If a girl likes you and you don't like her, what would be the smart thing to do?
We haven't done anything yet as in kissing
and she wants to hang out so I suggested that we all hang out as friends, We are going to hang out in a week or two (because we have to study finals )
Thanks guys What I just did was it was her and her friend and another guy so then the girl who likes me went in his car and it was her friend in my car so then me and her friend were talking about our past relationships and then I told her
"I don't really like anyone right now" and then when we got to the restaurant and were waiting for the food the ladies went to the bathroom and talked and then that was that; she doesn't really talk to me as much
You handled that well. I am in both situations right now. One guy just want to 'be friends" and one who is just high-drama, high maintenance and in the midst of a messy break-up acts like I'm the one... no thanks! I had to push Mr. "Just friends" to say where he was at since he was acting like he was in a relationship without being open with me, so that's now over... you sound much younger but much wiser, kinder, more fair and more mature. And I was honest with the other person -that I was interested in someone else and even though I'm not sure where that's going, it doesn't seem like things would work out for us. He appreciated my honesty and we are friends.
You've probably avoided a lot of drama in your life by being honest but being caring enough to not hurt others.
If I liked a guy, and he doesn' t like me then I would appreciate him being honest about it and keeping it at friendship and not leading me on. so that is something you should think about so that you don't seem like you're into her when you actually arent. but do remain friends
Act normal, don't flirt with her and don't be in physical contact with her. If she flirts, don't flirt back. Tell her that you have a guy friend you'd love to introduce her to. If she comes right out and says she wants to be with you, politely decline.
Honesty is the best policy. Let her know how much you value her friendship, but that you only see her in the way- strictly platonic. But here's the important part... don't falter in where you draw the line. I had a guy say this to me once, but then would kiss me, hold my hand, get jealous of other guys, and invite me to stay and hold me all night. It was confusing, and gave me false hope. Completely unhealthy emotionally.
So don't do that to her, but let her know in a *nice* way that you don't share romantic feelings for her. It'll hurt her, but in the end she'll be better off.
whatever you do, don't just tell her "i don't want a relationship right now." because then she'll just keep waiting until you do want one. tell her that you don't want HER as a girlfriend. you might think it's harsh, but trust me, it's wayyy better for the girl in the long run. I know from experience.
Do you know for sure that she likes you more than as a friend or do you just think so?
If you're sure then don't lead her on! Be friendly. Don't touch her (no hugging, holding hands, playing with her hair, even getting something off her shirt). That sounds mean but just dont. Trust me. Also call her nice and tell her how great it is to have her as a friend. Stress the friend part.
Honesty! but if you like her as a friend I would still chill with her. I would go in a big group because it would less likely for y'all to be alone which puts the pressure on you to be with her. Also pay attention to her but also her friends. And if she takes you away from the group makesure you make it clear that you are friendss
I would say the best thing would be to tell her nicely that you do not have those kind of feelings for her. And if you don't want to do that...then at least don't lead her on and then ignore her...it will give her false hope but it also hurts a lot...
You should talk about girls who you do like to her, it seems abit mean... you know sort of waving it in her face. But she will realise you like other girls and that she has to move on. I've had friends who liked me alot, I had to tell them about girls I liked so they knew wasn't really open for anything and they did move on and get over it. It might seem harsh, but in retrospect its the fair thing to do, otherwise its leading her on.