him believing my lies. He thinks I'm an innocent girl and he's the one who's been fooling me.

[Asker]

Since you're anonymous, could you please give the details on what he thinks he's using you for and what you're actually using him for? What kind of lies and how does he think he's been fooling you?

[Opinion Owner]

He thinks I really love him, he's handsome and does the best sex, has the best dick, loyal, cares about him. I'm actually staying because he has been paying my bills. He cheats on me, he thinks I'm staying because I believe, trust him and love him.

[Asker]

Sounds like a pretty fair exchange to me.. I mean I'd take care of a girl that made me believe all that.. and when it's over I wouldn't be upset because I've been lying too.. I might be upset at losing money though lol.

Do you also cook and clean and do the chores?

[Opinion Owner]

Of course not lmao

[Opinion Owner]

We don't live together but he pays for my bills.

[Asker]

even so, it's still worth it for the guy in my opinion. Ego is the main thing for us along with sex. When you leave and say "it was never this way" we just assume that you're being nasty. But yes it hurts :/

But it feels good when I think about all you had to fake just to make me do something lol. I don't know... but I do think the girl scores a one-up eventually...

[Asker]

I'm assuming he uses you for sex when he wants

[Opinion Owner]

Not really. He has to be there when I want him. And he has always been there. And one time he left work because I had some problems.

[Asker]

So you really do control him and use him? But I'm sure if that is the case, what he's getting in return makes it enough for him. Otherwise why do you think he'd stay?

[Opinion Owner]

Even so, I still manipulated him and in this whole situation I sacrifice the least?

[Asker]

Correct. Do you think he's aware that he sacrifices more and do you think he minds if he does know? Maybe he gains a lot more than you so it equal out the sacrifice. Just a theory but you're probably still 1upping him lol

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think so, otherwise he would leave. He's a very strong guy. He always questions why would a girl like me want to be with a guy like him though.

[Asker]

But it's so obvious... how could he not know? What have you done to his mind? lol.

What are your thoughts about that reward = sacrifice theory? Cuz it seems to be the case if he says "a girl like you" you know?

[Asker]

sorry if I seem a bit reluctant to accept this fact because I find it quite depressing.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not sure I understand what you mean

[Opinion Owner]

I simply seems very innocent to him. And always manage to comfort him when he has doubts. One time I said something to him I didn't mean to manipulate him, but it turned out to be one.

[Asker]

What I mean is that it's depressing that we men have to always sacrifice more. Or at least most of the time. But I'd like to believe that periods/pregnancy/physical strength cancels it out in the grand scheme of things... though I'm not so sure... feel free to tell me the truth because I really like to seek the truth no matter how harsh you know?

I also feel that the male of the species is there to provide for the female so... yeah I don't know lol

[Opinion Owner]

Hm? Isn't it out of the topic?

[Asker]

Yeah, it is on the surface. But not deep down. Sorry if I'm getting a bit too involved I've just been fucked over so many times that I'm looking for ways to have a one-up on girls instead of always being the person who always sacrificed more

[Opinion Owner]

Forgiven.

[Asker]

Why are you ignoring me now? I'm just so sad that it's this way... That I have to sacrifice more always

[Megalodon]

You and your boyfriend sound like shitty people.

[OHGEE]

Oh not the "innocent girl lie"! That one is a classic.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that's what I was siming for- shitty people

[JackKerouac77]

What if alpha/beta/omega is a collective delusion imposed on us by the scientific establishment to distract us from our great purpose as intelligent stewards of the universe?

[Asker]

This should have been posted with a meme image... lol

[kopperheadroad]

We do and i dont do it on purpose, i was raised in a way that good girls are se en and not heard but latley im becoming aware that im not submissive, but i have no intrest in mind fucking or manipulating anybody but i do unconciously.

[Asker]

Most of the time it's unconscious for everybody, but that unconscious part often becomes conscious and it really fucks the other guy over... and over...

get it?

[been_waiting]

I don't manipulate anyone. And every guy I've ever encountered who believes this alpha shit is just conceited and has the IQ of a goldfish

[Asker]

yeah right

[been_waiting]

Ok buddy 😂

[Asker]

Yup. OK.

[playdatesx]

No, she's right lol. The less goldfish-like term would be "males with a dominant and confident personality" not "alpha male"---it sounds kind of silly.

[yellowmamba024]

We need more girls to think like that. Unfortunately, we don't.

[been_waiting]

@yellowmamba024 think like what

[yellowmamba024]

That this alpha shit is just conceited.

[been_waiting]

@yellowmamba024 I think the majority do.

[bubble_tea]

please don't insult goldfishes :/

[been_waiting]

@bubble_tea my apologies 😂

[BelleGirl21]

Easily done. You just have to caress their gigantic egos.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for replying.

What kind of things do you manipulate them for? And do they seem to mind and be reluctant to be "manipulated"... Because I wouldn't mind doing a lot of things if my ego and hardon was taken care of, you know.

[BelleGirl21]

Hopefully they wouldn't know they're being manipulated. I don't do it for anything sinister, just stuff like what movie to watch or where to eat or what I want to buy. There's not a huge need for it once you're married. Taking care of them sexually does help lol.

[Asker]

I wouldn't mind doing any of that for my girl if she gave me the things I asked for in return which is nothing more than stroke ego and cock... I love doing things for girls actually...

I just have the problem that sometimes they confuse me during arguments or use shaming tactics. Try to convince me that my name is jake or something lol.

But then again, they're doing the opposite of stroking my ego so these are the girls I should stay away from right? Do you also "win" arguments with alpha males?

[BelleGirl21]

You can't always stroke their egos Jake! Sometimes you have to confuse them a bit. I almost, almost won every argument :)

[Asker]

And I've almost, almost lost every argument. lol. You guys are pretty scary and the dominant sex for sure, in my opinion. As I suspected Women > Alpha Males. It's just a law of nature so no boo fucking hoo on my part lol. Maybe our species depends on men getting manipulated.

Can you recall something you confused a guy for? Have you ever crushed an ego?

Do you think I should start dumping girls when they start damaging my ego?

[BelleGirl21]

Sure. I manipulated one guy on here into giving me most helpful ;)
I would never crush an ego. I want my way but I don't think I'm better than anyone else.
I don't know how healthy your ego is. If it's easily damaged you might want to hold off on dumping every girl that rubs you the wrong way.

[Asker]

I've also been "manipulated" into that but I like "giving" so that was fine with me.

Again it's all about healthy ego I guess, but this is also decided by girls in my opinion. We are like putty in your hands even though we do kinda have a mind of our own if you know what I mean lol

[Anonymous]

I've played players. I've dated naturally dominant men and manipulated them. I had what they wanted, that's the simple fact of the matter. I had what they couldn't get elsewhere and I used that to my advantage.

[Asker]

Why did you manipulate them and what did you gain? Like I've mentioned before in this question I'd do about anything for a girl if she stroked my ego and gave me sex... as would most guys so what "manipulation" could go on?

Sorry I'm a bit of a noob

[Opinion Owner]

I manipulated them because they wanted to play games. If they want to play then I will play, but I will win. Mental and emotional manipulation. Using sex as leverage. I'm not someone to take advantage ofis good person but ill happily give someone a taste of their own medicine. Turn the tables for a change.

[Asker]

Thanks for replying! I still haven't got what you mean by emotional and mental manipulation and what do they do to deserve it?

How do you WIN eventually?

[Opinion Owner]

I win because I end up being the one calling the shots. The one in control, something which they are used to being. They were people who usually manipulated other people to get what they wanted.

[Asker]

Call the shots on what? Surely you had to give something in return like sex or ego stroke... or did they just submit after a series of mindgames? lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah sex. We were having non-commited sexual relations.

[Asker]

So there. It's a pretty fair exchange then, only that the guy has to get burned slightly more but then it's sex that is our main goal

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah sex is the main goal for me and him in this scenario.

[Asker]

What about calling the shots? Do you think sex is more important to you or him?

[Asker]

sorry if I seem a bit reluctant to accept this fact because I find it quite depressing.

[Opinion Owner]

In those situations it was more important to him. Heplaced more importance on the relationship than I did.

[Asker]

so maybe the situation is fair then? Because of the rewards he gets.

Sorry, lol.

[Opinion Owner]

No because they usually ended up wanting more than just sex and that wasn't what I was after. They end up allowing themselves to be used for sex by me just so they can keep seeing me. Because they aren't strong enough to walk away.

[Asker]

In the end it all boils down to options. Guys have many many times less options so we put up with everything. I've done it myself.

They say that the alpha males has many options so I guess you're not talking about alphas?

[Opinion Owner]

Thay were guys who didn't have any problems getting women. I'm not like most women apparently. That's my USP.

[Asker]

lol cool beans :D I'm a former mass communication student too.

They say that the alpha male realizes that women aren't that different so maybe they weren't alpha? I don't know. I'm just so scared of getting into this shit. I just have one night stands these days and hang out with my mates. But I'm not alpha so I DESIRE the companionship of women... their approval and stuff...

damn. I'll probably give in soon XD

[Opinion Owner]

I don't buy into this Alpha shit.

[Asker]

it's a generalization. An alpha possesses a set of qualities or a part of a skill set.

Anyway do you know how good it feels for me (Betaish) to get the approval of women? VERY GOOD :D

[OHGEE]

Yeah I don't really buy into that alpha shit either. I don't play games with women but some just want to give them to you anyways. I do it the other way around. I give the women a taste of their own medicine. I just end up walking away because I can't stand that shit.

[OHGEE]

It's like these people make out these "legendary" "alpha males" to be supermen or something. They have no flaws. They do no wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

@OHGEE any dude who uses other people and detaches himself from others has issues. He isn't amazing, he's a slut making up for other areas where he feels unloved or inadequate. If he were a woman he'd be called a slut. He just isn't able to make reaconncections so tries to dominate his way through life.

[Asker]

wow slut shaming men? lol.

[Opinion Owner]

If he were a woman he would be called a slut.

[Asker]

Only women can be sluts. And only women seem to have a problem with sluts... men love them unless they're having his babies.

[Opinion Owner]

No and no. There are so many slut shaming and hating men on here, sooo many. Really nasty about it to I have experience.

And slut is a label, anyone can use it and apply it to who ever they like. I call some men slutty. If they are!

[Asker]

Only women can be sluts. Studies have proven that men DO NOT slut shame, only women do

[Opinion Owner]

Studies are wrong! I've been shamed by men, here on this website. they do it all the time. I'm not saying women don't but men DEFINITELY do. I don't care what you say.

[Asker]

Why should your "caring" matter to anyone especially after you reject studies and sound like a know it all?

[Opinion Owner]

You didn't provide me with any studies and your claim is totally proposterus. It implies you are speaking for every man on the planet which just makes you sound silly and foolish. Why should I care about your totally unbacked up and false claims?

[Asker]

Ok I'll direct you - Go to www.google.com and type in "men don't slut shame". Get educated and then only come back here if at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Dude... That is in no way a study, that is laughable! Seriously? You actually think that constitutes proof? Wow. I'm going to guess you never went to college or university if that's what you consider evidence.. IS google search!

[Asker]

Seems like you're the only one ridiculing it. If there are a few others you are in a significantly huge minority.

[Asker]

ad hominem shaming tactics and mischaracterizations won't get this debate anywhere.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope... There are loads of people who see a Google search as not evidence. You're argument is a total joke if this is what all your info is based on. Wow. So weak.

[Asker]

I didn't say google search was evidence. Another mischaracterization. I was talking about the search results.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know what this ad hom bs is. I have shamed you, and rightly so because you're claiming you have proof and yet fail to provide me with even the tiniest snippet of information from a proper source.

You told me to Google search when I asked for proof of your claimed studies. Where are these studies you speak of? Ad hom all you like, you're still the one failing to back up your claims.

[Opinion Owner]

I asked you for evidence of your claimed studies. YOU told me to Google search.

[Asker]

studies have been performed by prestigious universities and google is a great portal to get to them

[Opinion Owner]

Stop playing the victim with every response.

[Asker]

I know what happened, why are you treating me like I'm stupid?

[Asker]

No, I did not deserve to be shamed. I'm shocked at how you can even say this, but then again nothing women say shocks me anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Because you're acting like it and trying to be nasty to me. I understand now, you're annoyed because I didn't get played by alpha males, you're annoyed because I have manipulated men and you can't deal with it. It doesn't fit into your view of the world according to Google.

[Asker]

I am not playing the victim. But if you want to prove it go ahead. Give me a valid, logical argument with reasoning and deduction.

[Asker]

Google was for slut shaming, not for the thing we were talking about earlier (manipulation). What you do doesn't bother me in the least. But what women do to men in general, bothers me a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

You're shocked, you aren't shocked, you provide evidence then it isn't. You claim victim then change your mind.

I'm done here. when you make up your mind what you are shocked about, what claims you are making etc then maybe I'll return to discuss things with you, but right now you can't even seem to stick to one point and make up claims so I'm not playing with you anymore.

Bye bye

[Asker]

I have not change my mind on anything. But if you want to prove that I have, I invite you to present me with facts and logical reasoning.

I'm not discussing my "shock" with you at all. Assuming my shock exists, that is.

But you already know all this. Good bye then.

[Solenn]

i voted B.. it's just not in my personality. if i don't like what he is doing then goodbye. i don't have some hidden agenda or something. for me it's a waste of time and energy.

[Asker]

lol yeah right.

[Solenn]

okay :)

[Asker]

Don't okay me :(

[Anonymous]

I don't believe in the alpha/beta dichotomy, but you still hear a lot about powerful men having crazy ass wives. Maybe even more so, because two high energy, high stakes types are often drawn to each other. Ex: a NFL quarterback dating a supermodel.

[Asker]

Exactly. What do you get when you do it and do they seem to mind? Because I wouldn't mind doing a lot of things if my dick and my ego was taken care of by a girl...

[Opinion Owner]

I have no idea, personally. I think some people just love the high drama roller coaster ride or something.

[Opinion Owner]

That same kind of peoole love, say, high risk business interactions for that same thrill.

[Asker]

Being 30-35, I am surprised at how you have no idea. Are you just too busy to explain? I completely understand, if that's the case because this is complicated stuff

[Opinion Owner]

I don't get why those games appeal to people, is why I don't understand. It's more of a personality thing. If all the girls you date like it, you like something about it too, I'd say.

[Asker]

You're right

[lePoivre]

I've never been with a guy who considers himself to be "alpha," but I would assume that if you're a girl who is happily with one of those guys, you have to be as good at manipulating him as he is you.

[Asker]

is he even close to being as good as you? lol

[lePoivre]

Whom are we speaking of?

[Asker]

we're speaking of the groups men and women, and generalizing accurately. So the alpha will never be as good as a woman because he's still a man

[lePoivre]

Lol no I would not say that. Men and women are capable of being equally skilled manipulators, but I find that it's more common in women because we tend to take less direct routes to get what we want. Men are typically more inclined to just "go for it."

[Anonymous]

Yes i can manipulate an alpha male easily. It can be a longer process with them. The fact that they aren't too bright usually makes this a breeze for me. Even an intelligent alpha male can be manipulated.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for replying.

What kind of things do you manipulate them for? And do they seem to mind or seem reluctant?

[Opinion Owner]

They have no idea what im doing. My reasons are really shitty. Sometimes i feel bad, but when i think about it, its almost like they had it coming. Most recently someone assumed that i could be tagged along and that i didn't know what i wanted for myself. I didn't show or express any weaknesses because i did know what i wanted and it wasn't what he wanted. I even warned him, but being not too bright he did pick up on that. It wasn't a subtle warning either. I honestly told him what i was looking for when i connect with people. Not a relationship and not a game and definitely not to be played with like a lost little puppy. His pride clouded his judgment and i find arrogance a little repulsive.
i say a little because not everyone broadcasts it the way he did.

[Asker]

How can you call what you did above "manipulation"? Cuz it seems straightforward to me :/ He was trying to manipulate you if anything.

Can you give as examples of pure underhand, undetected manipulation? And what have you gained from it? What are your shitty reasons... if I dare ask

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah he didn't understand me. He continued to try to manipulate so i just did it back out of spite. Spite seems like a shitty reason to me lol
pure underhanded, hmmm... its been a while since i feel that is the worst type of manipulation. Maybe when i was a teenager. I can not think of a specific reason other than personal gain. What goes around comes around and i learned my lesson. These days i just try to teach people a lesson about how others are treated. I warn people first not to talk to friends or family in condescending ways and uf they dont listen then i get in their head... they pissed me off And im clearly not a forgiving person. For men, i can not stand to see a man treat a woman like an object. I can tolerate it for a certain time, but if they fuck with my head or any other woman i care about i will just mind fuck them even harder right back. They never know. The scary part for me is that it comes so wonderfully natural and takes literally takes no effort.

[Asker]

I don't understand how you manipulated him though. Sounds like a straightforward affair to me.

How do you mindfuck them and what are the results of this mind fuck? I also feel like it comes so naturally to you and us guys are almost hardwired to fall for this stuff... because we're a little stupid in that regard though it doesn't look nice saying that lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol well that may have been a mild example. Like i said i feel bad when i do it because i rather people think for themselves.
You find their weaknesses, simple. How do you feel men are hardwired to fall for this?

[Asker]

Because it has been known for thousands of years. Even the great Adam fell for Eve's manipulation because she knew his weakness... ie aloneness...

But everybody has weaknesses, so it's possible for everyone to be manipulated. Mostly guys though because guys don't really care about manipulating girls and they're not good at it either lol.

Can you please tell me how you mindfuck and what are the results of the mindfuck? I'm not judging you at all. I think you're a good person actually, and no I'm not saying this to manipulate you into telling me stuff. I mean, at least you're truthful and I give props for that.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol thanks for the props at least. It's hard to explain without a specific situation and it would be long. Earning trust is a big move though. The results are always exactly what i wanted them to be. The lesson to be learned. I'll teach you a lesson about money, sex, knowledge, family... etc. Sometimes it's not the weaknesses that need attention but the strengths. Especially for a man with an outrageous ego. Like others have said, a little stroking will do. To play on one strengths though involves quite the intellectual dance, though, and can be very satisfying in the end. Just knowing the level of power you hold over another is satisfying. It's a chess game. So i live in the shadows, I'm a lonely person, the quiet type... which I'm sure you've heard to keep an eye on the quiet ones lol

[Asker]

lol not really I'm pretty quiet myself XD

So it's like a little stroking and then a little crushing? What "lesson" are you talking about? All a girl has ever manipulated me into doing against my will is feeling shitty about myself. The rest has all been willing and I certainly haven't learned any lesson against my will because I classify that person as dumb in my mind and just "tune out"

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever the shitty feeling was, did you think about that feeling? Where it came from? What feeling is it and where did it end? If your head doesn't spin off into a place its never been then the lesson wasn't learned. I leave people thinking really hard about the deepest and most complicated of emotions so they can understand what they do that affects others around them. If you start getting greedy with your money Then i encourage your greed until you are broke. If you are arrogant i set you up for humiliation, this one must be underhanded and extremely discreet or the pride won't take a hit. i can not manioilate someone who doesn't deserve it and some ladies do it because they can and makes them powerful, that is immature in my opinion and i personally fuck with them. I dont like immature chicks manipulating men for power, its rude. Im smarter than they are and i will teach them how smart they really aren't. Im not gonna lie, i dont feel guilty about that one lol

[Asker]

So you're really doing them a favor if I got that correctly. Which is completely fine though.

But I get scared when girls blow the shame thing our of proportion. I'm a little unsure of myself as far as my weaknesses are concerned so this one really affects be badly.

The rest is all fine, really. Can you tell me though, how you use underhand tactics to shame... and if its even possible to not be putty in a girl's hands in some way?

To answer your question not really, but a girl can often make me see and change my life for the better. I find that even if the lesson is wrong the girl can teach me the lesson lol.

I read once that according to some ancient philosophy the masculine is like a blank screen upon which the feminine projects her film.

[Opinion Owner]

underhanded shame tactic lol is a reverse psychology. I am different in that i can see what is hidden before i see the person you are showing me. I can't say the same for others although i know they are out there!
I can't answer that putty one because i am smart and sexy, bf's want to leave their gf's for me. That pisses me off and puts me in a strange position, so i just observe it carefully when that happens... quite often really. That philosophy seems legit!

[Asker]

is it just me or can you actually delude a guy and make him feel far more ashamed and insecure about something that he should?

Cuz that happens to me and I can't seem to do anything about it because you girls just have a way of putting things you know? lol

[Opinion Owner]

It is possible and bitches do delude. Mostly because it seems that you might just do that again, whatever you should feel ashamed about it. It happens to everyone. Build an inner defense. The reason you feel the shame, sit with that feeling until you understand. Sometimes, girls just go on a guilt trip rant because we think with our emotions. So, just know that it isn't rational, but listen so she will eventually shut up. Dont feed the bad wolf you know?

[Asker]

No inner defense is perfect and a girl can find the weakness eventually. There have been instances where I knew that I shouldn't be ashamed and it was a completely normal thing, but I still felt it.

[Opinion Owner]

I know that feeling. It's from the other person.

[Asker]

was it a girl who did this to you or a guy? It's helplessness felt after being social outmaneuvered I think

[Opinion Owner]

My mother

[Asker]

my mother too! lol. But yea some girls have done it to me and guys too. It doesn't really affect me as much as my mother for some strange reason.

[Opinion Owner]

One of my best guy friends had done that to me, it fucked me up for a while. He want a real friend and didn't think very highly of me, he must have thought i might make him look bad somehow.

[Opinion Owner]

I can only date an alpha as a result, a really fucking smart one. I let him keep me in check. I am attracted to power.

[Asker]

how can he keep you in check if you can manipulate him easily?

[Opinion Owner]

Key words: i let him

[Asker]

You have all the power then :/

[Opinion Owner]

Scary right? At least I'm a good person, I'm using these powers for good not evil. Like i said, i learned my lesson long ago.

[Asker]

Nobody cares about your lies really, it's only your exes that are hurting lol. And any current could testify too

[Opinion Owner]

Having a bad day?

[Asker]

uhh yeah

[Megalodon]

it would be nice for people just to be honest. It's pathetic and obvious when a girl thinks she can manipulate you because she is female.
Shitty people doing shitty things.

[Asker]

it is the way it is and all girls can do this even unconsiously

[Anonymous]

"There's a saying..."

No there isn't. Who made this up?

[Asker]

I don't know.. I've just seen it many times on the internet so I thought that I must be a saying lol

[Opinion Owner]

Nah. Don't even think about it. All this is joke.

[Asker]

So Women > Alpha males? Because quite a few agree that women do manipulate alphas too

[Opinion Owner]

Nah. Women don't manipulate anything. Men manipulate themselves into the arms of women. If a woman says "I am too good for you" it's relatively easy to shrug and move on. I never understood this whole implicit silent war nonsense of reading signs and signals. You're with it or you're not.

[Asker]

Plenty of men have got manipulated by their wives and gfs. The weapons they use are many including crying, making the guy angry to play his victim, shaming tactics, mischaracterization etc. Eventually a guy gets confused, his defenses start to give in and he keeps going with it because the changes are so small and imperceptible that he keeps "letting go" and finally when 1000 such changes have been made he's too far lost to be saved.

That's what I've heard and witnessed in a personal relationship I had as well :/ Then again I can't say I'm the alpha

[Opinion Owner]

Are you saying all women are tax lawyers?

I've never experienced this. I've changed for partners but never lost myself in the process. Which is actually more of a problem than not since I'm... me.

[Asker]

Wish I had the same confidence in myself as you :/

[Opinion Owner]

Haha, trust me, you don't want it.

[Anonymous]

Once girls find an alpha males' weakness, they use it to their advantage and completely fuck them over. It's a huge satisfaction for a lot of girls to put guys down and if it's an alpha male, it's a way bigger satisfaction.

[Asker]

That's what I've heard as well, but I can't imagine how it goes. Can you give an example if such a situation, if that's okay?

I've seen girls getting quite satisfied after putting down guys

[Anonymous]

Yes because alpha males are the stupid ones. Easy to manipulate.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for replying.

What kind of things do you manipulate them for? And do they seem to mind when you manipulate them or show reluctance?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't manipulate men. (I know this for a fact since I haven't dated once, nor do I associate with men a lot)
You better ask someone else.
But if I had to quess, maybe for money, clothes, to do favours etc.

[Asker]

I'd do all of that for my girl willingly... if she boosted my ego and gave sex when I wanted (or gave sex at any time at all, cuz I could be out of options at times)

[Opinion Owner]

You seem to be one of the stupid beta males who are willing to act like a doormat as long as they get sex and have that armcandy next to them.

Well if that's what you want...

[Asker]

better to be a willing doormat than to be a doormat without even knowing it, wouldn't you say? lol

[Opinion Owner]

Makes no difference to me.

[Powderpuff97]

How would you know if a player/ manipulator actually cares for you or how would you know if you got played

[HoneyButterCup525]

I never succeeded in playing one... i mean player are professional...

[Asker]

lol really? wow.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Well yeah... players are professional scum bags who play with other girls feeling just to get what they want and screw around with all types of girls...

So can't really fuck with there heads cause they have high egos..

Basically players are full of shit... ha.

[Asker]

lol. wow, I'm sorry to hear that. But it seems like the majority of girls are successful at beating players at their own game though

[HoneyButterCup525]

My guy was a real professional and I really do hate him... and yes I'm reading other girls answers but to me it seem some of those player ACTUALLY cared or at least a bit for them which is why they got manipulate/ mindfucked.

My guy didn't even care 1% for me..

[Asker]

Damn...

I'm that kind of guy, who just wants to use girls and have nothing to do with them later on. How can I do this without hurting them?

[HoneyButterCup525]

And buy the way some of the girls who are claiming to beat players at there game I wouldn't claim them much of players... Players ONLY care for them self's and no one else...

[HoneyButterCup525]

You can't you will eventually hurt them.. ...

[Asker]

Cmon there must be a way! I mean, like finding a girl who only wants sex.

I don't know, the girls seem pretty confident on this one, judging by the results.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Well I was in it for the sex too but what I didn't appreciate is how he dropped like a pear of old shoes and didn't feel valued as a person

And ofcourse our girly thought of not being pretty or good enough bla bla...

[Asker]

Yeah but if we don't lie to you and tell you how much we value you etc how will we get sex?

[HoneyButterCup525]

Ever heard of carma? Never fuck with anyone's emotions, otherwise it will bite you right up your ass... you most probably don't take it seriously...

Anyways girls know that they are being lied too but just give in for the fun but the fun ends in a ugly way apparently...

[Asker]

No I don't because karma is bullshit. I've seen plenty of people getting away with shit and NEVER EVER having to repay. What you're talking about is guys I think lol.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Just saying never screw with someone's emotions.. m

[Asker]

it's not my fault that my primary need is sex and I'll do whatever it takes to get it. My secondary need is to keep my ego/pride and I'll do whatever it takes to preserve it... this mostly includes dumping girls after a few weeks of use (and being used, mind you)

[HoneyButterCup525]

Ok your choice, your life...

[Asker]

You hardly checkmate, but stalemate us everytime lol.

[Anonymous]

Players are just guys with loads of sexual diseases and they end up lonely old sad men getting off to p*rn and no one goes near them and they usually have a big ego but are too much of a coward

[Asker]

lol. Has a player ever played you and did you ever beat them at their game?

[Opinion Owner]

I dated one and now I currently trying to beat another but I figure no point in players

[Opinion Owner]

He was a natural born player, but no I don't see point to them now you live once what's the point in dying with some sexual disease I am thinking about dating a good guy a guy worth my time

[Asker]

sorry to hear. Most girls here say they can beat/manipulate players easily so I was just wondering.

[Opinion Owner]

A player mostly wants sex so yes I guess its easy to win them over, but in the long run what is the point in a player he will only cheat on you. I would date a real man with balls.

[Opinion Owner]

oh its fine I over it

[Asker]

oook we're going into hazy territory now. But most guys don't want anything from girls except sex and having their kids at somepoint in life. We just have no options so we get manipulated.

[Opinion Owner]

Is that a question

[Asker]

not at all.

[Opinion Owner]

At the end of day I thought about main pluating a player but honestly he isn't good looking enough and wastes my time so moving on

[Opinion Owner]

soon girls get bored you know

[Asker]

Good luck!

[Opinion Owner]

good luck with what

[Asker]

moving on and stuff. The future in general

[Opinion Owner]

A player would of slept with me but like I said no balls

[Opinion Owner]

do you mean like that in mainpulation

[Opinion Owner]

it is not over

[Opinion Owner]

I will break him

[Opinion Owner]

good luck too

[Asker]

No I wish you the worst of luck in manipulation! LOL. Ummm.. I don't know what you've experienced but players are famous for sleeping around :/

[Asker]

you're confident that you'll break him eh?

[Asker]

and thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

well why can't i get the so called bad boy player to sleep with me

[Opinion Owner]

I think he just has no penis to be honest

[Asker]

sorry I've never heard of this before so can't say.

[Asker]

lmao.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for what and he started it and yes I will crush his heart like he did with me and your welcome

[Opinion Owner]

yeah I know like seriously a player who hasn't got balls to do it like seriously I get the default one

[Opinion Owner]

sorry

[AdamThomas]

It might be nice for you to think that happens to them because of what assholes they are, but that's not always the reality.