Thursday February 25th 2010 I found out that my girlfriend was on the phone with another guy (since January 15th 2010). At this period of time they exchange about 200 messages and talk on the phone for about 15 minutes at a time about 5-6 times excluding the last weekend before I found out. I have to note that she has a male friend that I allow her to go out with alone and talk to them. I met them before and all three of as went out together and they are my friend somehow. I am sure nothing physical is going on with them. Basically she is completely free to do whatever she wants as long as she tells me. I never told her “no you are not going to see this guy.”
the weekend before I found out they talked on Saturday night from 10:30 to 12:00 he called her 3 times (about 15, 15 and 40 minutes) within this period of time and then called her again at 12:30 for another 5-10 minutes(after about half hour since the last of the three calls ended). She was at my place before, we had sex and she said she was bored and that she was going home. On Sunday she came to my place around noon and she was very “hyper” and “moody.” " We talked and agree to take some time apart of each other for a week, she walked me to my gym a couple of hours later and about half hour later she text me that she misses me already. After that start texting again on Sunday at which time I called her a couple of times and the second time she told me "why are you still calling me.” 15 minutes later (as I found out later) than that she called him and talked to him with some interactions (he called her back) for about 50minutes. Then again he called her around 9:15 for another 15 minutes. Since that phone call he didn’t call her again. They exchanged a couple of messages on Monday, a couple on Tuesday and 5-10 on Wednesday. On Thursday until I confronted her whey didn’t send any but he text her at night but obviously she didn’t respond.
I never called her since she told me, “why are you still calling me," until I accidentally checked her phone records. And when I say accidentally it was completely an accident. We are on a family plan, since we are together for about 4 years now, and that day I decided to check if we can get a better deal on a promotion by T-Mobile. So I found out that if I changed the plan I could save some money and get more service…. Anyway long story short I deleted her message privileges, something when wrong with the plan as T-Mobile wanted and initiation fee for the plan and a contract so I went to add them back, at which time found out that they changed their deal from 400 to 300. This made me go into her account and find out how much where left and as I was crawling down the page my eye caught a phone call for 39 minutes and then I found out about everything.
Thanks in advance
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this guy was probably giving her emotional and mental attention that she felt she wasn't getting from you. also this guy was going through a lot of problems and she probably felt like she was being a good friend by being there for him.. it seems like she really does care and I don't think she was cheating. it seems like the guy could have been looking for a way "in there" but I doubt she was, she just liked the attention. of course she hid it from you because its not very pleasant for a boyfriend to hear.
try giving her the attention that she was getting from this guy. take care of home first and then this will probably go away. good luck