Tired of the bar scene, what to do?

[leaky]

Thanks in advance for your help..

I'm 31 now, the pattern of my life has consisted of 1-2 of relationship followed by 6-12 months of generally self destructive behavior and casual sex for as long as I can remember..

I consider myself about a 6.5/10 on the looks scale and a 10/10 on the intelligence/personality scale (probably one out of 1000).. I literally get paid to talk and can talk with the best of them.. I work a professional job, have no kids, and financially stable, etc.. etc.. Not an asshole, I know how to treat a female, probably a decent catch all around..

Years ago learned the "bar scene".. got good at it. Learned to dress down, act like an asshole, and how to pickup girls. Very good at it, actually it's hard for me to go out without bringing some random girl home sometimes.. got really great in bed from the practice as well, which helps keep my "friends" around..

Yep it's great bragging rights, my guy friends admire me.. even recently got a good 2-3 weeks out of this ridiculously hot stripper who was probably a 9.9/10 on the looks scale and was just way way too much fun to spend time with.. she even bought me drinks, it was great..

Typically I'm sleeping with 2-4 female "friends" at any give time.. don't even need to do anything except for answer the phone when I'm in the mood and hit ignore when I'm busy or just not.. and I'm so f***ing SICK of it.

These girls I meet you couldn't even get a hold of unless they wanted to drink and party.. some admit they just don't "date".. most are INSANE..

I'd love to meet someone I DIDN'T need to sleep with..

Anyway so I suck at sitting around on a Friday night. Certainly am not going to turn into some angel watching movies alone... certainly will not be happy hanging out with drunk guy friends who got a night off from their wives or girlfriends..

But it's obvious the people I meet out at bars are just the wrong people for me now.. What do the decent single females do on a Friday night? Should I just keep doing what I'm doing until someone decent comes along.. Or maybe try online dating?.. Or the grass just always greener on the other side?

Help.

[tex151]

First thing is need to keep that ego of yours in check, ya so what I've had sex with lots of chicks to, but guess what who cares. Do you really think your going to find a great catch at a bar, nope the only thing you might catch is the gift that keeps on giving, if you catch my drift.

Your a big shot remember you get paid to talk, and you talk with the best of the best, and you can't even get a girlfriend come on you must not be that great of a talker, but yet you can get a hot stripper, to buy you drinks. Your full of it, if your as good as you say you are, you would already have a gf, and you would know that a bar or a strip club is one of the worst places to find a chick, have you tried a park, getting into some sort of exercise class, or maybe even the grocery store, think about it hot shot, it's really not that hard to find a chick.

[Anonymous]

You sound very insecure and you are purposely sabotaging any chances you have at a relationship with a "good" girl with your self-destructive behavior. I think you are afraid of an emotional connection with a woman, probably with anyone, so you hide behind all this activity and destructive behavior to avoid your fears. Until you can deal with your insecurities and the reasons for your fear of emotional connection, there is no point trying to find another group of women to sleep with.