Is it wrong to not let my girlfriend twerk at parties? LIke if there's only 4 girls twerking? What if there were 10?

[2yfdal]

So we got in this big fight about if she can't twerk at parties then parties are boring for her. I told her that i dont like it when she twerks because sometimes its only her and 3-4 other girls and guys are always looking at her butt and possibly trying to make a move on her. My friend has seen guys about to try and do stuff with her but he stops them or he warns them that she has a boyfriend. And also everytime she does people come up to me and tell me, "your gonna let her dance like that in front of everyone". Now in my case when i go with her, im usually just standing around with my friends because i dont smoke and can't drink. I can basically do nothing, and while she's dancing having fun, im just standing around. Not sure if mabey im just overreacting but any help or tips will be great.

[Esplorare]

So is the real problem that she doesn't actually, truly know how to dance without shaking and wiggling her ass? Do you know how to dance? Maybe the solution is for you to grind with her or let her twerk on you. You can make it pretty obvious and clear that you two are together with small gestures like being affectionate while she dances or putting your arms around her waist.

While technically, you don't have a place to tell her what to do, she should have enough respect for you not to create a certain type of uncomfortable situation. It's not cool that she wants to do something that blatantly makes you uncomfortable and puts you in a standoffish position because she can't dance without shaking her ass. -_-

[2yfdal]

Yea i mean its a house party so like every girl twerks there, not many other dances that you could do. She knows how to dance in other ways but were not gonna slow dance at a party hahaha. But i just wanted to know if its a wrong thing for a girl in a relationship to twerk. But thanks for responce it helped.

[Esplorare]

You're welcome :)
Is it wrong for a girl in a relationship to twerk? Not necessarily but it sure as hell is highly disrespectful and inconsiderate for her to twerk at parties knowing it makes you uncomfortable and knowing that it could present a negative situation with you being in the corner and guys on the dance floor checking her out. That's really tacky and kinda stupid on her part. Twerking and slow dancing aren't your only options at a house party lol she sounds like one of those girls who don't know what to do and how to move if they're not shaking their ass.

[Prettygurl12]

While I understand that the behavior is questionable... let me tell you why you were faced with resistance with her.

You do NOT control her. You can't "let" her do anything. She's her own person. You cannot order her to behave in a certain way. That's why she's throwing a fit. You have no business telling her what to do. Rephrase this "let" business when you speak to her again.

[2yfdal]

I know i dont contro her. If we went to a party and she wanted to then there's nothing i can do about it. But i was telling her that it makes me uncomfortable. But thanks for the help

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Well you don't like it but she's having fun and isn't doing anyone any harm so I think it's fine for her to twerk away.

[Anonymous]

Your a better man than I for putting up with that in the first place.

Either 'dance' with her or find another girl (you might even find a classy one. They've seem to have alluded GAG). You can't confront her about it and then roll over when she says she's going to do it anyway. Setting a terrible precedent there. You're young, so you'll probably do that one and regret it later.

[Intraluminal]

Well, I'm old so my idea may not work, but could you maybe get *under* her while she twerks, so she's twerking on *you* instead of random guys?

[2yfdal]

She never twerked on any guy but i always think about going to dance with her but then it just feels weird because i would be the only guy there dancing but i should try it, its probelly better then just standing around

[Intraluminal]

You should try it. Ar the very least you'll showbthat you have the balls to do it, which will probably get you some cred. Plus her twerking on you? Gotta be hot!

[Kylesar]

I hate provocative dance, but I don't care what she does at a party, so long as she doesn't start over-stepping boundaries or getting drunk or smoking

Just let her do it, especially if it's fun for her