My girlfriend looks HORRIFIC without MakeUp from an 8 to 4 and it's killing me?

[Anonymous]

She drops from a solid 8 to a 4. She looks tired and scary if im honest. I've never thought it would happen to me. She asked me what I thought and I had to lie then I excused myself so I had time to think. Lets just say she wouldn't get approached looking like that. I was the one who asked her what she looks like and she responded with 'pretty much the same'? Is she serious dropping 4 levels is despicable. I dont know what to do? What if we get married and I have to deal with that? Im not even intending to be superficial but the contrast will amaze you. I think she wears make up soo much that I saw it as the norm for her. Im so depressed now and even the thought of kissing her makes me repulsed. She's great in general which makes this difficult. If I was to break up with her id have pretty much no reason other then this. Her face isn't changeable either it's not acne it's her skin tone becomes grey ffs. The saddest thing about this is that my mum usually hates white girls but loves her personality and always tells me to keep her because she's stunning.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Lol this is exactly why I've never worn makeup in my life, it does so much damage. Have you ever wondered why women tend to age terribly compared to their male counterparts? It's because of all the garbage they do to their faces. Makeup ages you, and when you wear foundation it blocks the sun from reaching your skin. It ends up causing the skin on your face to lighten and looked faded, sickly, and washed out. Constantly applying eye and lip makeups are going to cause wrinkles and serious bags because the skin is so thin and you're always manipulating it. Makeup makes you ugly lol. The best thing she can do is stop wearing it and focus on a good skin care routine, tell her to find a nice cleanser and moisturizer and call it a day. If she takes better care of her skin and eats healthier she'll have a glow and will ultimately look better naturally. If this is something you can't deal with then break up with her. You shouldn't be forced to stay with someone you're absolutely repulsed by. She should've never lied to you by hiding her face, it's not your fault. It doesn't matter what anyone else feels about it, don't stay with a person you're grossed out by, you clearly don't love her because if you did this wouldn't be an issue. Since it is an issue, love is not a factor. My dad was married to a woman who had terrible horrifying skin under her makeup, it was so disgusting. Every night he had to look at that face and it was repulsive. Eventually they divorced for other reasons but being shocked at what someone looks like is never a good thing. Just break up and find yourself a natural beauty, look for a girl who never wears or hardly ever wears makeup and you'd be much happier.

[fiodor99]

wonderful thinking. all these chemical garbage+ smoking+ nightlife+ bad diet are what make girls today age like crap and have very pale and bad skin

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@fiodor99 Yes exactly, and fake nails ew. They do so much damage to the nails underneath. Women have fallen for this idea that false beauty is better than natural beauty. It's sick and damaging. When my boyfriend started dating me it was a huge relief from all the artificial women in the world. He didn't need to worry about fake weaves, fake nails, makeup, bad habits, none of it lol. I don't understand how they can put so much chemicals and trash into and on their bodies and get mad when someone doesn't like what's really under there. It's their fault why they look like that!

[fiodor99]

natural all the way dear. me and your boyfriend are same-minded.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@fiodor99 Well that's awesome, I think if more men stop putting up with all these add-ons these Mr. Potato Head women come with then all the fakeness will slowly fade away into oblivion xD

[Chocochip_cookies]

I totally agree with what you've said...

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@Chocochip_cookies Thank you dear, I'm in love with your username xD

[RainbowFanGirl]

Exactly why I don't wear makeup. All I do is drink lots of water, eat lots of fruit and veggies, and I wash and cleanse my face every night.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

@RainbowFanGirl Those are awesome habits, keep them up! :)

[RainbowFanGirl]

Thanks :)

[Laura2410]

See, now that's why I don't wear make-up that often. And make sure the guy sees me without make-up early after meeting him haha. Sure, my face definitely isn't perfect without it, but in the end that's how I look when I wake up, when I go to sleep etc. It's me
Now on a more serious note, you're in quite a delicate situation. The fact that she wears it daily made you have such a shocking reaction and of course her face gets affected by applying it every single day. But at the same time... dude, you didn't really expect for her eyelashes to be so big, or cheeks so full of life , or lips red as a rose without it, did you? You just got used to her wearing makeup. You need to establish if you're going to let this ruin your relationship. If this bothers you so much that your love for her, or all the great things in the relationship are overshadowed , then you probably should end it, but it is preferred you don't tell her the reason you're breaking up is her face..
If you think you can "overcome"" (it's not exactly a life and death situation, or obstacle to overcome) , then maybe suggest she starts wearing less make-up , explaining to her that she doesn't need it all and that her skin will benefit much more.

It sounds like you based this relationship more on appearance, rather than the person herself, so I don't know if it's good to go on like this anyway.

[DessieDoo]

The grey tone in her skin is because of all the make up she wears on a daily basis. Ask her to stop wearing so much make up (like concealers or foundation) and her skin tone will eventually go back to normal. I see this often in women who wear foundation constantly. It ruins their skin tone and color, especially if the foundation they are using doesn't match their normal skin tone.
So I would just ask her to stop wearing as much make up and try to tough it out until she gets her normal skin tone back. I am quite sure that you will see a drastic difference.

[Starrk]

Damn bro. I feel bad for you. Makeup is by far the most common form of deception that I have ever seen. I have seen girls who went from looking like werewolves to looking like models, once they started applying makeup. It's definitely unfair to guys since we're the ones who end up falling in love with a girl who was literally wearing a mask the entire time we knew them.

If I were you I would try to convince her to stop with the excessive makeup and try to use products that would help improve her natural looks. If that doesn't help then break up with her.

Don't pay any attention to some of the girls who say your "superficial" because every person on this planet is superficial to an extent. We all have our own personal standards and if your current girlfriend isn't meeting your standards then she needs to go. No person should feel obligated to date someone, especially if that person is someone who your simply aren't attracted to.

[Suhmer]

But make up only really enhances the face, by concealing some of the negative parts, it doesn't make people look THAT different.

Also, in society we have become so used to seeing women with makeup on that somehow it seems unnatural when they aren't wearing makeup. Which is why the opposite is true for men, they look weird with makeup on but perfectly fine without it. I think it's just what we've all got used to seeing, that when we see it different it looks "bad".

[SoulOnIce]

When you ends things with her please bro, tell her literally any other reason under the sun you can come up with rather than “well, I saw you without makeup and it was a uniquely simultaneously terrifying and repulsive experience.”
It’s funny and all from a third person perspective, but DAMN hearing some sh! t like that from the person you care for would land anyone in therapy for years to come.

But let me ask, how long have you been dating? You’d never seen her without a face full of what it sounds like would be thick layers of foundation, blush, coverup etc? If she wore that heavy of a daily application, she must be self conscious about her natural appearance. What situation triggered her to suddenly feel comfortable letting you see her naked face?

[Jxpxtxr]

Hahaha omg I'm sorry but this really made me laugh so hard 😂😂😂
Tbh I think if you don't feel any physical attraction and don't even like her for anything except for her looks just dump her ass if you think you can do better, I'm sure so can she lol

[SoulOnIce]

Dude is literally pinning a number grade on his chick based on her wearing foundation vs not, I’m thinking she’s probably dogging a bullet with Rico Suave over here...

[Red_Arrow]

Many guys appreciate their girlfriends so much that they overlook their appearance without makeup. Even if it takes them down to a 4 (in your book). Since that is the way you feel, you are better off to find someone else. And more importantly to my thinking, she will be better off. totally agree with @BelleGirl21

[BumbleSuperBee]

Yes. I get what you're saying. And no, you're not a bad person and it's not your fault. Thats what I call a fake woman. Women who wear make-up almost daily, tend to look pale and tired without it on, cuz their faces gets used to make-up. I'm on your side brother. Talk to your mum about it. Seriously. Just tell her what a fake your girl is - no offence.
And never trust a girl who often wears make-up!

[Anonymous]

I think your standards are just too high. Women don't actually have golden eyelids, red lips and lashes as dark as Stalin's soul.

[Hollywood-Glam]

Now that she revealed to you how she naturally looks like, are you still attracted to her, do you still love her? Are you okay with continuing this relationship?
I don't know, but even though she doesn't look great to you with no makeup on, her personality could make up for it.

[GirlScout]

Make up can make your skin look awful if you plaster it on every single day. Why not encourage her to cut down on the make up. Does she wear a lot? Wearing less will improve her complexion.

[TheGeorge]

You need to find a way out. The problem isn't going to go away. I really hate myself for not ending my first relationship earlier when I knew it was going to fail anyway. It's kinda inevitable best to end it sooner than later.

[indie_rock_chick]

Do the girl a favor and break up with her, she deserves a better boyfriend. If you loved her you would care, that was so superficial

[Mesonfielde]

That's because she's wearing all that crap every day.

But if you want a quick solution to your problem, all you need to do is show her this question.

[Bards]

Wooooow. She deserves a better boyfriend. Break up and do her a favor.

[BelleGirl21]

See? And this is why girls wear makeup men.

Listen, if you aren't attracted to her at her worst thrn it's probably best to walk away now. For your sake and hers.

[blondfrog]

Not all girls are attractive with make up and not even with a little make up.

[cinderelli]

Good for me I don't wear makeup..😂😂😂 cuz now she will be hurt.. well it is better to breakup.. as you are not attracted to her anymore.. not good for both of you.

[psychomonkey]

I usually go for girls that don't wear makeup cause when you see your girl without makeup for the first time its like a kid opening a Christmas presesnt either you're happy as hell or there's major disappointment.

[Anonymous]

I am on the floor laughing my ass off right now 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Onlyinit4fun]

Break it off now before it gets even harder to end things. You feeling repulsed is not going to change.

[nalaa]

oh come on she can't be that skilled at putting on her everyday make up. Nice try

[Asker]

I dont think it takes skill. I didn't realise foundation basically gave u perfect skin and those eye stuff made your eyes glow so I was sooo used to this it shocked me

[nalaa]

it doesn't. That's why I know you're trolling.
Foundation makes your skin look a litter better but most of it rubs off during the day and mascara makes your eyes seem a little a bigger but nothing to dramatic. I'm assuming you mean mascara by "that eye thing"

Unless she does her mak up like this every day which is a hell of an effort and you'd just be stupid for not noticing the literally 4 layers of make up she is wearing, you don't have a point

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[Metlahaed]

Leave her... She doesn't deserve to be thought of like that.

[lifeis4living]

Well if you don't want to be with her anymore, then tell her.

[Sexualchrist]

You'll just have to break up with her if that's how you really feel

[mutedaisy]

You should probably run for the hills... If you can't even kiss her