I work at a bank, and she works 2 blocks from me on the same street at a fast food joint. She is 24 and thinks I’m 25, but in actuality I’m slightly younger.
The very first time I saw this girl I asked her out, she blew me off in a polite way, giving me a very buyable excuses. ( she is a foreign student, who works full time and takes care of her younger sisters)
A few weeks later, I still pursue her at her work place. Now I keep getting signs from her, like staring at me, or when I look into her eyes, she looks straight flat to the ground. She flirts with me by teasing me once in a while, but very subtly. Her friend at work, giggles at everything I say. She called us both crazy at some point. I establish that she is SHY of me.
So then one day I buy her a book on a topic she is interested in, and right a small note, saying I am fond of her, and would like to get to know her better. She responds by saying she loved the book. (In that book I wrote something in her language, which she tells me she didn’t understand, so she makes me say it) I ask her that she should teach me her language, she thinks it’s a great idea. So I say fine teach me now. She just smiles and looks to the floor. Another day I go to her with a paper and pen, and right something in English telling her to translate, and she does. Then I write my e-mail and phone on a paper, and hand it to her, and am about to leave, when she says she doesn’t understand. When I say really? What don’t you understand? She then says no she does understand now.
I actually didn’t expect her to call because of her shyness, but I gave that info to her anyway thinking that she just might, or just to tease her, but to now to make matters more confusing, ever since I’ve known her (it has been about 4 months) we sometimes catch the same bus every now and then, and at times I’m already waiting on the stop, and I see her walking towards the stop, but when I guess she notices that I’m around. She just at once takes another route. Now that I find to me extremely troubling? Does she like me? Or she just hates my guts and can't stand the very sight of me, that she has to completely avoid me? I mean she is shy, but come on how shy can someone be, especially when they are 24 years old you know? And secondly its not like I’m coming off to strong. All I want is to get to know her better first? Why is she acting like this?
The very first time I saw this girl I asked her out, she blew me off in a polite way, giving me a very buyable excuses. ( she is a foreign student, who works full time and takes care of her younger sisters)
A few weeks later, I still pursue her at her work place. Now I keep getting signs from her, like staring at me, or when I look into her eyes, she looks straight flat to the ground. She flirts with me by teasing me once in a while, but very subtly. Her friend at work, giggles at everything I say. She called us both crazy at some point. I establish that she is SHY of me.
So then one day I buy her a book on a topic she is interested in, and right a small note, saying I am fond of her, and would like to get to know her better. She responds by saying she loved the book. (In that book I wrote something in her language, which she tells me she didn’t understand, so she makes me say it) I ask her that she should teach me her language, she thinks it’s a great idea. So I say fine teach me now. She just smiles and looks to the floor. Another day I go to her with a paper and pen, and right something in English telling her to translate, and she does. Then I write my e-mail and phone on a paper, and hand it to her, and am about to leave, when she says she doesn’t understand. When I say really? What don’t you understand? She then says no she does understand now.
I actually didn’t expect her to call because of her shyness, but I gave that info to her anyway thinking that she just might, or just to tease her, but to now to make matters more confusing, ever since I’ve known her (it has been about 4 months) we sometimes catch the same bus every now and then, and at times I’m already waiting on the stop, and I see her walking towards the stop, but when I guess she notices that I’m around. She just at once takes another route. Now that I find to me extremely troubling? Does she like me? Or she just hates my guts and can't stand the very sight of me, that she has to completely avoid me? I mean she is shy, but come on how shy can someone be, especially when they are 24 years old you know? And secondly its not like I’m coming off to strong. All I want is to get to know her better first? Why is she acting like this?
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in reply to HOOO3) In that note that I gave her, I ended it by saying something in Spanish. "I said I want to get to know you better". After visiting her a few times after that, she finally asked what was it that you tried to tell me in Spanish. I
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I told her exactly what I meant, and then asked her to translate it, and she did, very willingly. without any awkwardness. 4) After I ask her a question, she often frames it back at me. (sign of being interested no?) 5) She accep
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5) She accepted the gift that I got for her very very willingly, without even saying things like Oh you shouldn't have, or I can't accept this. etc.
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6) Once I tried to test her to see if she gets affected and I guess you can say it worked. What I did was before going into her work place. I give one of my friends a missed call, and when I'm standing at the counter and she is taking my order, I ...
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I get the call from my friend. Now I say very discreetly in a low mellow voice; hey I'm about to have lunch can I call you back. Now she gives me my food, and I'm sitting there, and from time to time, I look at the phone, and at once she starts a convo.
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After that I can smell something burning. Her manager comes out; turns out that she had put a knife in the oven. She looks at me is embarrassed, but we both just have a laugh and never speak about it again. (It could be that she got jealous, and started
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thinking to many things at once like (who is he talking too, could that be his girl friend etc), and hence she by mistake left the knife in the oven you know. There is a possibility.
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There are just too many many reasons which convinces that she does like me. If you need more please ask, and I'm not the best to even explain these things, but trust me if you were there, you would feel something definitely going on.
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Anyway I'm not that concerned with all this as much. The only thing that bothers me is why? in the world does she ignore me at the bus stop by taking a different route (which is the closest way to her place). I mean I'm just being friendly with her.
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This makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. Like am I that bad? that you can't come face me, and people say I am an attractive person by the way. I mean even if she didn't like me, she could have just come on over and just make an excuse to
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not talk or something, or pretend to talk to a friend on her cell phone or something. There are so many things that one can do, but take a de-route. It just doesn't make sense. Its not like I have a deadly virus or something you know ? So please Shed
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So please shed some light on this particular behavior now please.
-Thanks for reading. Any honest and thoughtful remarks will be most appreciative and helpful. Cheers
-Thanks for reading. Any honest and thoughtful remarks will be most appreciative and helpful. Cheers
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SHE CALLED ME! :D I REST MY CASE! THanks all :D
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