I'm a hot blonde and he chose the curvy brunette? WTF GIVES?!

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There is the girl in my department. We are kind of friends but not really. A new guy that recently graduated from college started work 4 months ago. He's in a completely different department and does a different job. I'm single so I tried to catch his eyes and smile, etc. I'm tall, pretty thin, very short blond hair, big butt - blue eyes.

He's 6'1, dark hair, dark eyes, very hot.

Well get this. The other girl is 5'5, curvy (big breasts) & a flat booty - long brown hair, brown eyes - pretty face but like I said a bit curvy.

I just found out that he's not into me - the outgoing blond but he's into the reserved/shy-like kinda strange curvy girl.

I'm not 1 to compare usually but I'm perplexed on why he would go for her over ME?!

You guys tell us you want the outgoing model type so what gives

bubbiexo · Accepted Answer

Not everyone is into the same exact thing. Some guys prefer blondes, others prefer brunettes.
Maybe she has a really sweet, nice personality and he was drawn to her because of that. Maybe he likes quiet and doesn't enjoy outgoing.
And maybe he didn't like your personality? I don't know you, so I don't know, but I'm just hypothesizing. Not every guy you meet or like is going to be into you. The world doesn't really work like that.
Shake it off, move on, and look for a new guy that is into blondes. If you're as pretty as you say you are, you should have no issues :)

dragonfly6516 · Accepted Answer

A lot of men prefer big women. You described me :) (just add some glasses) And obviously he chose her because real beauty is beneath the surface. Being made fun of and talked down on by girls like you all my life because I'm "fat" has made me realize that looks are not important. You haven't mentioned one redeeming quality about him, only that he is "hot". That's lust, my dear. You're looking for love the wrong way. And if it's not love you're looking for, there are plenty of "hot" jerks in the clubs and bars who will spend the night with you for your hot body.

Mande1985 · Accepted Answer

Well, first off.. I consider myself curvy.. I have a nice ass.. a small waist and a nice bust. That to me is curvy.. not a woman with big boobs and a flat booty.

I've never known guys to say they want outgoing model type girls... I'm curvy and never had a hard time getting very nice looking guys. Not all guys are into the "model" type. They do all have different preferences like us. She might have been his type. It does suck when a guy passes you up for someone you feel is below average compared to you...

Theguyoverthere · Accepted Answer

First off, the stuff you mentioned is all stuff the media claims to be hot. Guys don't necessarily want everything they see on TV. Plus, the only thing I see is "outgoing" as your personality. Maybe this girl he can talk to openly and connect with. Guys have different preferences in appearance. There are guys who want the "hot blond" but honestly, the way you describe yourself only seems like a guy would go for you with the intention of a one night stand. Many guys who see those "hot blondes" stereotype them as girls that should only be hooked up with.

martialartsuperstar · Accepted Answer

1. Confidence is one thing but there is a streak of hostility in your description of this woman. That might translate into your overall personality that some people, or this guy in particular, might pick up on. Even if you are not trying to be hurtful, it's a bad look.

2. Not everyone is into blondes. Traditionally this was the case but it looks like you are going to have to start sharing the table with your brunette counterparts.

*some guys want to hang out with someone cool and are fine if it's not a perfect 10 in the looks department*

DutchAtheist · Answer

I'm picturing Max and Caroline from "2 broke girls" and I honestly have to say that I'd pick Max over Caroline as well. A lot of that has to do with personality though (talking about the characters, not the actresses).

Besides, not everyone likes tall blondes. I mean, I like tall blondes, but they don't make short brunettes fade into the background. One is not necessarily better than the other.

From a different point of view:
Let's say for the sake of argument that you are ten times hotter than the brunette... Maybe he thinks you won't be interested for very long and he plays it safe with the girl who absolutely worships him.

ManaX · Answer

Not everyone wants the outgoing model type. My goodness leave a man to his preferences, if everyone chased after the same tiny niche of women the population would have died out years ago. You are more offended that he didn't reciprocate, don't let it bruise your ego there are other men that go for you.

CakeGirl02 · Answer

Perhaps he prefers curves and/or maybe, just maybe he is attracted to her personality. Looks alone doesn't cut it for everyone. I mean yes it's important to be attracted to someone however if all they are is attractive (nice to look at, and that's it), it's like a gift box with beautiful expensive wrapping paper with nothing inside.

Conviction · Answer

Ok, first of all, you found out that he's not into you. But are you sure that he's into her? If yes, then he's attracted to that brown hair girls' charm and personality. Some girls, besides having a good body, have a bewitching and magnetic personality that is hard to ignore. This is what that is actually attracting him to her.

mandy91 · Answer

Everyone is compatible with someone different. Not every guy is compatible with the outgoing blonde, some guys like the shy/mysterious curvy type.  It's all a matter of preference.  If he didn't choose you then the two of you probably weren't right for each other anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Just by reading the text above, I get the impression that you're a loud and arrogant person, so maybe he isn't into that.
The brunette girl you described actually sounds pretty attractive too. So perhaps he preferred her personality / looks / both.

Juliana77 · Answer

seems that he likes more a shy and quiet girl, than a girl that smiles to get his attention...or he just finds her more attractive then you...

if you are confident, you should not worry...there are "plenty of fishes on the sea"

wish you luck :)

1MysteryMan · Answer

He was probably a breast man ... I personally like the reserved.shy-like curvy girl more than the out-going, especially as you get older ... Guy's usually want the out-going girl when they're younger ...

harakiri · Answer

I prefer brunettes, probably does too... He might be a face-guy, she might have a better face... Also, you sound like a butt. =[

DoctorSex · Answer

Everything about your answer shows exactly why he went for her. This isn't about looks unfortunately, if it was, like you said, you would win hands down.

MaskedSanity · Answer

He probably went after her, because she actually has a personality. Kudos to him for having good taste. :)

islands7 · Answer

He envisions that she would prefer quiet dark corners or apartments with him while baring her obvious assets during playtimes... and maybe given him clues on the QT that she'd like to see more of him w/o others around

PercyMe · Answer

I think it takes more than being pretty. And just because you're blonde and thin doesn't mean that you're prettier than the next. Maybe she has a better personality. And he probably is really attracted to her

martyfellow · Answer

Not everyone is the same.  And when you're looking for something long term as opposed to someone to just have fun with, many guys will look at the shy girls rather than the aggressive ones.

Ash3457 · Answer

You come across petty and arrogant to be honest. Most guys find this a turn off for a long term partner. No matter how hot you look a man wants someone who can listen to him and accept him as he is. Not every guy wants a girl like you, not every guy likes blondes and definitely being pretty on its own is not a requirement for a relationship.

shakesomeaction · Answer

Lol because he thinks she's hotter. No shit. Get over yourself.

RealityCheckTime · Answer

You said she's pretty and you didn't say if you're pretty.  Short hair is  always a turnoff.  But mostly, he probably just has a different type.

Anonymous · Answer

Wel, firstly i hope it humbles you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Get over youself who are you to say that you are better than anyone else looks wise? She may have an amazing personality and her looks to match. Double win.

Anonymous · Answer

Meh whatever floats his boat,  you like him but he doenst feel the same deal withit, I like supermodels but for some strange reason they have no interest in me whatsoever, ...

bellegirl16 · Answer

Nothing wrong with short brunettes that don't think of themselves as models. She sounds awesome!

I'm a hot blonde and he chose the curvy brunette? WTF GIVES?!

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