Is it weird that When my girlfriend rejects me Sexually, I feel like cheating on her to satisfy my Ego?

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I don't know what it is but if I initiate sex which I rarely do anyway and I get rejected by her. I'm planning a funeral for someone in a split second. But I feel it inside. Like I'm burning..

I feel almost disrespected like my ego doesn't give a fuck if she's tired. She just becomes another woman to me when she denies me it.
What should I do about these feelings? I've gotten angry before about it but she gets all smug about it and has a dumb smirk on her face after I go and do something else without her she comes and gets all cuddly and like she acknowledges my anger.
by the way whenever she wants it I do it.
In my head I pretty much act out what I'd do if I was to cheat.. How do I not take it so personally when I know she knows it makes me pissed so she's disregarding that too
I have a fragile ego so is it Normal?
I don't feel other things much

ruthfaithseer · Accepted Answer

It is common in young guys mentality... Boytality it's called. And no it's not weird it's outright wrong and pitiful. Everyone out there has wanted it while their so hasn't. It sucks, and it's normal to get a little grumpy. But to get angry. Want to cheat to pet your ego? I mean it doesn't matter how fragile your ego is if that's your response... In slot of young people there's this phase where it's almost like a badge of honor or manhood to have sex, so it's less about doing something with your so than it is project an image. An image of I'm sexually active. Which is wrong. It is when it's seen as I'll look cool or I look like the man. It's less about being intimate with a partner, or even getting a nut for that matter, than to no matter what portray that you're an alpha male. Young boys want this view to be cast on other girls, because in the boys mind if I'm getting sum and never denied it... Then they'll see me as a student... Or I must be something desirable. Here's the funny part. These boys even want other males to see this image that they're trying to cast. Slot of times women with these guys are hugely under pleased. But will say they are. And if the boys with the Boytality are ever told this they get hugely upset lol! And will say no I'm good she says it too... But us girls giggle behind these boys backs. What's hot is the guys without the ego.. I mean when your only strong suit is I've had sex, and these boys have to make it known, then they aren't much of a man and probably don't have shit going for them

TechnoGirl · Accepted Answer

It is completly normal, it happens. That lust, us horrible humans want.
If by sexually you mean having sex and all then i understand why she rejected you.
But you added saying you do it when she wants it... confusion, confusion.
Next time, when she wants it. Dont do it as well, show her how it feels. And dont just reject her once and do it the next time. Reject her twice or thrice (did i spell it right?) And wait to the day she explodes like a bomb. Trust me, girls are no different from guys when it comes to these things. At some point it will happen right?

Anyway...
Main one! DONT CHEAT!!! I know its just a thought but... dont do it. Let her know when your actually interested in someone else and want to satisfy your needs. Its better that way then your girlfriend finding out your a freaking bastard who cheated on her. It will look bad.
Its just my own opinion, i hope its not offending. ( i dont think its offending)
Later you lustful human.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

You have issues and needs to go get counseling. This is why you don't have premarital sex before marriage because it becomes what you're going through now. She is not entitled to have sex with you. She is not your wife and you don't have authority over her and neither does she to you. Don't be stupid and do something like what you're talking about before she leaves you. What you're doing /looking to do is abuse. It is not normal to think the way you do. But that is a view of self-entitlement and it's not healthy. Obviously, she is playing mind games with you and your thinking about doing it to her. It's best to just leave and get out of this relationship.

jnett · Accepted Answer

She's not for you, you're not for her. If you're having all these issues now, what do you think the future will be like? Find someone you're compatible with, break up and do not cheat. That's the worst thing you could do. The fact that you're thinking about it, means you're not truly in love with her. Break up

normalice · Accepted Answer

pretty normal, I think. Sexual rejection is always rough, and being rejected by 'your own' girl is even rougher. I suspect that maybe a lot of girls don't understand how much guys despise being teased.

But, cheating is actually a great deal more difficult than it sounds. Not only do you have to find a willing participant, but you also have to go through with it guilt-free. Easy to do in a fit of anger, but then you have to live with it even after the anger subsides.

martyfellow · Accepted Answer

It sounds as if she is using sex to manipulate you, which is not uncommon. I don't think she will care so much if you cheat. That would not be a way to 'get even' with her.

Instead , ask her to go with you for couples counseling, so she can hear that she is being manipulative from a third party!

Anonymous · Answer

SO you want her to have sex with you even when she doesn't want to and can't get into it all? So basically your needs and wants trump hers and your sex life should really revolve around you and your needs and she should just deal with it if she doesn't want to get cheated on? Both should be on board for it or if not then it shouldn't happen. If your not capable of that then it's probably best you stay out of relationships...

jemjem2017 · Answer

the problem is your self. maybe she is not yet ready to have sex with you. i know its hard to get rejected but, you have to understand and respect her, if you really love her. it's all about communication, have you ever talk to her?

SilverRain92 · Answer

You can reject her another time to make her feel like you feel when she rejects you. Then wait a little bit and initiate talk with her about this issue. If she will keep acting like this maybe it's better to move on, because her behavior is disrespectful

tzdc21 · Answer

I wouldn't cheat if I were you. That's just disrespectful. However, since she knows it bugs you when you are rejected, and if she does it a lot of times, and this behavior continues, then I think it's time to cut your losses and kick her to the curb.

Anonymous · Answer

You sound like you have issues, man. It's not you she's rejecting, occasionally out bodies just don't cooperate.

BaileyisDarcy · Answer

You calm the fuck down, its not that important, jesus christ.

deraz24 · Answer

If you feel like that I think its better to separate

Anonymous · Answer

If she's rejecting you a significant portion of the time, dump her. Without any doubts. Find someone higher drive.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes we have weird ass thoughts like this, it may happen because of underlying issues, I think it would be really wrong if you actually did cheat on her pls don't

Anonymous · Answer

Uh why are you in a relationship with her?

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

Do yourself a favor and break up with her.

Anonymous · Answer

break up with her, do her a favour

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