Girlfriend wants to sleep topless with a thong when sharing a room with my guy friend?

[Anonymous]

On a weekend trip with a guy friend and my girlfriend, in the hotel room, my girlfriend is getting stripped down to her sexy thong panties to go to sleep. she even acknowledged herself that my friend was still awake. I made it clear in a polite way by saying a couple times "hey here's a Tshirt to put on to sleep in" but she refused. She was walking around in the dim room in just the thong panties fully knowing I didn't like it. Then she tried to force me to cuddle with her, I told her I wasn't in the mood, she tried to physically force me to cuddle until it got to the point we had to go to the car outside to discuss. Without me even mentioning it, she said "I know you're pissed about me being topless" I take care of this girl in every way including financially, I'm 36, she's 26. I don't think it's too much to ask to respect me when I made it clear it didn't make me comfortable. So what does she do? We come back in the room, and she peels her clothes right back off (sun is coming up by this point, friend is still laying in bed awake wondering what's going on). I know not everyone cares much about this sort of thing and doesn't mind their girl being half naked around other people/friends, but I'm not a fan of it personally and I made that clear in a sensible way. What do you think?

[GingerGuy]

First, you made it clear in a respectful way, but it doesn't really sound like you actually told her how it made you feel and how much it bothered you. Yes she kind of got the idea obviously but actually saying the words sometimes and the tone in your voice makes the difference. Some people don't view nudity as a big deal at all (your girlfriend I'm guessing), but, she should respect your feelings also, even if she thinks it's silly or stupid. I would talk to her again about this but really talk to her. Tell her how much it bothers you and why. If it continues then she doesn't care or respect your feelings and maybe it's time to find a new girlfriend, one who will respect you.

[GingerGuy]

It sounds like you two are very different people in general. I'm guessing this isn't the first issue between you?

[mikemx55]

Sounds like she wanted to create a discussion, since she knew you wouldn't like it in the first place.

Don't you think she was teasing your friend?

[mikemx55]

or try to make a fight between you and your friend

[Rcjh1987]

yikes what's her problem.. first of all she's doing that in front of a friend of yours SERIOUSLY I would never do that with someone else in the room... it would be different if it were only the two of you in the room... she doesn't respect you or the relationship if she did she would've put clothes on.

[desidoll]

Seriously? What in the world does she think of it? She wants to tease your friend and enjoy his attention. That doesn't mean she will cheat on you but she's being disrespectful towards you. I'd never go topless in front of my boyfriend's friend no matter what.

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO

[XicaDasilva]

She should of respected your decision. Sounds to me like she wanted your friends attention than as well. But yet again some girls are very comfortable. I mean wouldn't she be the same way if you were to be at the beach with her?

[Rocket_Queen]

That your girlfriend was completely disrespectful towards you. She obviously disregarded your feelings about the situation which were not unreasonable feelings. I think you need a new girlfriend.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Your chick is obviously stepping right over your boundaries and is aware of it. What for? Probably trying to motivate your friend to make a move and testing you in the process. Basically, she's trying to get a threesome in my opinion.

I mean think about it... if the friend was hers and female and you just start walking around with no pants on and ignoring her trying to get you to use a towel and you try to "cuddle" in front of her friend and won't just go to sleep... why would you be doing these things? I mean it's obvious.

This chick wants the swinger lifestyle and she obviously doesn't care too much if you're not about it. She is aware that it's irritating you but she's still trying to induce the situation. She's aware, you're aware... and your poor fucking friend is probably over there aware of it as well. He probably wants to fuck, but knows that bullshit would piss you off and can see how uncomfortable you are already.

Your chick is either going to respect your boundaries or she's going to do exactly what she's doing... obviously, this will be worse if you were not around.

[tzdc21]

Dump that b! tch. She clearly doesn't give a damn about you and your feelings. Otherwise she would have stopped doing that. No check that... she wouldn't have done that all to begin with! Now you know that you need to get the hell away from her this instant! You do all this stuff for her and this is how she treats you? Hell no bro.

[snowangle]

Total lack of respect on her end. You'd think she'd be more considerate since you're taking care of her financially.

[secundus]

She was very disrespectful to you, or at least clueless as to what she is advertising to your friend. Serious red flags. Run!

[Rissyanne]

She should respect your wishes. Sounds like she wanted your friends attention.

[Asker]

I know it might seem like that but she actually claims to be disgusted by my friend and is upset he's on the trip with us, she said his energy ruined it for her. I really don't think she's into him honestly, not her type at all.

From my perspective I see this weird pattern where she consciously does things to push me away, then once I'm thoroughly turned off or upset, she'll do a 180 turn and try to be sweet and get my affections. It's mind boggling and a major turn off and annoyance. Like I said, without me even saying anything directly she acknowledged that she knew I was uncomfortable with it

[Rissyanne]

Are you in love with girl? She sounds very immature

[Asker]

Yea I am in love with her. There's a lot of positive qualities and chemistry that I have here that I havnt quite had before that keeps me hangin on. But even she admits to being immature in ways. It leads to most of our adventures and outings ending in drama for one reason or another, which is a major ongoing issue. This weekend trip gone bad is just another in a long series. she's said many times that "I'm only 26 and I'm happy about that" in defense of these things.

[Rissyanne]

Is the positive quality she has is sex? And the fact she is 10 years younger than you? If the ongoing drama is something you live with... ok then. You need to think of long term. Do you want to marry her? Have a family with her?

[Asker]

Nah I'm not thinking with my groin and been in several relationships, I'm not desperate for sex. We actually have a lot in common and really have a nice harmony when things are normal, I could totally see marrying her and having a family with her IF these strange immature & selfish outbreaks were to stop, I couldn't and wouldn't advance the relationship to the next level if they didn't. I've been very clear and open about this. She just keeps promising she'll try harder to be more mature when she's tempted to create unnecessary drama. It's gotten a bit better, it was even more atrocious at first. but it's still a several times per week thing. I've been on the dating scene for awhile, it was exasperating trying to find someone who I've found as much chemistry & things in common as I have with her, it's just such a shame she's still so immature and selfish at 26. Very self absorbed, very much about her self image (she does modeling), very intelligent & conscious on the flip side

[Rissyanne]

You need to seriously think hard about this before marrying this girl. Good luck

[secundus]

Run! I married a girl that was immature because I loved her and she was beautiful. 14 years and two kids later she had an affair then left, and I paid her handsomely to do it. It was beyond painful.

[KrisPW]

She did it disrespectfully, she's wrong and should have covered.

[sailorjupiter]

what a childish lady, yup she's crazy and not respecting you.
kinda like attention seeker

[Kylesar]

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[abundantlyrich]

I guess she wants to get your friends attention.

She sounds like spoilt and immature

[natralblack]

You're reaction I 100% normal for the situation you've explained.

[Dallsimo]

I think my girlfriend can walk around anyway she wants! As long as i'm there to be able to witness people's reaction! Lpl

[dudeman]

you dump her immediately in you mind. id use her for sex for the foreseeable future.

[Travonjones]

Dump the bitch and move on. She doesn't respect you so it's time for the cuntcake to GTFO. (Classic WHORE behavior... I'm guessing she's had miles of Peg-D up in her Grand Canyon vagina )

[legalboxers]

something seems wrong here. why are you financially taking care of her?

[BuchitaBuchys]

She doesn't sound like a good girlfriend tbh.

[HighValue]

She is promiscuous. Leave her.

[CoolSky01]

she is an attention whore, nuff said

[Bandit74]

I wouldn't like it either.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be ok with that either

[TonyRyanAgain]

That's a hoe move man, you're dating a hoe.