Is that bad? Is that uncommon?
Is it bad if I love my girlfriend more than she loves me?
Is that bad? Is that uncommon?
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Yea it's a bad thing. Well this is coming from a different perspective. I think my boyfriend loves me a lot more than I love him. Actually, I'm sure of it. I only got into this relationship because I was depressed and lonely and vulnerable at the time when he asked me to be his girlfriend and he seemed kinda awkward so I decided to date him and see where it went. I was just tired of being the lonely invisible girl who had nobody. Honestly I regret that decision completely. I'm barely attracted to him, he's so hard to talk to, and I hardly ever want him around. I feel bad because I'm a terrible girlfriend, but also I just know we don't have chemistry. I wish I could just break up with him. I tried to once and immediately after we got back together cause I hate hurting people's feelings and I kinda pitied him. So we're still together. I'm still unhappy. He's still doesn't know why I'm unhappy. Everything just feels like I'm trapped in this relationship because I don't want to hurt his feelings. I've been hoping he would break up with me. Relationships like these where one person is more invested than the other don't really play out well. Somebody is unhappy. Somebody is hurt. Either something changes or the relationship will eventually crash and burn.
As harsh as it might be, I think you should break up with him. Even though he will be heartbroken but I think it's better for the both of you at the end of the day. He deserves to be free from a relationship where his other half doesn't love him anymore.
I know. I've tried. I broke up with him. Then I felt awful about it. Then we got back together. It's really sad cause he's always telling me how happy I make him and he texts me heart emojis and stuff, and I just feel pity.
No, I don't think it's bad. My boyfriend definitely loves me more than I love him and I'm really happy. I think it's because he's more loving than me. I don't find it bad at all. Him loving me more makes him seem like such an amazing boyfriend and I couldn't have asked for a better one.
So it really depends. Does she seem happy? Are you happy?
She is happy. I'm afraid the same cannot be said for me though. Now I'm not complaining about how much love I'm 'receiving' from her because I understand that love is selfless and all about giving without expecting anything in return. My love for her is genuine.
How can I feel better? I'm constantly struggling with the fact that she'd never love me as much as I love her.
Can you please give me some advice or insight? You said that your boyfriend loves you more so does that mean you don't love him equally?
I'm not sure how to tell you how to feel better. I am basically your girlfriend in terms of the relationship. You said that it's not about how much love you recieve, but at the same time you're struggling that she'd never love you the same.
I love my boyfriend, I really do. But it's not as much as he loves me. I guess that is not equally, but he was much more loving than me from the start and I was worried that I wouldn't be able to keep up. I did talk to him about it and told him that I probably would never be able to make him as happy as makes me. He was understanding and said that he didn't care because it didn't matter to him. And as time as passed I have tried my best to let him know how much I appreciate him because he really does make me happy.
My advise for you would be to either to understand that she loves you as much as she can or to talk to her about it (if its really important to you) and tell her how you feel. Communication is always key.
Not uncommon but definitely unhealthy. You're going to drive her away. You need to give her some space, find other people to hang out with and other things that interest you, and grow a bit more as a person so you're actually contributing to the relationship and not just being an emotional bloodsucker.
I don't mean to be cruel, but from the middle-aged person's perspective, having been on both sides of that situation, it's really true that you need to just force yourself to back off a bit and focus on yourself and other friends so she doesn't feel smothered.
No one can love someone the same amount.
She may love you with all that she has but that might not be as much as all that you have.
I love my boyfriend more than life itself and with all that I have. But I don't know... there's a whole other level that he operates on. So much deeper than I am able to reach. And that's fine.
for me its always bad to love someone more than he does because they gonna use it against to you. like they said enogh is enough
Yes its bad.
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