Thank you. I've always wondered that. One girl I know was giggling and smiling at me constantly whenever I spoke (even though nothing I said was funny), and other girls thought that I was unattractive and creepy.
That's simply not true. There are loads of guys that I would say are funny but unattractive physically, and lots of guys that I find attractive who are total creeps.
If anything, I would say that girls are generally significantly better at differentiating between them than guys.
Rofl, Rainbows. I forget where but you had this post where you said it yourself that you shouldn't try to delineate between looks and personality and that they affected each other.
Not all men that we don't want to date are creepy, but men know this...if we have said no the first time, take it as no and stop pursuing. These guys only get "creepy" when they can't take no for an answer and revert to stocker mode, makes us feel a little unsafe too.
If a womans maturity level is the issue, then why would you pursue her in the first place? Because that is exactly what your describing... a woman that isn't worth it.
True there are more girls than we can all get around to in a lifetime anyhow so if the vibe gets cold then bounce. Hell bounce even if it's going good just because you can.
I don't call guys I'm not attracted to creepy automatically. There are a lot of guys I'm not attracted to, but I know that they are nice, sweet, smart guys. I'm just not attracted and won't be... its not that I think he's gross, its that I just am not interested in these guys or see them as friends.
Honestly... I call guys creepy when they ARE creepy. That's really the explanation.
It is just a way of flattering themselves. Obviously not all girls are like that but there are some that think when they walk in a room that every guy wants to do them and that to them makes those guys ''creepy''. Which in turn, makes them stuck up ''bitches'' :)
I don't think that is necessarily true. I think that guys tend to approach girls when they have liquid courage in them or are on another type of confidence trip and that can come off as creepy especially if they are sleezy about it. I don't think that females use the term creepy unless they approach her sketchy like and deserve it.
a creep is usually a guy who is a perv asking for sex on the first date or even just when meeting someone (cough, indian guys on here, cough) a creep is also a guy who once told by a girl she is not interested. he just keeps following her. he then becomes a stalker. and that's creepy. therefore he's a creeper
Honestly, I have heard this many times before also... me being a girl, I don't see why a lot of guys are called creepy either. [except for those old men giong for young ones, or stalkers)
It's an easy way to get rid of them. They do it the same way they cry "sexual harrassment" when the guy telling the joke is unattractive. Trust me, I've seen it at work. I make a sexual innuendo at work and the girl laughs. Another male coworker does the same thing to her later on in the day and he nearly gets fired for it. I'm telling you, it's an advantage they have over us.
All the girls I know only call guys who are creepy creepy. We kinda say it like it is, if we're talking about a guy and we don't think he's attractive we'll say he's not attractive, if he's downright ugly we'll say he's ugly, if he's really sweet we'll say he's really sweet...obviously we would never say to a guys face that we think he's ugly, we'd be nicer and more subtle than that, but only creepy guys get the title of creepy
Yeah people do generalise, but I just meant that the people I know would only describe someone as creepy if they were actually creepy. and for us 'creepy' would basically be what jon364 said "When I think of creepy, I think of a seedy guy hanging out by himself staring at some girls from a far. Thinking sexual thoughts about them." someone who looks like that would be a creep, of course we may be worng and he could be completely harmless but unfortunately we judge on appearances...
I don't agree with that I may not like a guy who wants me like that I only call them creepy if I make that clear and they still look at my t*ts when we talk or like they want to drag me into an alley and make me scream lol but if I want them back it isn't creepy and yes guys girls can tell when you won't stop looking
Girls call guys creepy when they know the guy is attracted to her but does not approach her, most of the time the guy just wants to use the girl for her body but does not value the girl enough to invest time into a relationship, this offends the girl and destroys her self image so she calls you creepy as a defense mechanism. Women never want to think its their fault if a relationship does not work out, so of course they will blame it on you and move on to the next guy, its simple as that, do not take it personal.
Being needy is a whole different issue however. When you are needy you are not attractive to a girl on a emotional level, this is because you do not give yourself value by challenging her.
ROFLMAO at some of the girl's responses about what can make a guy "creepy." The one about the friendly guy who approached her at odd times and just wanted to talk being "creepy" is especially funny.
Seems to me for some girls all a guy needs to do to be creepy is to talk to them at a bad time!
Personally I kind of think it depends on what type of girl we're talking about here. From what I know , the girls that tend to throw the creep word around are the shallow types who are picky about what kinds of guys they date and people they associate with in general. The less shallow types don't tend to use the word creep as loosely. Personally, I've really only used it one one guy before- one of my friend's exes who just wouldn't get the hint that she didn't want him around. Creepy is pretty much = to someone who lurks around when they aren't wanted.
Sometimes I use jacka**, f*cktard, douchebag, d*ckhead, dirtbag, jerk, etc... LOL
Other times, if they haven't been any of the above, or they seem like cool guys but I'm just not attracted for whatever reason, I just say that they were cool but the chemistry wasn't there.
I don't call them creepy...unless they are creepy!
There are a lot of creepy guys out there that's for sure but sometimes the girl is just a biggot. She can call you creepy all she wants but if she starts to harass you with it there are legal recourse's if this is happening on the job you can file a harassment complaint with the EEOC especially if your a different race culture or religion than her. There is also a way to sue someone for defamation of character.
Girls call guys "creepy" usually when they are coming on too strong and can't take a hint. Not if they just think they're unattractive.
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its not that there necessary not attracted to them more the guy did something to make them feel uncomfortable as I've had girls who I know found me attractive call me creppy cause I did something that bothered them . so its sometimes a little more complex than you think why they do this but it is very common thing to happen
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I used to be a creep, but I didn't know it. When I started taking an mellow Laissez-faire approach, that was started when I to really meet girls.
From my experience, learning the right way to flirt is a process of trial-and-error. I've made a lot of errors, but I've had a few successful attempts.
You know, we live in a culture where men and women don't really like each other...so both guys and girls often use put down words to talk about each other.
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Protip: Girls can't separate looks and personality. A cute guy is funnier. An ugly guy is creepier.
Thank you. I've always wondered that. One girl I know was giggling and smiling at me constantly whenever I spoke (even though nothing I said was funny), and other girls thought that I was unattractive and creepy.
That's simply not true. There are loads of guys that I would say are funny but unattractive physically, and lots of guys that I find attractive who are total creeps.
If anything, I would say that girls are generally significantly better at differentiating between them than guys.
Rofl, Rainbows. I forget where but you had this post where you said it yourself that you shouldn't try to delineate between looks and personality and that they affected each other.
The truth is they don't.
Not all men that we don't want to date are creepy, but men know this...if we have said no the first time, take it as no and stop pursuing. These guys only get "creepy" when they can't take no for an answer and revert to stocker mode, makes us feel a little unsafe too.
Women never say no when they mean yes. EVER.
Even when they say it with a smile and are looking at the guy in the crotch.
And drooling.
Women never say something different than what they mean.
EVER.
Its always true the first time.
Women never play games either. or test a guys resolve to see if he will keep perusing.
You are absolutely right.
If a womans maturity level is the issue, then why would you pursue her in the first place? Because that is exactly what your describing... a woman that isn't worth it.
True there are more girls than we can all get around to in a lifetime anyhow so if the vibe gets cold then bounce. Hell bounce even if it's going good just because you can.
I don't call guys I'm not attracted to creepy automatically. There are a lot of guys I'm not attracted to, but I know that they are nice, sweet, smart guys. I'm just not attracted and won't be... its not that I think he's gross, its that I just am not interested in these guys or see them as friends.
Honestly... I call guys creepy when they ARE creepy. That's really the explanation.
It is just a way of flattering themselves. Obviously not all girls are like that but there are some that think when they walk in a room that every guy wants to do them and that to them makes those guys ''creepy''. Which in turn, makes them stuck up ''bitches'' :)
I don't think that is necessarily true. I think that guys tend to approach girls when they have liquid courage in them or are on another type of confidence trip and that can come off as creepy especially if they are sleezy about it. I don't think that females use the term creepy unless they approach her sketchy like and deserve it.
a creep is usually a guy who is a perv asking for sex on the first date or even just when meeting someone (cough, indian guys on here, cough) a creep is also a guy who once told by a girl she is not interested. he just keeps following her. he then becomes a stalker. and that's creepy. therefore he's a creeper
Honestly, I have heard this many times before also... me being a girl, I don't see why a lot of guys are called creepy either. [except for those old men giong for young ones, or stalkers)
It's an easy way to get rid of them. They do it the same way they cry "sexual harrassment" when the guy telling the joke is unattractive. Trust me, I've seen it at work. I make a sexual innuendo at work and the girl laughs. Another male coworker does the same thing to her later on in the day and he nearly gets fired for it. I'm telling you, it's an advantage they have over us.
All the girls I know only call guys who are creepy creepy. We kinda say it like it is, if we're talking about a guy and we don't think he's attractive we'll say he's not attractive, if he's downright ugly we'll say he's ugly, if he's really sweet we'll say he's really sweet...obviously we would never say to a guys face that we think he's ugly, we'd be nicer and more subtle than that, but only creepy guys get the title of creepy
I know from experience that many girls just like to generalize and use the word "creep" for all of those things.
Yeah people do generalise, but I just meant that the people I know would only describe someone as creepy if they were actually creepy. and for us 'creepy' would basically be what jon364 said "When I think of creepy, I think of a seedy guy hanging out by himself staring at some girls from a far. Thinking sexual thoughts about them." someone who looks like that would be a creep, of course we may be worng and he could be completely harmless but unfortunately we judge on appearances...
I don't agree with that I may not like a guy who wants me like that I only call them creepy if I make that clear and they still look at my t*ts when we talk or like they want to drag me into an alley and make me scream lol but if I want them back it isn't creepy and yes guys girls can tell when you won't stop looking
Girls call guys creepy when they know the guy is attracted to her but does not approach her, most of the time the guy just wants to use the girl for her body but does not value the girl enough to invest time into a relationship, this offends the girl and destroys her self image so she calls you creepy as a defense mechanism. Women never want to think its their fault if a relationship does not work out, so of course they will blame it on you and move on to the next guy, its simple as that, do not take it personal.
Being needy is a whole different issue however. When you are needy you are not attractive to a girl on a emotional level, this is because you do not give yourself value by challenging her.
ROFLMAO at some of the girl's responses about what can make a guy "creepy." The one about the friendly guy who approached her at odd times and just wanted to talk being "creepy" is especially funny.
Seems to me for some girls all a guy needs to do to be creepy is to talk to them at a bad time!
Personally I kind of think it depends on what type of girl we're talking about here. From what I know , the girls that tend to throw the creep word around are the shallow types who are picky about what kinds of guys they date and people they associate with in general. The less shallow types don't tend to use the word creep as loosely. Personally, I've really only used it one one guy before- one of my friend's exes who just wouldn't get the hint that she didn't want him around. Creepy is pretty much = to someone who lurks around when they aren't wanted.
I don't!
Sometimes I use jacka**, f*cktard, douchebag, d*ckhead, dirtbag, jerk, etc... LOL
Other times, if they haven't been any of the above, or they seem like cool guys but I'm just not attracted for whatever reason, I just say that they were cool but the chemistry wasn't there.
I don't call them creepy...unless they are creepy!
There are a lot of creepy guys out there that's for sure but sometimes the girl is just a biggot. She can call you creepy all she wants but if she starts to harass you with it there are legal recourse's if this is happening on the job you can file a harassment complaint with the EEOC especially if your a different race culture or religion than her. There is also a way to sue someone for defamation of character.
around where I live, us gals call guys creepy only if they ARE creepy. when a 40 year old man is hitting on me ill call him creepy becaust he IS!
Girls call guys "creepy" usually when they are coming on too strong and can't take a hint. Not if they just think they're unattractive.
its not that there necessary not attracted to them more the guy did something to make them feel uncomfortable as I've had girls who I know found me attractive call me creppy cause I did something that bothered them . so its sometimes a little more complex than you think why they do this but it is very common thing to happen
I used to be a creep, but I didn't know it. When I started taking an mellow Laissez-faire approach, that was started when I to really meet girls.
From my experience, learning the right way to flirt is a process of trial-and-error. I've made a lot of errors, but I've had a few successful attempts.
You know, we live in a culture where men and women don't really like each other...so both guys and girls often use put down words to talk about each other.
Sad, I think
Is it a defense mechanism?