Male friends make fun of each other but don't really mean it. Female friends complement each other but don't really mean it. Srs. Women talk shit on other women all the time.
Why do women talk so much shit behind their 'friends' back?
Ok, so, there are "friendships", and there are FRIENDSHIPS.
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Imagine how you -- along with virtually everyone in the world, male and female alike -- are with PROFESSIONAL social networks, in this way. (That's "social networks" in the real sense, not in the online sense.)
With professional colleagues, you maintain at least a certain degree of... well... **professionalism**. Hmm why is it called that. Outside a professional context -- when certain people aren't around -- I'm sure you talk just as much shit as everyone else does.
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The difference with women is, the distinction between "professional networks" and "social networks" isn't NEARLY as clear as it is for men.
So, that kind of socialization ^^ tends to create an atmosphere where ALL of our "networks" start to develop a vibe that's more like the "professional" one.
The other part of the blame goes to the history of how women socialize in general. Remember, women historically didn't work in occupations, in the way men did. So, the only way for women to really band together and exert any sort of influence on the society around them, was to form social networks that WERE like "professional" networks. Sometimes, this sort of thing is formalized into actual organizations. Like, when you see a women's charity organization -- like DAR or the Junior League or whatever -- that's pretty much an extension of a larger "friend group" -- **BUT** the dynamic is much closer to what men might experience in a professional organization (or in a fraternal organization, like the Masons or VFW or Elks or whatever).
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Tl;dr --
1) Women are discouraged, our whole lives long, from explicitly "starting shit" DIRECTLY... especially in group situations.
2) We have broader networks that can be characterized as "friendships", but that have more of a "professional" vibe. You guys experience the same thing in any sort of work situation, but, the difference is that this sort of thing doesn't stop at *literal* WORK situations for women.
3) With our CLOSE friends... it's not like this at all. I mean, there's a reason why we differentiate between "besties" and "girlfriends" more generally. With our BEST friends... we're blunt and honest as fuck.
Bahah our friend "eternal_flame" has apparently blocked me -- right after posting about how women are more bitchy. Smh So, I'll just write what I typed in response to that opinion, below:
That may be true -- but, to whatever extent that's true, it's equally true that MEN are much more SITUATIONALLY "bitchy" than women are.
... as in the case I pointed out there (when an attractive women enters the picture... trust me girl, the ONLY place where "bros before hos" is true is in the dictionary). ... but also loads and loads of other cases involving *competition* of whatever type.
In other words, what I'm calling "male bitchiness" is much **less predictable** -- and thus more dangerous -- than female bitchiness. Because, ultimately, male LOYALTY is not as concrete as female loyalty.
When things are easy -- and/or when there's nothing to compete for -- I think you're right: The average man is less backstabby and more loyal than the avreage woman. But, when things are HARD? Or when there's a LOT of stuff to compete for? Ahahahahha no fucking way. Under those circumstances, WOMEN are the loyal ones.
Hence why EVERY "evil dictator" type -- Hitler, Escobar, you fucking name
Women are stuck hanging out with a lot of people who aren't really friends because we have bigger social circles. So your friend may have a friend you can't stand, but who you are expected to hang out with. Or you have to entertain your boyfriend/husband's friends' women all the time. Or be social with extended family members who you may or not like.
Guys get away with being distant from people if they don't really like them. We're expected to be cheerful and inclusive of everyone, like them or not. That shit can be exhausting.
Sometimes we girls are just bitches and while we are smiling at you and talking nice to your face, we’re thinking what a skank, bitch, or hoe you are behind your back or how such and such a guy is an awful piece of poop. I don’t know why sometimes we do it. We get territorial and possessive and we want sometimes what other girls have or the guy she’s with, or we think they can do better but they just can’t see it. Not sure. Sometimes a girl is just a bitch. Sometimes we just had a bad day. *shrug*
Guys do it too. I've heard it. Not all girls do but the reason for it is that women are very competitive with each other. It's like an impulse, other girls can just rub us the wrong way, even if we are friends. I don't trash my personal friends, if I have a problem, I just let them know, so it doesn't get in the way. Girls don't like being around other girls who flirt, or feeling like another girl is better than her. It's just that sometimes we are wired like that. They've actually done a decent amount of research on why we are like this. My best friend and I are both outgoing which causes us to subconsciously fight for who is more entertaining. We won't even be mean to each other but it's so obvious to both of us that we are fighting over it.
That's not really how it goes in reality. Life is not a high school movie. People aren't like that.
In general though I think maybe women less likely to be mean to someone's face, they try to nice anyway, even with people they don't like and aren't friends with
Women don't wanna be seen as haters or judge mental so always being direct with comments are avoided. People don't take criticism well either. If I catch myself talking about a friend it's either I can't say it to them because their reaction may go bad or I don't want to always bring up everything that bothers me about my friend. We throw shade sometimes though
That's why a lot of girls like to have guys as friends cos girls in general are more bitchy than guys. There seems to be a lot of jealousy amongst girls. I've known a few two-faced so called friends , but I just cut contact with people like that.
Guys are "bitchy" x10000000000000 as soon as an attractive woman steps into their midst. Ahahahahha oh it gets bad... and sometimes it evne gets physical.
You misread my opinion. I didn't state guys aren't bitchy. If you read my comment correctly you'd see I stated" more" bitchy
Girls are more bitchy than guys in general. They get jealous of their own friends and are more two-faced than guys. There's not as many guys who get jealous of their own friends compared to how many girls get jealous. Girls are thrice as bitchy as guys. It's more in a females nature to be a jealous bitch than it is in a guys nature
Males do so shit talk their friends. I hang out with my crush and one of his best friends and all they do is shit talk their friends and talk about how much they don't like them.
Not all women talk shit about their friends to be honest but of course, there are women like that. I have a friend who kept saying this friend of her already broke up with her boyfriend but from what I have seen, it's not true at all.
I have no idea, some girls need to take a couple chill pills and stop being jealous about every little thing. Constantly bitching, so annoying. Though only the childish ones do that
Tbh it depends on what but I do both. In some cases I bring up shit casually and causiously, while in other case I bluntly day it or talk about it behind their backs.
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