Why do girls give you silent treatment?

[Anonymous]

Why girls ignore you if you send a tx and not reply back? I sent a girl a tx saying I am going to go on a date today wish me luck. But this girl makes it out like she does not like me in a that way so she is not jealous is she? And she is not talking to me. What should I do?

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the last time we spoken it went like this. can i come roud she said i will let you know. i said ok but try let me know before ten o clock. she said i will let you know. i never heard from her next day i tx her saying i am going on a date wish me luck. never got back to me. she keeps saying i will meet someone someday. but i dont know why she is not talking to me

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but one day when we was just started to talk. we was talking out side and i said i have to go now and she said if you want to come roud for a chat you can do. i asked her about that and she said she didn't mean it. she said i didn't want you to come roud so i said why did you ask me then. i can't remember what you call it but when someone says something but they dont want you to do it lol

[emmabee11]

I think she likes you but she's not saying it because she knows you don't like her but she keeps wanting your company anyway in the hopes that maybe during some bonding time you might see something in her lol i do the same thing because i'm too scared to tell a guy how i feel as i've had bad experiences every time i've told a guy plus i'm fine with being friends with a guy so i don't tell him to not ruin it so if it's not obvious to the guy even if after we hung out and i see that he isn't interested the first couple of times then no harm is done to the friendship lol.

This girl though just seems to be trying to initiate something, she's clearly throwng the hints out there but soon as you go to date or hang with someone else she says the opposite and says she doesn't want to hang out to avoid suspicion to not make it obvious she does like you, but being unobvious is always still obvious lol.

[Asker]

i do like her , she talks to me all the time but when i say other girls she stops talking to me and stop having me round sometimes when i go on a night out she txes me all the time. this was on new year. its a hard one for me she makes it out she does not care what i do but i think there is something there

[emmabee11]

lol she clearly cares but i don't think she wants to interfear with whoever you may choose but i think it's time you gave her a chance instead of going for other girls, you like her too so what's the problem? go for it man... she's threw all the hints that's she's interested so it's up to you now to make a move.

[Asker]

she does not want a bf, but i think she does like me but will not say it because she is stobborn type

[emmabee11]

I had a friend like this who would go "oh you know... i don't want a boyfriend i'm not desperate" rofl i laughed my head off at her, she did it to not be obvious to make guys chase after her, if she really doesn't want a bf though then she has got to quit her shit but if she's just being stubborn then just pick her up and don't let go till she admits it then kiss her lol it's the only way to get the stubborn types, i can be the same lol we are a handful hehe but in the best of ways.

[Asker]

she is saying she is moving out of her house now lol does she like me or just like me going after her

[emmabee11]

I think she wants you to chase her yes lol but be careful if she's just messing around though, id chase her and see what she does but if she keeps fucking around id just forget it lol you never know till you try

[Rangopeep]

she probably just wants to make you feel like you shouldn't go on a date with the girl... by the way congrats you made a girl jealous... you should text her how the date went... only if you like her, but tell her that you feel way more comfortable talking to her... than ask if maybe sometime you would go on a date... if she says no then its her fault for letting you get away... because obviously she likes you and can't ignore you forever... hope i helped

[Asker]

i think she will get very jealous if i get a gf , she is a hard one tbh

[Mesonfielde]

If she is acting jealous over others dating you but isn't willing to date her herself then she is a waste of time as a person!

[Rangopeep]

I agree she ain't worth it if she's gonna make you feel bad for dating another girl... But isn't exactly willing to date you hersel...

[Asker]

no she won't date me , she makes it out like she does not like me. but she seems to get jealous well i think she does she is a stubborn type

[Rangopeep]

So then what do you care, she sounds really inconsiderate of a friend and not a fun sounded girl friend... I would say if she doesn't want to date, she doesn't have the right to be jealous... You can tell her, you don't have the right to treat me like this when you don't wanna date me... 😊 hope it helped... Stubborn girls don't deserve considerate guys, I would say silent treat her back, just ignore her until she breaks...

[Asker]

i have txed her abd not replyed but last time this happend she said she had no credit lol

[Rangopeep]

Well she didn't want to date you so why is it her business...

[Rangopeep]

It sounds like you like her...😏... Just tell her you like her and say
I have liked you for a while, but I understand if your to busy not talking to me...
If that dLest work she doesn't deserve you... Or to be jealous... Hope it helped 😬

[Asker]

ok thanks for your help

[Rangopeep]

Your welcomed anytime tell me of any updates... Have a good day...😊

[Apples09]

I think she didn't text back because when you said you were going on a date because she probably likes you and it made her jealous and maybe it hurt her feelings I don't know. I know when I was seeing a guy but he was more like a good friend but I really liked him and one day he text me that him and his ex didn't argue all day and I didn't respond because I got kind of jealous.

[Asker]

I think you could be right because she may want me to not to give up on her and now i am meeting someone else she is jealous and i want to talk to her she is ignoring me and see how far i will go before i give up

[Theguyoverthere]

The silent treatment is only something immature girls do. Communication is critical in relationships so if they're only "strategy" is to be a mute and act like it's supposed to make a guy come crawling back they're just setting themselves up for failure and any guy who plays their game is a flat out doormat in a manipulative relationship.

With that said, I don't think this is a case of the "silent treatment." I just think this girl doesn't really care about you and you're just another text message on her phone that she forgets about after she reads it. At most she probably just sees you as some random person to text when she's bored. Many girls do this to guys and don't realize that the guy is looking for a serious date and they waste many guys' time.

[Asker]

you could be right but i was out new year and she was staying in. and i was getting a lot of tx messages of her that night. maybe she does not like me or she does but will not come forward with it

[OpenClose]

I had a girlfriend who used to do this a lot. I remember I talked to her about the way she would talk about me. "It makes me feel like an expendable or replaceable part of your life."

Instead of addressing my insecurity, she said "I'm not going to put up with this bullshit" and would stop talking to me for a week. Then convince me that she only accepted me back because she is gracious enough to overlook my "disrespectful behavior". That's how I learned what "emotionally abusive" means.

On a more subtle case, though, a lot of times the "silent treatment" doesn't work in favor of the girl. To girls, silence may be a horrific thing. But if it has gotten to that point, chances are the guy welcomes the extra space.

[Mesonfielde]

That is a very good question! Although in text it is a bit different. I only ever did a "silent treatment" in text when everything I would have said would have been antagonistic, and I didn:t want to say anything like that. But for a few girls it is some kind of manipulative guilt tripping tactic in place of actual conflict resolution.

[Northeast106]

That's exactly it.

[Liveyyy]

Bro if she likes you the last thing she wants to know about it the other girls. The other girls are like her enemies, her competition. And if you tell her about them, then she probably feels like you like them more and you're putting her in the friendzone

[Asker]

she gos all weird on me if i an going out or talking to other girls lol

[sk3tch]

Sometimes when we like people, we hide it from them. We make it seem like you have no chance whatsoever, although we really like you. This is because when you like someone, you want to see them happy. She probably likes you, and she cares about you, but it's probably hurting her to hear you talk about other girls. Love is a ruthless game, and people end up getting hurt.

[Asker]

if i talk about another girl like i am going to meet her she does not talk to me. then if i dont have a date or another girl to talk to. she is nice to me and chatty

[sk3tch]

Then she probably likes you

[Kaylove96]

Jealousy definitely sounds like a possibility. It sounds like how someone I know is. The person who I know that comes to mind with that used to always like me, we went out 4 times, she went to juvenile hall in the middle of the relationship. Then I started dating someone else since it seemed over after she came back, got mad and jealous and now I believe she's been hating me for almost a year. But that sounds like what she would do and she's jealous even though she doesn't admit it.

[BubblyMaria]

She doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you either. She's being selfish. A lot of girls do this. She don't want you, she just wants your attention and she's scared you'll give it to someone else.

[Asker]

ok what can i do

[BubblyMaria]

Ask her on a date or Confess your feelings.
If you ignore her she might take that as you being uninterested and if you keep giving her attention , nothing will change and you'll still be stuck on her and she will realize that and go back to how it was.

[AmyGirlyeaah]

1. she is not a player she is just jealous
2. if I liked a guy and he told me he was going on a date I wouldn't fucking reply
3. She don't know if you are into her or not and her emotions control her

[Asker]

so you think she does like me? because if she didn't like me she would not care if i was dating othere girls , she would still talk to me. but she makes it out that she does not care what i do

[AmyGirlyeaah]

She cares probably or she wouldn't be like this I think she is jealous

[Asker]

i think there is something there, she may like me a bit but will not say it

[AmyGirlyeaah]

Espacially not after you told her about this date, you made her more insecure than she already was

[lyssalady13]

she doesn't seem into you and it seems like she just likes the attention. you should give her the silent treatment and see what she does. otherwise drop her

[Asker]

i will try lol

[lyssalady13]

Well I think the important thing to recognize is that what you've been doing clearly isn't working, so trying a new approach really couldn't hurt if you truly commit to it. Girls hate being ignored

[courtney06]

It's possible she likes you and didn't want to hear about you dating another girl. That might have put her off.

I'd suggest not associating with people who give the silent treatment and find people who aren't afraid to communicate.

[LotusBloom]

Sounds like she might be jealous! She's probably playing hard to get. I wouldn't pester her, unless you feel like it's the right thing to do. If she wants to be friends or more, she'll come back to you eventually.

[angelgirl4]

I honestly feel like she is not interested. If she was she would text back either right away or eventually reply. But if she was into you, she would at least reply. I know when i ignore or avoid texting someone back its because im either annoyed or just not interested. I would just ask her if you really want to know, or just find another girl that will reply. Good luck to you.

[SphNls]

She wants you to want her, but she doesn't want you.
Move on and enjoy doing it

[kayleyswaw]

I think she is confused on if she has feelings for you or not

[Asker]

i have noticest that if i am meeting someone or talking to a girl and she is interested. the girl i like will not let me come round or she won't reply to my tx message. and when she does she all ways ask how is the other girl and if i say oh she did not show up on the date. she will talk to me again. but she keeps saying i will meet someobe obe day

[Starfishlover]

I certainly don't give you the silent treatment. I would call you out and go through hell to get back at you :D

[Anonymous]

Why would you do that tho? telling the girl you gonna go on a date? seriously I would ignore you 2. if you don't like the girl just let her get on with her life cse it seems as if you are liking the impact this has on her? its actually quite cruel.

[Doodlegirl16]

Maybe she doesn't know how to respond, she's jealous, or she's mad.

[Asker]

i dont think she is mad bot the other one maybe lol

[lolobola]

I say she did like you and didn't know which way to say it but since you've told her you were going on a date I can't blame her for ignoring you.

[This_guy_here]

Whenever I'd get the silent treatment, let's say unanswered text. I don't text again and move on. Whenever that has happened, it ended in a back fire for the girl.
The silent treatment is a childish game, find your self someone more mature.

[AdamThomas]

Because they're all bitches who don't like nice guys, they only like assholes. Tell them they're fat and they'll want to suck yo dick.

[thealphamaleishere]

Most of it is just testing you. Never play the game. Go on other dates and move on so quick that they don't know what hit them. Interestingly enough when you do this they want you more than ever.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she has you as an option. There might be someone else in the picture who she also keeps in contact with and she uses you to talk to while she waits on them. The fact that she ignored you after you said you have a date could mean she's either jealous, annoyed that you would tell her, or she doesn't care. I think if she does keep talking to you, you should mention your dates more often. Cause she will let out how she feels about them eventually!