Girls are the same as guys when it comes to this, except that they go WAY out of their way to get a picture to look how they want it to. They try to make the picture look as good as possible because that is the first thing someone sees when they are on social media. You're first impression of her will be on what she looks like most of the time. Same with girls. If they see a picture of a guy they think is hot or cute, they will click on their profile and check it out. When they see someone they think is ugly, the skip it. The difference, is guys don't wear make up, and girls do, and make up can drastically change how a person looks. When they make their pictures, in their eyes its just them all dressed up. They don't think it looks completely different. My friend met up with this girl that he was telling everyone how good she looks, and when he met her she looked the complete opposite of her picture. So when he showed me a picture that she had on her profile, she was holding her phone in the air looking down on her, twisting her waist so that she looked skinny, had her head at an angle (and every picture was her face looking in the same direction) in a way that made her look skinnier. She didn't do that to try an trick him, she did that because she wanted a picture that looked good, but she wasn't comfortable with her weight. Guys do it to. We try to turn a certain way so that way our abs show up better in a picture, or we will try to pose a certain way to show off a particular look. Girls are just better at it lol.
Kinda funny actually lol
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First of all, it isn't just girls. I've met several men from Tinder or whatever else and NONE of them looked as good as their photos. Half of them without a doubt used old photos because there was a good 50-100 lbs difference.
This only makes sense: you take a few selfies and which one are you going to upload? The most flattering. There is something crosswired in your brain if you do not. But what all the other responses are forgetting is this: the alleged deception is most likely not intentonal. None of us have ever looked at ourselves. We've only seen our reflections and image. In fact it's theorized that if you ever saw an exact copy of yourself walking down the street you wouldn't recognize him bease you have only seen your face distorted through lenses. When you've never seen your actual self, you cannot judge photos for their accuracy thus we pick the one that is most pleasing and we believe that is what we truly look like to others.
Personally, I support the all natural look and don't care what people think about it. However, I am a graphics designer and I know from experiences with various people that girls especially edit or alter their photos to make themselves be seen as the type of girls society emulates. Let's be real here, society has brainwashed women for many years into thinking being pretty or looking sexually attractive can only be accomplished if you are that weight or show this much skin. Although a change has begun and people are learning now more than ever that beautiful comes in all varieties, many humans still suffer from the desire to appear perfect. These girls hide their insecurities behind filters and special effects to be able to satisfy what they consider their need to be noticed and accepted by a society where loads of makeup and hair extensions and nail extensions is what represents who you are.
If you post a photo on the internet, it's out for everyone to see. You 'd want to look good in it. Especially since the people who will see it, are judging you based on your looks, because they don't know you. So a nice looking picture gets more people interested in getting to know you better. Most women who retouch so much their pictures or post old/fake pictures, probably feel insecure on their appearance, so they think that this way they will get more people notice them in the first plane, and some of them might like their character enough to forgive their appearance flaws
because girls like to take picture when they look and feel good. and pictures turns out really well under such circumstances.
and also im sure she has a ton of pictures that looks like herself in real life but she chose not to post it. people choose things that they want to post on SNS and maybe it so happens that she chose the best looking selfie of hers.
even some celebs say it takes more than 50 selfies to post the right one. and meeting people online is definitely not a sealed deal. so maybe lower your expectations when you meet someone you met online
- misleading camera angles
- lighting/photo effects
Not sure why some people use misleading photos, because it's bound to lead to disappointment. I feel like it's a lack of self-awareness.
If someone only has a bunch of close-up selfies that only show part of her face, then something is probably up.
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I know some girls like this as well from social circles. I see them in person and it’s like woah you actually have skin texture. And their facial features will look more proportionate in their photos. Honestly I understand there’s a huge pressure for women to look perfect but you only hurt yourself more if you’re not being authentic. I purposely don’t use photoshop or editing tools for my photos online but I already really like the way I look so it’s not something I feel the need to turn to. Instagram is really saturated with the same content and creator aesthetic like everywhere. It’s so homogenous. I think that a lot of women who turn to these places aren’t actually really empowered from within and feel a need to get validation from the outside. I never use Instagram - any time someone asks me if I have one I always say no - and they’re usually surprised. It’s really common for everyone conventionally beautiful or even relatively attractive to have one. I seek fulfillment in other places except for online. I’d rather enjoy the moment than worry if my angle is perfect.
well some people just like to present the most perfect versions of themselves on social media.
not everyone is gonna show u their makeup free, hair not done look. heck, i haven't even done that on instagram but i've done it numerous times here lol. i understand ur view though because it can be deceiving, but just keep in mind that social media to many people is more a 'performance' than showing who they are flaws and all.
It's usually not intentional. Most girls go through a bunch of pictures just to get one good one. And with the increase of filters and all, it makes it a bit easier. Would you post an unflattering pictures of yourself online? Maybe you should video chat before meeting up.
Probably a combination of good lighting in the picture along with photo editing. They do it in order to get a good picture that they will feel confident about. That's just one of the risks you take when you meet people online and then meet up with them in person.
Filters, makeup, lighting, angles - all of it can make you look dramatically different than you actually do in real life. If we all took "realistic" pics in natural lighting, the chances of anybody finding you attractive because people online are shallow as fuck. Besides, nobody goes on social media to post super unflattering pictures. Instagram is a hub for your good pictures. Anybody who gets to know me will inevitably see that I have natural photos on different social media as well, but if they're only getting to know me because they saw some nice instagram pics and they didn't do their research... my sympathy for them is lacking.
A lot of girls want to hide themselves. They think that they are ugly so they edit their pictures to make them look prettier so they'll get more likes and feel better about themselves. I do use filters, but that is all I use and i still like to make the filters look natural. I usually use filters to enhance colors, not to completely change my look and who I am. Girls don't understand that they are all beautiful and need to find someone who likes them for who they really are and not who they seem to be.
I wouldn't say all women do this!
But I understand your frustration. I had this girl who was picking on me about my appearance over social media and she looked beautiful in her pictures... I blocked her and went on with my life. Then on my first day of college I was trying to find my classroom, I stopped to ask this girl if she knew where my classroom is... and was like "as if you're asking me?" like wtf and then she told me her name and omg she looked the absolute opposite to her pictures on social media. I just walked off smirking.
But yea with me it's usually what you see is what you get.
ha you've been catfished! i dont even know why man but i see it all the time too!!! like even some of my friends. on social media they look like models, in real life they look like average girls. or this one girl i knew, on her instagram she looked gorgeous and like she had a very a fit curvy body and nice long hair. in real life, she has a fat stomach and boxy body, and a RATCHET weave! (x Lighting, angles, taking a billion pictures before getting a perfect one, and then editing it like crazyyy.
LMAO well... its the magic of filters and a ton of makeup
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1: you can't count on a picture because a lot of the times people always photograph differently.
2: it's INSTAGRAM, an app known for presenting false images. Don't you know? Every girl on IG photoshops their photos so they can present their own ideal image to the world. ALL of them do this so they can feel better about themselves.
3: she probably didn't expect to like you, but she did and had no choice but to meet up with you, hoping you wouldn't mind all that much that she looks nothing like the image she presented to you lol either way, you should know better next time.
I didn't read all of the responses, but of the ones I did read this is an angle I did not see.
Humans puts more emphasis on looks for women than for men. Women score gender points primarily by being more physically attractive and well adorned with trinkets and colors and men score them more on their financial status and ability to provide which is why you find so many butt ugly rich men together with stunning looking women.
So it is only natural that women have a stronger desire to portray themselves as being more physically attractive and men to portray themselves as financially successful. And when they are anonymous over the Internet, that lends itself to exaggeration and deception.
it's at least partly because iOS cameras really distort photos in the first place - the iOS lens must have some weird focal length, i think. it's very hard to get a sweet spot that doesn't kind of distort the face, so you have to experiment with angles, or take it from longer distances, etc.
many times, girls have this image in their head of what they are supposed to look like.. and with makeup, filters, poses, and editing programs... they make themselves look they way they want to look. EVEN IF IT LOOKS NOTHING LIKE THEM. Its complete craziness.
They do this to make themselves more likable to the opposite sex, and more likable to themselves. They like feeling beautiful.
It's probably a whole lot of filters. Also I've noticed people only upload picture perfect photos on Instagram. You know where they're dressed like they're going to a wedding but it's Friday night and they sitting at home watching TV in a dress with heels and a whole ton of makeup.
How many lbs bigger was she? They do this because they hide behind their computer Have no friends and are insecure with themselves.
Try pof out.
That's the worst. Girls are fat as anything when u meet in person.
Never ever meet a girl that only has head shot pics up and are average build. Never ever.
Average looks weight = nasty as fuck !
Do you mean she used a picture of someone else or her pictures were photoshopped and she use a ton of makeup.
In first case she should send her real pictures if she decided to start dating you. In second case you should take a huge amount of wind correction when you''re aiming for a girl with thick painted eyebrows and gigantic eye lashes on her insta.
Because they are insecure about their looks, so they try to look as attractive as possible by taking hundreds of pictures from their best angles with the best lighting, and then choosing the best one to edit and upload.
As a rule of thumb, I get suspicious if a girl only has a bunch of selfies from the same angle. I usually try to find a picture of them taken by someone else, because those are usually the most accurate.
Same reason why you dress nicely and put on make up for your first date. they try to look their best for you. And you can 'improve' pictures more than the real you, so that's why they do it.
Me, I'm actually 85 and typing this from my armchair at an old folks home. Are u busy tonight? xD
Misrepresentation is a strong word to use. I've had guy friends say similar before. I don't know, I try and take photos of myself that are exactly what I look like but we all try and make sure they're as flattering as possible. You're trying to put the best of yourself out there after all?
I don't know. I don't feel like I do that a whole lot. However the fact with me is that when I look in the mirror I for the most part like what I see. No I am not the best looking girl in the world but I don't find myself ugly either. I am fairly content with my face but then I take a picture and the insecurities kick in.. There is not a single good pic of me. Maybe I just am ugly.
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