Im a tease? What does that mean?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean to be a tease? My guy friend told me i was a tease.

We study together a lot. Weve gotten pretty close over the years and i hadn't really seen him as more than a friend until recently. Weve hung out a few times. I was nervous and when i felt he was getting too attatched id push him away. Id make excuses to not hang out. But when we're together, we always have fun. We sit really close, where our arms are touching. We make dirty jokes with eachother. I tease him and vice versa. He tells me im cute and smart and all that stuff.

So one night i brought him to meet my friends and they all loved him. And they kept asking if there was something going on between us. That night i realized that i do like him.

The next time we hung out we were studying and i sat with him and we kept touching. I dressed girlier than usual that day. I was nicer. And he told me i was a tease. I asked him why and he just laughed and wouldn't tell me. I said i can't be a tease if i dont know what im doing. (He knows im a virgin and I've never been with a guy)

Is being a tease bad? Is it sexual? Innocent?

[DoggyDude]

If he's laughing about it, might just simply be a polite way to let you know he's very sexually attracted to you just then.

"Your such a tease!" though could mean he is commenting on your sense of humour and making fun of him somehow.

It's not bad being a tease as long as your not doing it to make him deliberately horny with no opportunity to take it further.

So, being a tease is only bad if your doing it in a mean way. Being a tease can be sexual, but not necessarily. Yes it can be innocent too.

[Asker]

I didn't know i was turning him on. (That is whats happening right?) I realized i like being around him. I like the closeness that we have. The other day we were studying and we were sitting really close and out of nowhere he said he had to go wash his face. And then i saw him walk outside for a bit and take a deep breath. That was random.

I mean im starting to like him. And yeah maybe my shirts have been alittle low cut lately, and i put alittle more effort into my appreance. And i sit alittle closer. And he does bring up sex a lot lately and relationships as well. But he knows im a virgin. I've known him for 2 years. Im not sure if he wants only that or to date me as well? Im not ready to let anyone in my pants. Its too soon.

[DoggyDude]

It sounds like he likes you. Sounds like he's turned on by you. Sounds like he's interested in more. Which is a great potential relationship! Just need to work out if its something that's going to last for you.

I would say, that you should enjoy your time together, find out more about his long term views. See if you can see yourself having a future together (or at least can't see yourself not).

I would recommend not becoming overly worried about sex and virginity (unless your someone who has decided to set some boundaries around sexual activity, in which case you just need to see if this guy can respect those boundaries and is compatible with them). You should be prepared (by which I mean have taken precautions and considerations to make sure you can have sex if you reach a point where you want to without it becoming problematic). Once you reach that point, you can let things happen naturally. If one or both are shy just get comfy expressing your desires together without discourage.

[zorro8888]

"I tease him and vice versa"
"We make dirty jokes with each other"
"sit really close, where our arms are touching"
"I dressed girlier than usual that day"
"I was nicer"

Basically all of that lol. Just another way of saying you're being flirtatious.

[Asker]

Oh i see. Could he be interested?

[zorro8888]

Thanks for mh!

[Mystique01]

In my opinion? He definitely likes you. You wouldn't be considered a "tease" if you were smthg he didn't want. My guess is he's got it for you pretty bad. But he probably isn't sure how YOU feel (if you really like him, or are just being a flirt).

It's up to you! If you actually like him, then find a way to let him know! But if you DON'T like him, then by all means please don't play with his feelings. Based on what you've mentioned it seems like he likes you.

[Anonymous]

No, I was told that before by a guy who likes me. It's not a bad thing, and it's innocent. But it also probably means he might like you.

[Asker]

My friends think he does. But im not sure if he meant it in an innocent way. Soon after that he got up and said he had to wash his face and he went outside to take a deep breath. He has been bringing up sex a lot. And relationships. I dont feel awkward talking about it but i feel awkward telling people we talk about it.

[Opinion Owner]

He likes you. Make a move if you like him too.

[apple24]

STP BEING A TEASE