Why did she Stand Me Up?

[NoNutsSingingVoice1]

So this woman I met on POF said she really finds me attractive, loves me, and says I am really good radio host and very handsome and funny. But when I cleane dup my place and made some dinner and bought a bottle of wine, she never showed and then she text me sayign she was way too nervous to come to my place, and she hasn't texted me since.

Is it because I don't have a drivers license tat she stood me up? That I'm a mechanic? Because I'm too tall?

[JuicyBrain]

Dude, she told you. She was too nervous!
She didn't text you since because she is embarrassed. If you can accept that this happened and stop searching for your flaws, you could talk to her and make her feel comfortable again. Get to meet her in an informal way. Like in a park, ust to talk. Give her a chance to get used to you and the nervousness will slowly disappear. If you make an effort to understand her and give her a chance, you might discover she is worth it.

[JuicyBrain]

Also, like @LaVilaine said, merting you at your house, in an environment you fully control could potentially be dangerous for her. You got to meet in a public place and win her trust first. That's why I suggested the park

[LaVilaine]

Exactly ^^^

[Cmasterson]

Well for one anyone who displays that much affection soon is a red flag and perhaps she was too nervous because she feels that she won't be the same or she could've just been playing you the whole time. You could just ask if she wanted to be picked up, coming over to someones place the first time meeting can be really intimidating and I'd be cautious.

[LaVilaine]

Wait wait wait. Was this your first date? At your house? If so, there was no way in hell she would ever have come by.

[NoNutsSingingVoice1]

Why would that be?

[LaVilaine]

Because she was afraid you would a) rape her or b) rape and murder her.

[NoNutsSingingVoice1]

But I gave her mother (she still lives at home with her) a picture of my ID and motorcycle plate.)

[LaVilaine]

So? That doesn't mean anything. You never meet someone from the internet at your house. Always in a public space.

[AzureGirl]

Or going to someone's house on the first date isn't ideal. Try a more public place next time.

[KingHippoRules]

Who really knows