Why do girls always stare at me but don't talk to me?

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I have seen almost every girl looking at me when I walk around my school campus. Some outgoing girls comment me as SEXY but they never talk to me face to face. 3 of them had a crush on me but never talked to me. Since last 2 years I've been told very sexy, hot, cute, extremely gud looking and what not and I know I am. I've also been told that i have a great personality, i am good in studies. I am even in a good shape and muscular. I've often turned out to be arrogant but I was just shy. There is a girl one year senior than me and I've seen her and her friends staring and pointing towards me. But sumtimes she completely turns around or runs away when she sees me approaching towards her. She also sometimes avoid coming near me. Why is it so? Some of my average looking guys have been approached by other girls but I've not been approached a single time. Can you please help why girls don't talk to me?

FreshOutaIdeas · Accepted Answer

Hey man, just echoing what some of the birdies are saying...

Coming from a guy who faces the same things, I can say that they most likely find you "intimidating", that they probably don't think they can snag you so route for just watching you go by. I'm sure plenty of gals have fantasised though haha!

Pro tip, if you like the look of a girl, try your best to get talking to her first. ***AND DO NOT BE SUPRISED IF YOU GET INITIAL KICKBACKS IF YOU APPEAR CONFIDENT!! (Also note that many a jealous person may accuse you of many things, i. e. being arrogant, so long as you know you are grouded enough just carry on).

Speaking from experience I've probably faced more "I like you but will turn you away now" moments than most fellas, because girls have an awful habit of overthinking situations and not believing the fact your interested. This isn't a bad thing though, it'll help you filter out the decent girls from the ones that will open their legs on command.

Most things in life swing like a pendulum following a spectral line, genuinely ugly guys and gals (in character and looks) will have a hard time getting any at all. Decent people will simultaneously get a lot of attention (as you do) but have to work hard at it also - sometimes at least! Annoying as it is, take it as a compliment!!!

Good luck bro.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As a 6'4" guy that is fit/broad shouldered and good looking, I can relate. Women find me very attractive but are often uncomfortable talking to me, they'll act really shy and acted almost uninterested. However, they'll often stare at me from a distance and with their friends will make comments amongst themselves. Also, some of the young women I have spoken to have in a way said that they feel I'm out of their league and/or that they think I'm a player, which I'm not at all. Just like men, women are afraid of rejection, a woman openly flirting with you (smiling at you, gazing at you etc.) is her means of approaching you. Think about the super hot girl that everyone likes but they are so intimidated by her they can't make a move, basically the same thing. Average looking guys and girls get hit on more regularly because it is less likely others will be intimidated by them or rejected.

BeHappyCloud · Accepted Answer

Okay, firstly, please don't get arrogant from all the attention you are getting. Secondly, the human brain tends to go for the safe route. This means that if the girls are not confident enough they could snatch you as a boyfriend, then it's best to not try asking you out and potentially get rejected. Ps. Girls have egos too, you know.
I would suggest smiling, nodding or say hi the next time a girl calls you sexy or whatever, as doing these things will indicate your willingness to communicate and BE asked out. 🙂

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe it's not you, but they're self-esteem. I usually stay away from guys who are "Considered" very good looking. First, I don't find perfect to be attractive. And second, I don't like when a guy is hotter than me (Weird, iknow). It just really hits my self-esteem, like right where it hurts.
But, she probably thinks you're attractive, and might not think like me. But she could still feel like you're "too" hot for her. Which might hold her back a little. I dunno, I'm no expert.

peachblossomluck · Accepted Answer

If you are that good looking the onus is on you to approach. They are too intimidated. Women get approached and leered at by creeps all the time but rarely does a hot guy step out of his steamy comfort zone and come talk to one of us. Please be that guy!

mermaidrocketship · Answer

Same here. My friends and random women in public say I'm really pretty. Sometimes men my father's age stare at me in public. But guys at school ignore me. A couple of them smile and giggle at me like school girls when I see them around campus. I guess people are just shy and intimidated by good looking people. They assume that if someone's good looking, they're arrogant or something. It's so stupid.

CerberusNightray · Answer

It could be that you're very intimidating. There is such a thing as "too good looking". If you are so attractive that you are getting all this attention, then they may be scared to approach you as they feel that you are way out of their league. Even the ones who make comments may feel this way. They could also be thinking that yuere is no way a guy such as yourself could be single, so they don't even try

WODSE · Answer

It sucks but the fact is that they want you to be the one to aproach them its not really that common for girls to aproach a guy probably they dont want to come out as thirsty/hoes, but anyways this is on you... they are giving you the hints and the green lights , you gotta be the one to do the aproaching, talking (ik sounds unfair but hey welcome to being a man)

FemaleAssassin1 · Answer

That is because they feel intimidated, they are afraid of rejection, i have the same issue and i've been told i'm intimidating the guys around me, some even start stuttering when talking to me lol, u should see that look of fear in their eyes lmao 😂

victoriameliegray · Answer

they're shy lol. Or they assume tons of girls r after u and think that they don't have a chance. So they give up. Also, do you make yourself seem approachable?

ayerithsky · Answer

personally, if I find a guy very attractive, I tend t shy away, because he seems to be "out of my league". I won't attempt to approach him at all.

manicdepression111 · Answer

TBH I wouldn't approach a guy, since I'm really shy and stuffs even though they're not shy girls don't seems to be the first one who approaches? If you really like one of them maybe you should approcah?

Nicole1702 · Answer

They probably think that your way out of their league

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you just have a dickhead look about you😂 Try being kinder and more sensitive sround girls

Anonymous · Answer

They are most likely scared cuz you're so good looking and scared that you might not like them. so they like to admire you from a distance, whereas the average looking guys they are comfortable with so they are most likely to approach them :)

AriiAtarii · Answer

I go through the same thing sometimes, I get told its because im intimidating im sure thats the case for you as well

singlebee · Answer

Lol they are definitely intimidated by you Lol

melodybluesy · Answer

shyness or they fear your a player

danyalovettie44 · Answer

Because girls are just as scared to approach guys.

catelyntje · Answer

They're waiting for you to come to them

Anonymous · Answer

No one stares at you OP

Anonymous · Answer

because its your job to approach

Anonymous · Answer

They want you to approach them

CT_CD · Answer

They're pussies

Anonymous · Answer

Your zipper, man!

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