My girlfriend's best friend keeps flirting with me and I think she wants me to cheat on my girlfriend, I don't know what to do?

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Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months and we've had our ups and down but we really love each other. Recently I've been hanging out with my gf's best friend a lot, and texting her, and it's just in my personality that im a little flirty, doesn't matter what girl im talking to i always flirt a bit. Most of the time we hung out my girlfriend was there but at some points i was alone with her best friend. Now she texted me that she wants us to meet up, alone, withiut my girlfriend, and she's wondering what to say to my girlfriend so she won't get suspicious cus " u know how jealous she gets" , she keeps flirting with me and suggesting we do things, I don't know what to do, i dont want to cheat on my girlfriend but i dont want to lose this girl as a friend, I don't know how to tell her nicely that im not interested. What's even more weird is I've been having these sex dreams about my gf's best friend, and I've been feeling more attracted to her, even tho i dont want to... I don't know what to do? Pls help.

LuckyNo13 · Accepted Answer

the ball is in your court my friend but know that someone willing to destroy a relationship to have you is not worth your time... ever. A true friend would never put you in those circumstances. If you are telling the truth and want to be with your girlfriend only, for real, then you need to tell her what been going on and exactly what it means to you (maybe leave out the sexual fantasy bit... just at the very least don't lead with it.) reassure her and show her the evidence of everything you are saying and let her know you came to her first. I cannot stress this enough do not tell the other chick that you are going to do this and let things unfold from there. only through honesty can you possibly salvage this one. Please trust me here, the other chick has enough blackmail saved up from what you have "unwillingly" done to seriously screw you if she has any indication that you are going to "let the cat out of the bag" you will be in a world of hurt. Good Luck and my sympathy if this is real you have fallen into a trap not even recognized by the best of us the first time.

Antizzl · Accepted Answer

Hahaha I miss those days. So your bottom line is this. If you are a macaroni you make a choice (because you don't want to cheat). Now if you're a mack you make a game. You tell the friend why do we even have to tell her anything? Lets just keep this between us. She will probably agree to it. But you have to absolutely understand that this is a merely putting a band aid on a severed arm. It is going to one day blow up in your face. Cuz unless she's a true player too she is gonna run her mouth eventually. You will be cut out of the picture for both of them at the end of this. (to me at your age it didn't matter. I literally looked at friends that were girls were just girls I haven't slept with yet.) But who cares you will gain much life experience from it. You'll be able think re read the playbook see where you went wrong and next time you're presented the situation you will be better prepared on how to keep the game alive longer. Remember don't be on the field if you not gonna play on the field doing it for real.

Paint_bubbles · Accepted Answer

Drop her like a bad habit. If you really love your girlfriend you need to get rid of the other girl. My boyfriend did something with my best friend and it hurt REALLY bad. You don't like this other girl, she's just messing with your hormones and it feels cool to do something sneaky and sexy with her but if you love your girlfriend you need to tell the other girl how much you love your girl friend and not to talk to you anymore and don't interact with her anymore. It'll only feed your hormones. And only tell your girlfriend if the girl won't stop or something or she needs to know

Bliss-taylor · Accepted Answer

She's not really that good of a friend or possible girlfriend. You don't want to loose her as a "friend" because you are liking the attention and just won't admit to your self that you do want to mess around with her. Hence the dreams and allowing her to come onto you to begin with. Your girlfriend is all ready being done wrong with you hanging out and making a dates to be alone with her bestf. That girl sounds like a bitch and a slut no offense. Just make sure you break up with you girl that you "love" before you go and rip her heart out to be with someone dirty.

CassieCataclysm · Accepted Answer

Tell your girlfriend. Save the texts. Simply don't do it.

Red_Arrow · Answer

The real truth is that you like your girlfriend, but her friend also interests you. You are thinking of ways to give her a shot, too. If you really wanted to be true to your girlfriend, you would have stopped texting and taking with her friend long ago. Time to admit what you are thinking and make a decision instead of trying to keep both available,

MadeInAmerica · Answer

She isn't being a friend especially not to you and your girlfriend. She is a sneaky calculating manipulative girl and she has you caught in her web. NEVER in any circumstances should you become that close to your girlfriend best friend. If you love your girlfriend you will tell her what's going on and stop seeing and texting this "friend".

Kiwifun · Answer

Don't do it. You will break up their friendship and lose her!!

skaterkid123 · Answer

this sounds like your girlfriend sent this girl to put the moves on you to see if you are faitfull or not

Anonymous · Answer

dont go andstop being flirty. you are not 17. get your facts/desires/priorities straight in your mind

My girlfriend's best friend keeps flirting with me and I think she wants me to cheat on my girlfriend, I don't know what to do?

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