Is it bad if I love my girlfriend more than she loves me?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I love and care for my girlfriend a lot more than she does me. I don't mind because I genuinely treasure her with my whole heart but is it bad for our relationship? I don't know why but deep down I feel a bit sad and disappointed because she doesn't love me as much as I love her. It makes me feel like I'm not worth loving.

[Anonymous]

Why do u feel this way? It's not a relationship whereas you're keeping tabs on what's u do or not do, I'm sure she loves you just as much as you love her, don't make things up in ur head we all love differently that doesn't mean one loves more or less, unless she either tells you or show u in some aspects. Don't create a problem for yourself

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice. I guess I'm too insecure.
I feel this way because my girlfriend is not very expressive of her feelings towards me. As a result, sometimes I couldn't feel her love and affection.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, well unfortunately it's hard when you love someone maybe she feels she'll push you away.. Maybe she's just as insecure and scared that you wouldn't want her, it sounds dumb but, it's a sad fact.

[Asker]

Is there anything that I can do with this situation?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think there's anything you can do besides reach out and keep doing what ur doing. It's something on-time she might get over. I know for me it's the closeness, me feeling close to him I don't know, it just overrides all my fears.. Me feeling his love makes me open up to be myself and relaxed.. I'd say keep loving her, keep showing her and she'll begin to believe.
And you'll see and feel her change. Good luck

[Asker]

How long did it take you to open up to your partner?

[Opinion Owner]

Judging on our closeness, I'd say this.. I've been married for almost 11 year's and he still doesn't know me, we're seeking a divorce now.

I've met someone and new him less than a year at the time and felt compelled to share my life's story in the first few months of knowing him. I was willing to share all of me with that perfect stranger, trusted him with everything.. and with me. So I don't think it's a time frame

[Asker]

I am glad you met someone who is perfect for you. I wish you all the best!

[Opinion Owner]

No, it's not like that between us anymore, I'm say that to explain it's no real time frame on when and how to love someone back, or better, or more or less

[Cmasterson]

It's not "bad" but it's important you two are on the same page. How long have you been together? It's possible she will with time be on the same page.

[Asker]

Around four months..

[Cmasterson]

so yes, give it time.

[Anonymous]

She needs time to love you like you love her, everyone goes at their own pace. Maybe one day she'll love you the same as you do, until then just be patient.

[Asker]

Maybe? Doesn't that mean there is a chance she'd never love me?

[Opinion Owner]

There's always a chance for that, but she needs time. Besides that, I don't think she would stay with you if she didn't start loving you eventually. Trust me, just give her time, some girls need more time to fall in love.

[Asker]

We have been together for four months already. Does a girl need more time than months to start falling in love? I'm just curious. I'm okay with it if she needs more time since I'm actually a very patient and understanding person, if I do say so myself haha.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, she definitely needs more time. You can't really judge how much time she'd need, but I don't think that four months is nearly enough. It took me one year to fall in love with my ex-boyfriend, it just depends on the girl. ^_^

[Asker]

Thank you! I think you are right ^_^ I guess I'll just wait patiently.
Have a nice day :)

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck! ^_^

[Anonymous]

Of course not. My boyfriend craves more attention than I do from him and that's perfectly fine

[Asker]

You are only fourteen years old. Do you truly understand what love is? Even adults don't get it sometimes. But thanks anyway haha.

[apple24]

I think you need to ask her to express you her feeling! If after she tells you that she doesn't feel totally in love with you than leave! YOU LOVE YOU! I mean it! Come on man! Don't ever settle.

[Complicated-Soul]

That's the downside. You will feel sad and want reassurance.