The crux of the matter is that she found an excuse to dump you, in other words, she stopped being attracted to you. Any other tangent or reason doesn't matter since the outcomes remains the same.
Nice guys over do it. It's a concept nice guys don't get and girls can't explain well.
Understanding the dating dance isn't a logical process is the first part; women are supposedly turned off by nice guys but turned on by the ones who don't treat them well - myth. What happens is that the so called nice guy undergoes a transformation and overdoes everything, causing romantic gestures to be common place and losing their value. A good analogy is that if diamonds were all over the floor, nobody would care about them. The fact they're scarce makes them all the more desirable.
When you became the party animal you conveyed what you didn't in your relationship; confidence and planned spontaneity. You wanted to see your girlfriend once a week, I'm presuming way too soon, and thus became boring and "clingy". When you did whatever you wanted the girls saw you as fun to be with and made you more attractive as a result.
Don't lay it on so thick next time and you'll do better. Take it slower, don't ever arrange regular meetings because that's boring.
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Girls just like a hint of danger. They don't want to know what is going to come next, we want out hearts to race. And the bad guy asshole type gives us that. Although we might have been hurt a lot in the past by the "bad boys" we still go back to them, cause we like the danger and temptation. ((The same question can be asked as to why most guys would rather prefer the slutty girl that will give it up quick than a nice girl that wont)) But in the end, we go for a good guy. Which is all that really counts. When were ready to settle down or get into a serious relationship we will go for the good guy. We've already had our fun, and now were ready for someone that can love us, and who we can really love back. Her saying you were clingy just sounds like an excuse to me. Just put it all behind you, and move on. You seem like a great guy and you'll find a girl that you really like and who likes your for the nice,sweet,caring guy that you really are. Just don't change yourself for some girl.
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