Do girls like guys who open up emotionally?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend a few months now and I am trying to get her to open up emotionally to me. I can see it coming out of her slowly and I know it all takes time and I also respect that.

She does know about my insecurities and I've opened up emotionally to her before slightly and so far she's stuck by me, but just lately I think she's starting to think I'm not making much of an effort with her andI'm waiting for her to do it, but in reality that isn't the case, it's just I am pretty nervous and insecure still, and that's because of my past with another girl who I never was official with but she really did hurt me.

I feel like telling her the story of this and for her to maybe understand what's going through my head a little bit and for her to know it isn't her fault or for her to not think I'm losing interest in her because I honestly think she's amazing. But I also kind of want her to open up emotionally to me a little more as well and I was wondering if something like that would maybe start it off..
But at the same time I know girls like honest guys, but most of all they like guys who are secure in themselves, and I'm far from it, so I don't know if this would work..

Opinions?

[EarthToKepler]

You are a strong dude. I respect that. Congrats bro

Who doesn't like open people? - It makes friendship/relationships easier.

But for opening her up emotionally will take time, you don't need to do anything apart from just be there for her and she'll still eb deeply insurcure but will be more open.

Trying to open her up in anywau will make her feel isolated which isn't going to help. Don't force it bro.. She will open up when she realises she can trust you with her emotions etc.

But if she thinks you're losing interest just simpally tell her that 'shes amazing, beautiful and you'll always be there for her '

I respect you sir

[ThisDudeHere]

I have observed it like this: they will say yes but mean no. I'm speaking objectively here. Girls will always claim how they want their men to be more emotional and yet you hear stories about men being ditched precisely because they decided to open up and be... well... emotional.

[JustBeingHonest7]

I think it depends on the girl. For me I LOVE having a strong emotional connection and open communication with my guy.

Also, I'm dating an emotionally closed off guy right now-though we've only been dating a few weeks, so it's kinda to be expected-and I think opening up to him does help him open up back. But it is in baby steps. The safest move is not to drop a bombshell. But if it concerns something that she has expressed a concern about, then tell her now. (So if she has said she feels distant from you or something, then go ahead and share that story).

[likelyOK]

I would much rather someone open up. I would not him to cry about it but bringing it up and how it hurts can only help the relationship. I will give you an example I had a guy told me he a girlfriend in college that cheated on him and he was very hurt. That his friend advised him not to talk to her anymore.
This did make me look at him as any less masculine, it mad me feel like he was a sincere person.

[LittleFoxChild]

I definitely prefer guys who will open up to me. It makes me happy that they trust me enough to tell me whats bothering them as well as trust that I could possibly help them. Even this is just in context of a best guy friend or a boyfriend.
And this goes for any girls as well.
And I think most people would say the same
Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I cannot emphasise yes enough. You're brave to be vulnerable with her like that, and if it were me I'd not only respect you for that but feel much safer opening up myself. For me if a guy can tell me about his insecurities and hard things in his life it makes me feel really close to him, because I know he trusts me

[HeatherJoanGaG]

Everybody has insecurities. For me the mosr important thing, always, is honesty. If I can't trust that person or if the guy I am dating lies to me, there's no future.

If you think she can handle that experience, go ahead.

[YHL6965]

Honestly, I think telling her about your past would be a good idea so that she can understand. Communication is key. You could also add that you are telling her all of this because you love her and you trust her that he would not judge you, to make her feel important, to show her that she matters to you.

[Aeon_Flux_21]

Showing weakness to a female will instinctively turns them off. This is basic evolutionary biology. Never show emotional weakness to a female. There are times when you can cry if a family memeber dies or a dog. Other then that you must never show them weakness.

[collision14]

Yeah I'd rather know what's wrong with than letting whoever I'm with sulk in it and let it eat away at them. Communication is key.

[Zigzagz]

Just answering the initial question: fuck no.

[Anonymous]

Yeah so they can tear you to pieces.