Women are hypagmous by nature and only want to have sex with men who are better than them. Whether via looks/socially/or financially. Yet, since you aren't the only girl chasing after them these men experience what women experience. i. e. having many suitors offering them sex.
On the flip side there are many good men who want relationship/love from a woman but due to them not being as rich/good looking/high social status get ignored by women for men they deem better. In fact women don't want them as suitors, and put them in the friend zone or straight up reject them.
Yet, when these women get pump and dumped or reach a certain age. They always seem to ask "Where are all the good men?"
So the question here is. Does good for women mean a high status/good looknig male who would commit to her, or a guy on her level who would actually love and respect her and on her socioenconomic level/looks.
Summary: What do women mean when they say "Nice/Good men" ?
Why do a LOT of women always keep asking "Where are all the GOOD guys?" ?
If "nice" is the first thing that comes to mind when you describe yourself, you're simply doing it wrong. You're SUPPOSED to be nice. You don't get credit for doing what's expected of you. If all you can say is that you're nice, you're probably boring.
Define yourself as being fun, be mysterious, be charming, be creative, be interesting, be compelling, be exciting, be funny, be talented, be driven... Anything but just "nice."
Would you settle for a "nice" girl? A girl with no hobbies, no interests, no passions? A girl that sits on the couch every day passively consuming life through TV, who never has anything interesting to talk about? Who has no point of view on anything? I sure wouldn't.
(Does good for women mean a high status/good looknig male who would commit to her, or a guy on her level who would actually love and respect her and on her socioenconomic level/looks) This is a part from this same page. So don't you think you were just describing the first category from this, just in a lengthy way
Well, when women ask "Where are all the good men?" you should understand that merely being a good person isn't the only thing that makes people attractive. There are a myriad of things other than just good behavior.
"What do women mean when they say 'Nice/Good men'?" They mean a good man who they are attracted to, the same thing that men mean when they say they want a nice/good woman. That's often difficult to find.
As for the guys who are represented in the bottom pics, they should be (or should have been) asking themselves "What am I doing to become attractive to women?"
The guy who has killed himself disturbs me. Is this something you've thought of doing, asker?
I will NEEEVEEER understand how men think this way. Yes woman want good men but they don't just want a good man he has to tick other things on her list of traits she finds attractive for her to find him attractive. Just being nice is never enough just having one positive trait is never enough. You always have to have more than one thing going for you just like with women being pretty isn't enough to get a committed relationship.
Be more than this. Stay above it. Don't let the expectations of women control or define your life and perspective. You only live once, don't make it about someone else, it should only be about you. Girls are for companionship, the rest is up to you. I would trade a girl's attention and wasted time for a profitable business, a high end sports car, an adventure around the world, and freedom to do anything I want. :)
Are there women who want to only be with guys who are exciting, hot and rich? Sure. But the biggest complaint I hear on here from women is that they are looking for guys who treat them right (ie. call them on a regular basis, don't play games with their heart, want the same things in life, have goals, and are overall decent human beings).
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Why women keep asking where the good guys are is because when everyone is young not many people are looking to settle down. Most are just looking for fun. Both guys and girls. How many 20 year old guys do you know are looking to settle down at that age? Not many.
You'd be surprise there are plenty of guys who want a girl to love dearly/relationship when their young but women just seem to friendzone/ignore/reject them and go for the guys who are consistently getting pussy and don't want to settle down. They essentially just become part of those guys harems and then use that as a basis to come to the conclusion that most guys don't want to settle down.
That's really sad then. I know what it feels like as I want to settle down but can't find someone to settle down with. My last boyfriend was super nice! I thought he was the one and that I had finally met a guy who wouldn't play games. I make my own money, I support myself and I even took him out a few times. But he was dating someone else while he was with me and I had no idea. I trusted him and he betrayed that trust. I honestly had no idea. He wasn't super rich, just an average guy. But I guess when we are young it's hard to meet the good ones because there are so many people who are not ready for it yet.
First picture, if a woman is looking for one night stands, then it is not that surprising that she doesn't find someone who is actually looking for more.
Third picture however, these guys legitimately ended up in escapism rather than as functional individuals; of course she would not find them attractive as they are not mature enough to be independent. Especially the third one who just legitimately killed himself, is that REALLY someone you want to date? Someone so unstable, depressed?
Anyways, what women look for is physical attraction, respectworthy and admirable behavior, and compatible values. Pretty similar to a guy, really.
Women into one night stands look exclusively for sexual attraction (physical attraction, and the sense that he is probably good in bed).
'Good' tends to refer to men who respect and cherish their relationships with others and don't cheat or lie. But in all fairness it's not like women don't lie and cheat either so there's really no point to saying it in the first place!
Be more than this. Stay above it. Don't let the expectations of women control or define your life and perspective. You only live once, don't make it about someone else, it should only be about you. Girls are for companionship, the rest is up to you. I would trade a girl's attention and wasted time for a profitable business, a high end sports car, an adventure around the world, and freedom to do anything I want. :)
I have a friend who hired five alphas to guard his big store. I hired two for my business for the delivery. We are also actually on the hunt too. :) They don't think much so less complain and they can do most of the heavy work so I can save for the operational costs.
@Colocasia i can answer why you never get the alpha. Because they're so rare. And just because you are a girl, doesn't mean you automatically deserve him.
An alpha can pick anyone he wants. And more often than not, he chose to not commit. Why? Nash' theory of games. By not committing he can have multiple girls interrested, and reap benefits from all. Multiple girls to fuck and play. But if he settles down, he have to commit. It is in his eyes simply not worth it, even if she's smoking hot. Because he know he can play her, and thus get her AND other girls, wheres committing gives him only her.
THAT is why you realistically will never get the alpa.
basically the best guy in the world girls want everything the best and are very vocal about creating the insecure man they despise so much the irony of this mangled world
There are people who tries to be that alpha, but they probably just want to be the playboy jerk. Then we're just back to where this started. And those who don't want to be that playboy won't work hard to be attractive and be the alpha, cause they don't want to reap the benefits anyway. Thus, getting to what you said, no one tries hard to be that alpha when they don't want the playboy life
It's simple. Women will always fall for a man with high self confidence. No matter how much of a jerk is may be, they will prefer him simply because he's not a wimp. Exactly what your images above show. From one jerk to the other until they find The One. IF they ever find him. And yes, like others already said, men fall for bitches too. All kind of bitches. Even bitches who , as you say, straight up reject a man.
They mean a guy who is hot, rich, responsible, romantic... I don't think I have enough room to describe all of the characteristics. Anyway, the ideal man for women will satisfy all of her needs, which is impossible.
yep, so do you in your take, mister. Are you all women? no, you're a man. Hence you can't know how women see.
But hey, you seem like the stubborn kind stuck with tunnel vision, so... no point bickering with an anon. Keep living in your fantasy world if you want
QA - You've captured a very uncomfortable slice of reality! It fits in with the famous "jerk fever" syndrome pattern that many females seem to follow! Certainly not all women but many! You have illustrated the fact that many women want a flawless, golden miracle man but they keep choosing only uncaring jerks!
You have also shown the fact that many perfectly good, decent men are tossed away like yesterday's garbage basically because they were not uncaring jerks! TRUTH!
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Good men are mostly either taken or hiding themselves. I've known one of them for ling as a friend, but I do know he likes me a lot since day one, and I show him I like him too. He had the big chance to tell me layely but he missed it. I sm not going to chase him or wait for him for 100 years just becausw he is a good guy.
@tyber1 no but I can't just pop out and tell him 'I like you so much' in the face. He might just embarass me by saying nothing. I flew all the way to see him and I was crying in the plane when I left. I do know that we are perfect for each other, even though we have dated others.
i disagree everyone has different tastes. some girls like good guys and some don't. it really depends on the person. my advice for you is too keep on trying eventually someone will be your type
@Goodwater101 I didn't mean to be rude, if you have seen me around you would know I curse all the time.
I'm so sorry if you thought I was being rude to you. Not my my intention.
It's not that I like criminals, it's just that bad guys seem to be very confident and most of the times they pretend to be nice to you. That's how women fall for bad guys
@Bluemax Bad guy have big penissize witch makes them more confident because despite a couple of girls with no experience to make it worse gag saying it don't matter Alot/more than those who say it don't say it does so pretty much it's nor them who are confident it's what they have why do girls not understand I just dont
You have some guys who put on a good show at being good guys. And some of females actually fall for it. And this is where the question comes in to where are all the good guys. But you do have some females who keep choosing jerks.
Good guys are easy to find. But finding one smart enough to not overlook you for the horrible women that cause them problems is much more difficult than a needle in a haystack.
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This is stupid and sooo not true. Believe what you want though, idc
The QA's comic strip story is obviously not true in all cases. But there is an absolute, true reality that fits the images. This has nothing to do with mere beliefs. It's foolish to pretend reality doesn't exist!
Good looking, fit, wealthy is not equal to asshole. Good hearted is not equal to ugly, socially awkward, poor. Making these assumptions makes people seem like pouty, poor sports.
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