Caught my girlfriend on Tinder?

[Anonymous]

We have been dating for 5 and half months and right now she's in Canada with her friends till next week. My friend lives in the same city where she is and told me about her active on tinder. I know she has hardly been in a relationship before but anyways I confronted her about this and she's goes:

"I am still not used to being in a relationship, I still go on Tinder to make fun of guys with the girls when we are away, as I did when I was in Vietnam and happened here as well, but doesn't mean I would ever go on a date with someone from Tinder."

" I am trying to be committed to and sometimes I do things that I don't realise will hurt you because I don't take them seriously."

"As a matter of fact, if I ever thought of cheating trust me I won't go on Tinder for that... However, I thought you know me well enough by now to know that I respect you and the only thing I would never do it is cheating." ( Sorry English isn't her first language)

Do girls go on Tinder to mess with guys, I just want to understand this more clearly. I do kind of trust her but its really annoying that she's on Tinder because its a whole lot disrespectful.

[redeyemindtricks]

"As a matter of fact, if I ever thought of cheating trust me I won't go on Tinder for that..."

^^ Tf? Is this real life? If it is, this ain't a good sign, boyo.

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VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION --
WHERE does she have her location set?

If you need to create yr own Tinder profile to find out, then, do that.

Because... okay, believe it or not, some women rlly do create Tinder accounts just to troll boys.
(... Although, I gotta say, ALL of the women **in relationships** I've met who've done this, have gotten their men in on the act.
Pretty often it was the boy's idea, actually -- lots of boys get off on seeing other boys' lust directed at their woman.)

But... if the point of the Tinder account is trolling, then, she should NEVER EVER EVER set a location that's anywhere close to where she actually *IS* located.
I hope I don't have to explain this.

If her location is set to... well, her actual location (... especially if it's in her current place away from home), then, time to update her status from girlfriend to ex-girlfriend.

[COCOCHANEL]

super sleuth

[Chico_brah]

Because... okay, believe it or not, some women rlly do create Tinder accounts just to troll boys.
(... Although, I gotta say, ALL of the women **in relationships** I've met who've done this, have gotten their men in on the act.
Pretty often it was the boy's idea, actually -- lots of boys get off on seeing other boys' lust directed at their woman.)

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Yep ^^ . My girlfriend and I do this. My girlfriend get's a lot of msgs on social media from creeps. We troll em together. I get a decent amount of msgs from random horny sloots as well. We troll them. We did tinder a little bit. Tinder plus costs 10 bucks a month I think. Tinder plus is what allows you to choose another location.

[Chico_brah]

My girlfriend and I are pretty open with each other. Like she doesn't care if I go on her computer next to her on her facebook just laughing at msgs with her friends and shit. She does the same thing to me. We took an 8 hours sort of road trip and she was on my phone half of the time laughing at all my msgs and pics. Some of the people we trolled on my end have been sent my dick pics from my phone by her lol. We just don't really stress about stuff like that. If your girl isn't like this and she gets defensive with this stuff... she is forsure getting some dick on the side. So I'll ask you that question, does she get edgy when you're around her phone or social media? I also want to mention that we always tell each other about these encounters. If I'm fucking with some girl for lulz then I send send her screenshots through text. The fact that she didn't tell you shit is weird.

[Chico_brah]

I think your chick is still bullshitting you though. The way she talks to you.. it's as if you are her bitch. Like the whole "I wouldn't go on tinder to do that" .. I'd make that bitch fess up to what that meant. She doesn't respect you dude.

[redeyemindtricks]

@Chico_brah ^^ yh all of that

[asapjuan]

I would never do that to a guy if we were together. Like, I deleted the app/didn't use it at all when I was seeing a guy because it didn't interest me since I had him and was only interested in getting his attention, which I got. Though, she could be telling the truth. I just know that if I wanted to "mess" with guys I would go on my friends tinder and write there just to have some fun. If I would want an ego boost I'd talk to my boyfriend and get it from him, I wouldn't even want it from other guys if I already had one I liked. Oh, and I've never had a boyfriend (was only seeing a guy for some months) so this has nothing to do with "not being used to having a relationship". That's just disrespectful
What I do know for sure is that if she was my friend and she did that to her boyfriend; I'd be angry at her for still using the app.

[2365gof]

I am afraid she is either cheating on you or just being mean to other people by setting them up.
Either this behaviour is disrespectful to your relationship and breech in trust.
I would calmly talk with her about it, tell her you deserve the truth and give her chance to admit the truth, also tell her how it hurts your feelings, might be a wake call to her

[Jordon26]

this is a red flag for me dude attention or not there's no reason for her to even have that app I think that you may need to reassess your situation but that's my opinion trust your gut everyone here can give you advice but the best advice I can give is trust your gut because that's one thing that won't lead you astray wish I listened to it with my last girlfriend but never did and I payed the price anyways listen to your gut it will lead you correct

[OlderAndWiser]

She sounds like a clever girl with a cover story that turns the blame on you for not trusting her. I would not trust her. If you talked to her last guy, he would probably tell you a similar story of behavior which caused distrust.

[AdamThomas]

No normal girl will go on Tinder if she's in a relationship. What kind of girl enjoys messing with an laughing at guys anyway? An immature bitch. Not being in a relationship before isn't an excuse, you should know that's not right anyway. If you trust her you're an idiot.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think that barely anyone meets girls from Tinder anymore and it's nothing to really worry about. If you don't believe me, make an account right now and start swiping. Try to meet up with someone and see how far you get because I bet even if your really attractive, your gonna have a really hard time finding a girl who talks to you long enough to even try to set up a date.

[ivaneca]

Bullshit. "... not used to being in a relationship...", that's the stupidest excuse for anything I've heard. A monkey would know not to go on Tinder, hell, I've always been geeky, didn't have much of a social life and I STILL knew it long before my first ever relationship, let alone 5 and half months in like you guys... So unless you're dating a retard, that's not a legit excuse and you should firmly request she quits stuff like that.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

How old is this girl?
This is a red flag to me.
I cannot imagine why I would need to go on Tinder to make fun of other guys. Surely, there are other things to do than mocking people on Tinder.
She's come up with some good excuses too.
I would wait until she gets back and look her squarely in the eye and ask her again.

[mntkp]

Yes, girls do go on Tinder to mess around, but not if they're in a relationship. I personally don't. She probably doesn't mean any harm but if it really bothers you, she should consider getting rid of it. It's not okay to play with other people's feelings like that.

[qwert1234]

She could -

be boosting her ego to see how many dudes swipe when her profile comes up.
be looking for other dude's profiles
be just really messing
be cheating.

I would be suspicious, and I will ask her to stop - otherwise I will activate tinder back again too and will "mess" with other girls too. See how she reacts.

[realperson02]

she's right that she doesn't need tinder to cheat on you.

but still I feel that you are wasting your time on this chick simply because she might be banging a random dude in a bar or somewhere else. tinder might be a way to cover up the fact that she's using other ways to cheat on you.

[singlebee]

I would instantly dumpp this girl if I was in your shoes even if whatever she said was 100% true...

You deserve a girl that if not so dumb like her... Who understands what's right and wrong...

Her excuse is very lame... And I think you should definitely get rid of this hoe... She ain't worth it...

Plus I would never date a girl that uses shit app like tinder. . her character would be judged immediately on that and it's a great turnoff

[Dingsbums]

I think u can believe her. I heard the same thing before too. Some girls on tinder just want to have a fun conversation or make fun of the guys there... maybe not the best character trait but it doesn't mean that she is cheating. My intuition says that she is honest. People who hide something get angry or try to blame u for spying on them when they feel like they got caught

[glitterberryalisa]

That's really disrespectful and I think she's full of shit... if she wanted to mess around on tinder to make fun of people with her friends, then one of her single friends could make an account, that's so shady

[FaithfulGuardian]

The situation is like she is working on the current job (you), and she is looking for another employer (another guy) at a career site (Tinder). Why? Because she intends to change employer (change boyfriend). What would your professional instinct tell you to do?

[asheslee]

I have no idea... I have never, ever used tinder. I do believe, however in giving someone the benefit of the doubt; At least initially. If she is messing around, it will become apparent regardless.

[LuLu9226]

She's on Tinder for her self esteem. She might be in a relationship with you but she wants to chat to other people. It's not right and you shouldn't have to put up with it.

[clever_seeker]

hell yea, the love being a thirst trap. mostly for attention. i woulndnt sweat it. i'd set her up to see how far she goes with a guy who look better than me. lmao

[redeyemindtricks]

"i'd set her up to see how far she goes with a guy who look better than me."

^^ This will destroy yr relationship REGARDLESS of the outcome.

[clever_seeker]

@redeyemindtricks

i feel the double standard flowing. How can a she get away with entertaining other men on a " dating site: and that is almost the number one thing women hate... so me setting a reverse honey trap is wrong but what she is doing is riight?

[redeyemindtricks]

No double standard. See my opinion -- if her Tinder location is her actual location, then, the boy shd cut her loose regardless of whom she has or hasn't "entertained".

[teawrecks]

My entire existence on tinder is to mess with guys 😂 I honestly am just swiping right on literally everyone right now

[caringman]

do you trust her or have reason to believe she's having sex with other guys.. who's your friend?

[Luna12]

She's lying, probably cheating on you. But don't do anything drastic until you're sure.

[Anonymous]

Oh... bruh she's definitely getting some good dicking down when you are not around

[writing_essays]

Break up with her. She is cheating on you.

[fauchelevent]

I think she's talking bullshit.