Im a guy trying to date a girl i know. Please go into detail if you can.
What are some signs that your in the friend zone?
"Friendzone" gets thrown around too easily. Friendzone means that she's more emotionally open to you than she would be comfortable with if she were attracted to you.
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If she comes crying to you after a breakup, you're friendzoned.
If she tells you about her nervous breakdown she had last year, you're friendzoned.
The most damning evidence is she'll demonstrate a complete lack of attraction to you. If you're emotionally close, and she gives you zero IOI's (indicator's of interest) then you're friendzoned.
If she thinks you're a viable candidate she'll flirt with you, and you'll flirt back. You will be comfortable in each other's personal space. You would be comfortable touching each other.
So there's many things that can go wrong. You don't have to be friendzoned to be rejected. That's just the worst way to be rejected because a stupid guy will delude himself into thinking that the emotional bond is going somewhere romantic.
She could be a nice girl and not talk about important deep stuff with you and keep it casual and friendly. That's not friendzoned. But she doesn't find you attractive. Call that betazoned. Not as bad.
Really what you want to know is, does she find it plausible that other girls can be attracted and want to date you?
Message me if you want more. There's a Karen Straughn video you should watch.
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When I friend zone girls I often downplay their obvious signs of affection. For example when a girl says she looking for a guy and describes someone who sounds a lot like me I say things like "don't give up you'll find him. I'll even help you". I also avoid conversations about "us" And when asked about love, relationships, and things like that I avoid eye contact and kinda fumble through some really bad explanations. The times I've been unwillingly in the friend zone were much different. First off its a lot harder to know when someone else has put you in the friendzone. Especially if they're naturally shy. A lot of shy girls use a very subtle touch test on me. In situations were there is plenty of space and very little reason to be too close to me they find a way to touch me. Maybe their leg is on my leg or their standing just close enough that thier body is against like my arm or something and they just wait to see if I move. It's not like a hug or grabbing your arm or something it's just very prolonged "accidental" body contact and often if you look closely enough you can tell they're really nervous but happy. That's a sure sign you're not in the friend zone if she's not a naturally super touchy girl. A big sign that you are in the friend zone is when she asks you to help get the attention of another guy. Other than that it's really just a guessing game.
- she isn't nervous around you (doesn't blush, doesn't fidget.)
- she talks to you about other guys she's seeing/might be interested in (this is pretty much the only indicator you need.)
- she tells you everything, like a best friend would and doesn't pick her words carefully. Says anything that comes to mind.
- she tries to set you up with her friend or another girl/tells you you'd look cute with someone else
- she doesn't compliment you on your appearance
- when you try to compliment her, she laughs it off or doesn't fully accept it
- she laughs when you flirt with her
- you've seen her without makeup and/or looking gross (I always make an effort when I know I'll see a guy I'm interested in romantically.)
- she calls you mate/buddy/friend/pal/bro etc. (unless this is a normal part of her vocabulary.)
- makes eye contact with you, but it isn't sustained.
- you've been 'friends' for longer than a year and she hasn't at least hinted that she likes you or tried something with you.
- she doesn't invite you to hang out one-on-one with her. It's always in a group.
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She tells you about the guys she likes, she farts in front of your (rare unless you are friendzoned) , she looks towards you for support as in when she broke it off with a guy or she got into an argument with a guy she is dating/interested in. She would talk to you about anything : From different shades of makeup to the menstruation woes. Hope I helped
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Signs your in a friend zone are if she doesn't talk to you all the time, if she isn't agreeing to go out with you, if she isn't being touchy with you. She will probably get uncomfortable with physical contact beyond a hug. She won't invite you for one on one time very often.
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Friendzone doesn't exist. While you're dating you're actually trying to know other person better. That's building friendship. Every relationship is friendship + physical attraction. Without friendship not a single relationship would last.
However, there's this thing called brotherzone. It is real. The moment she called you brother in serious manner you're blocked from making further approach in other way. Then you're stuck in brotherzone and which means she isn't looking for anything more than that... ever! *air quote* Friendzone! -
You'll know.
There's "friend zone"
There's leading someone on.
There's her outright telling you she's not interested, but is ok with being friends.
There's her outright telling you she's not interested and you aren't friends.
Then there's a restraining order.
They are all pretty clear. If you don't know then you either haven't been forward enough and she doesn't know you like her, or she's not interested and would rather have you as a friend. -
The friendzone is an artificial concept made up by butthurt people who want someone to love them back even though they clearly don't. So instead of getting "rejected", they're in the "friendzone".
As for signs; she treats you like a friend, I guess? - 2.7K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
There's no such thing as a friend zone.
If a girl isn't interested in you it has nothing to do with your friendship level with her. If you are dating a girl and she's not responding then it means a lack of attraction/interest. -
there is no such thing as a friendzone if she is not interested its fine because she does not owe you shit for your kindness or friendship towards her.
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She refuses to go 1 on 1 with you and barely does. and if she does she will prefer a public place such as park.
When you flirt she either change the subject or turn to be serious.
She doesn't make any effort to talk to you or text you.
She tend to be busy while she is not. -
if they flinch when you break the touch barrier is something that I seem to end up doing when I just like a guy as a friend
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"trying to date a girl"
How are you trying. Either you asked her out or you didn't. Either she accepted or she didn't. -
Well not much hugging not much drama no movies together do you want me to go on...
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There is no such thing as the friend zone. Unless she has said no straight out or called you 'like a brother' then you always have a shot.
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If people want to date you there's a lot of "innocent" touching and lingering looks after it happens. The friend zone is more like being hit the arm after making a crude joke.
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Should you declare yourself to her, she will react with disgust, then maybe tell you how you're like her brother or some such.
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If she doesn't flirt with you, you are in the friend zone. It's as simple as that.
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Well, I suggest taking her on a fun trip or something awesome for a first date (I'm only a kid but I like a girl too :) )
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hanging out instead of going on dates.
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If she talks about other guys in front of you
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"Your like a brother to me"
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