How am I supposed to treat an attention seeking woman?

[Wall-ee]

I have a crush on a girl that is constantly after attention. It's not as bad as we know it can be, it's like a mild or moderate amount of attention whore. She flirts a lot, a lot but she isn't popular (probably because she is foreign) so it's not a ton of guys. She knows I like her so sometimes she tries to make me jealous. I am a little closer to her than most others that have been attracted to her beauty but we have only been friends for like a month. She is very dramatic sometimes and overreacts to things (I think just to get more attention). I feel like I'm a pocket ego Booster sometimes. She has redeeming qualities I swear she does, but I'm just wondering how do I get around this kind of behavior? We aren't together so I think confronting her isn't my place. I try to give her attention sparingly. What else can I do? And How can I show how much I like her without being used as a pocket ego Booster.

Extra credit: currently she is pouting because I asked her to communicate better after she had me waiting at the wrong place for an hour for our daily run. I only texted her one time to ask where she is, she said I should have sent more texts. I said it wasn't a big deal I'll see her next time. Now she says she is gonna stop running with me and our mutual friend for a while. I asked her to reconsider once, she said no and pouted some more. I didn't reply... What can I do to fix my current situation? I don't want to stop running with her. But I don't want to feed her massive ego by asking her again or pleading.

[BasicFlake]

Don't pander to her, let her know that you're not going to chase her. If she says that she isn't going to run with you then just say "Fine, be a baby then". Don't put up with the crap because if you enable it then you become part of the problem.

You are conflicted between your impulse to boost her ego, because you like her, and the realisation that you will get nothing for doing so. You may well get nothing either way, there is nothing to say that she is definitely interested. Keep a check on your dignity, let her come to you if she wants your time. Give her no more than you would give anyone else unless she starts to earn it.

[Wall-ee]

Great answer. Thanks. It feels a bit risky though, what if I say that and she sees I won't let her be a baby so she quits talking to me for an extensive period of time? Am I still not supposed to chase? Because that would be the end. What's weird is because she is this way I treat her less than any other girl. Normally I reassure them when they pout, shower them with compliments, text as often as I like, etc. I hold back a lot. I think you are right that I'm scared to give her attention and not get anything for it. I know the type even if she doesn't like me she will try to keep me around as an ego Booster. Is there anyway to protect myself a little, back my efforts or something going forward?

[BasicFlake]

If you lose her attention altogether because you have refused to blow smoke up her ass then you might consider that you have dodged a bullet. The best position is just to be yourself and treat her like anyone else, no special consideration until she earns it. Imagine that she is any other person in your life, treat her the same as that. If you won't do so for fear of losing her attention then you are in prime position to be manipulated.

[Wall-ee]

good point. very helpful.

[ThunderBasketball]

Introvert women and self centered women are the most difficult to be with.
I know because I'm trying to date one right now. So I know your frustration dude. Honestly there's nothing you can do... and usually those girls go through men like shoes so if I were you I wouldn't​ take her seriously at all. but I'm a dick.

Just know that a zebra doesn't change it's stripes... so you can't change her personality.

[Wall-ee]

Haha, I getcha but I do wanna give it a shot still. I think people do actually change, but at this point in her life she has no reason to really.

[JacquelineEdith]

trust me.. don't send anymore messages. she will come back

[Wall-ee]

I feel like this just starts a cycle though. I get fed up or maybe she gets bored so I ignore her she comes back I give her attention again. Repeat. Right? What else on top if this could help

[JacquelineEdith]

no girls who are short tempered are very weak by heart

[Wall-ee]

oh so she will break the cycle naturally. ill give this a shot thanks.

[Anonymous]

Nothing good will come from her, trust me

[Anonymous]

run away from her while you can.