I have a girlfriend, but I have a huge crush on a girl at work. Does this girl at work like me?

[Anonymous]

So, I moved back to my hometown about a year ago, and got a job for a small start-up downtown. There is only one girl that works there, and it turns out she was friends with my sister. I was attracted to her since the beginning but I never pursued her, because I was at a new job. Also, her being my sisters friend, I figured she would not be interested in dating me. I don't know why I thought that, but I did.

Anyway, a few months after I started there, I started dating my current girlfriend. She is great and I love her, but something in the back of my head has been telling me that it will not last. We have been together for about 9-10 months now, and currently lives with me. While I do love her, I can't stop thinking about this girl at work. She is basically my dream girl. I would pursue her, but I don't want to give up a good thing with my current girlfriend for a girl who I don't know if she even likes me.

Some things to think about:

- She is the only girl at the office where I work. About 10 full-time employees.
- She is friendly with everyone, but seems to talk a lot. Especially during work functions, me and her will talk while everyone else around us talks, if I leave she usually follows.
- She is friends with my sister, and will ask me stuff about her sometimes, seems like she is trying to start convo. They were in the same sorority at college.
- We have gone to lunch together a few times, maybe 2-3 times. But it is always her asking me, and only me.
- She asks about my life/relationship with my current girlfriend every once in a while. She knows we are having problems right now, and I can tell she thinks I should break up with her. But doesn't seem upset about it, or jealous.
- She doesn't ever mention other guys around me, or dating anyone, not that I have heard anyway. I'm pretty sure she is single, but not sure if she is talking to anyone right now.

What should I do? If she did like me, I would end things with my girlfriend and pursue her.

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I should say my current girlfriend is very needy and irresponsible and our current relationship is strained, because of this. Though I have liked this girl, even when everything was great between my current girlfriend.

I still wonder if my current girlfriend is a girl I could marry. I am not even dating this other girl, and know she is.

My current girlfriend loves me a lot though, truly. No doubts about it. But we fight A LOT!! More fights than sex lately.

[NotJustAName]

Yeah, end it with your girlfriend REGARDLESS! 99.999% of couples fight and even have seasons of fighting. However, you are already questions whether your girlfriend will be good to marry. And if you have doubts- RUN, FOREST, RUN! Lol.
Whether this girl at work likes you or not, be free first. Treat others the way you want to be treated- with respect. This girl at work may not like you... or maybe she did but doesn't respect a guy who can hug his girlfriend but only has eyes for another.
I'm in a similar situation. But I am the girl at work in your situation. A guy I work with has been secretly dating a fellow co-worker of ours for 6 months. I didn't know this and he has been increasingly interested in me since I started working there (2 months). I thought he was single and shy. Now I see he's in a committed relationship but all he does is stare at me and try to get my attention. It's a BIG punch to the gut! It makes me feel disrespected and dirty... Plus, I have no doubt his girlfriend feels like crap because her guy is all over me.
So just break up with your girlfriend already! It's a crappy situation and every day that passes makes me want to quit my job and never see this guy or girl again.

[Wondahwoman]

Regardless of this other girls feelings you should end things with your girlfriend asap. It isn't fair to keep her around while you are pining for another person... In fact it's down right mean, and in doing so you could be keeping her from the person she's meant to be with, or where she's meant to go in life.
You may think you love her but it sounds to me like you're more comfortable than anything. How do you think she would feel if she knew you would up and leave if given the chance with this girl at work? And if given the chance would you dump her and start seeing this girl right away? That would only make that poor girlfriend of yours feel even worse.

I'm a firm believer in only staying in a relationship if your heart is truly in it. Times can get rough but that's where dedication comes in. If it's not there it's not there. I really think you need to cut your losses buddy. It's just cruel to keep someone around until something better comes along.. Not to mention cowardly.

[Anonymous]

Just looking at the way you wrote your question, I can tell you have a stronger desire and longing for the girl at your work than you do for your girlfriend. I think you should just end it with your current girlfriend and start pursuing the actual girl of your dreams. She's right there now, but she won't always be...
Life is too short to be unhappy~

[shy_girl96]

It sounds like she does like you. What you need to do is follow your heart. Go with what your heart tells you to do. The best way to find that out is by thinking about the worst scenario you could be in and how both girls would react.

[AdenAK]

It's simple try getting with this new gito behind your gfs back. If she rejecys u u still keep yout girlfriend. But if she accepys u get rid of your girlfriend. That way you still have a reassurance policy. I say this because I've heard someone say that if you lovE someone and you fall in love with someone else always choose the second girl because if you truly loved the first girl you wouldn't have loved the second. By no means am I saying keep both but you will only know if the second girl likes by asking her out. FYI the second has to be a lot hotter for you to consider her. And lastly how sure are that she likes you back?

[KingdomFictiom]

You need to end things with your current girl anyway. You are using her as an insurance that you don't become lonely. You are holding her back from being with someone that would give her 100%, not this 50-50 crap. You need to to rethink everything and let go of her, because what you're doing is selfish and the longer you are with her the more pain you will put her through when you eventually leave.

[abundantlyrich]

Your girlfriend is not worth it if this is all about? fights and more fights... Your relationship is stale.

[Fortres]

Gross. Just end things with your now, she deserves better.

[Fortres]

Your girlfriend* now

[MaskedSanity]

Listen to @Wondahwoman, dude, she's entirely correct.