"I'm not sure if he'll stick around if I don't fuck him."
The simple answer is... "NO MAN" will stick around without sex.
I mean, I suppose there's that rare case where the girl is service active duty in the military in a combat zone, and a roadside bomb goes off, and her vagina gets burned, and now she has no vagina, and her whole body was burned, and she can barely move and being touched or making contact with another person is extremely painful, etc. ... I mean, just think of the worst case most fucked up scenario...
In that case, sure, the guy would be like, "Well, just say goodbye to your sex life, you now just have to be supportive and deal with it."
But in the regular kind of case, it's sort of like that joke:
"Honey, my gynecologist said that we can't have sex."
"What did your dentist say?"
If you're looking for him to "prove" his love and devotion to you, and the way you "test" for that is by basically "not giving him" things you know are absolutely important to him as a man and a natural part of any relationship and how people feel close and connected... "without telling him" (like all "tests"), do you really think that's a very well-designed test?
First of all, how is he going to process that information?
How would a man who really loves his woman process that information?
Not "in your female fantasy," according to "your female brain."
That's not the appropriate basis for designing a test. You're not going to design a test to see which animal can climb the tree the fastest if your test subject is a fish. So, you're not going to design a test based on "how a woman would respond" and apply that test "to a man."
So, what would a normal reaction be?
"What's wrong? Is something bothering you? Are you physically ill?"
"So, then, why are we not having sex?"
"Are you angry with me?"
"So, then, what is it?"
"Do you not find me attractive? Do you not want to have sex with me? Is there someone else?"
Now, that's assuming that your man actually talks to you and communicates with you about what he's thinking. As many women know, men are not known for being open with or even aware of what they're thinking. So, a lot of this dialogue may be taking place internally, with answers he already knows or rationally concludes...
"She's not sick, she's not angry at me, so... I guess she's not attracted to me, or doesn't care about sex or me, etc."
Congratulations, you just created a need for couples' therapy.
It's like a guy saying something like "Should I cut off the girl from all cuddling and words of affection to see if she's not just after the flattery and hugs?"
If you stop sharing with your partner then they will probably just assume that you don't like them anymore and possibly break up with you because you've now gone cold and distant.
I don't see any need to withhold sex, it's an important part of a relationship. If he only wanted sex, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have bothered to settle down with you. I don't think it's a healthy way to work out the insecurities in your relationship, it just sounds like you've got a healthy sex life.
I don't see that as a bad idea. As long as he dosnt say "so your testing me" or "I can't believe you think that' which basically u are. Best way to avoid that is to not make it obvious and try not to let yourself be in a position it can happen. This dosnt mean you should be cold or distant either
That would be a really bad idea and it would end up causing way too many problems in your relationship. I wouldn't recommend you to do that.
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Yes. It would be definitely bad. If I were him, I may even likely dump you even if I feel more connection towards you than just sex (it just irritates me if a girl plays these dramas and I find that out. I might also take it as a red flag -- because in future, you would likely be too possessive and keep spying on me, which is disrespectful). If I don't understand about your move, I would think "this girl probably lost interest in me" and might be after some other guy.
Don't use sex as a tool! Most guys won't be with a girl if she doesn't sleep with him, but that doesn't mean it's all he cares about, far from it, it is a requirement though. As in if a guy is into you, but you cut off sex, he will probably still break up with you.
That is the worst idea I've ever heard, if you can't tell that your boyfriend genuinely wants to be with you then maybe you don't belong together but trying to to test him like this just seems childish.
You should've done this before you started fucking him. Tell him you want to focus on other areas of your relationship than sex
Most girls are sometimes naive and hence girls must never entertain those guys who are much in to sex at initial phase of relationship.
If you stop it all of sudden after all that Luxury you gave. he will probably get angry and breakup
u If you cut off the sex, he will interpret that as a sign that you have lost feelings for him. It will only cause more problems for you.
He probably would break up with you lmao.
How many girls would break up with their man if the relationship went from loving and supportive and nice dates/he makes her feel special... to him being emotionally unavailable and not around much?
THAT IS THE WORST POSSIBLE IDEA beacuse that is manipulation
If you don't trust your boyfriend that much then your relationship is likely to fall
I think you should. Actions speak louder than words
If he's anything like me that's what he's in for, so bad idea.
That was brilliant idea
Ask him to go outside , together
Do not play games, communicate with him.
i vote: yes.
Don't do it
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