Is she playing hard to get or do you think she's just not interested?
Girl is always too busy, is she playing hard to get or just not interested?
Is she playing hard to get or do you think she's just not interested?
I've been in this relationship (not offically but basically it is without the label) with this girl i met at a party during New Years, she is my best friends girlfriends best friend so it was easy for us to hit it off, we started truly hanging out maybe 2 weeks after that night, she is an extremely nice girl, her parents a kinda strict but nothing too crazy, and she has told me some pretty deep and scary things about her past relationships and her depression she suffers from and ways she try's to cope with it, but the problem i have is that we never actually get to hangout cause she's 18 and in her last year of school, works 3 days a week, and is so involved with her friends it's pretty incredible, im sitting around when im home always seeing if she has time to hangout, but i already know she'll tell me she has plans, right now it's March Break and she has 10 days off basically to just chill and she had zero intentions of asking me to do something with her, i problem i've had lately is i've been so involved in making everyone else's life happier by saving relationships and being the nice guy and pretending like im happy with things in my life, which im not, that it's making me miserable, i have nobody willing to sacrifice time for me, it makes me depressed, sorry for the rant, doesn't have much to do with this post but i thought it was at least a decent page to post it in as it hold's some relevance.
I should add we have hung out a good ten or eleven times since January 2017- to now March 8th 2017 but 4 of those times were over Christmas break or right after and 2 of the other 6 those weren't even really us seeing eachother, like 100 million other people were with us so our true time together has been low and when we have spent time in a 1 on 1 setting, i feel as though she feels so obligated to pour her heart into it when we do see eachother that she's letting me know too much in one day/night.
Best thing for you to do is just sit back and let her make a move. If she will get back to you asking for a date then or for any reason other than work or need then she is interested.If she doesn't get back to you then you have your answer that she isn't interested.
Here many girls have said it correctly that if a girl is interested then she will make time or suggest some other time.Trust me if she is really interested then she knows where to find you.
Well it's not safe to say with only that information. Further detail is needed. Does she flirt with you? Do you talk a lot? It could be either. If she flirts with you then I'm almost positive that means she's actually busy. If it's hard to carry on a conversation with her than most likely she's not interested. Girls try to give guys signs. try talking to her and see how she responds. If you run out of things to talk about or the conversation is going no where, there's your answer: She's not interested. When a girl likes a guy she can pretty much hold a conversation for hours. Keep that in mind. And try and talk to her when she's not busy. That would be the best time because you'll be able to sense if she's not really responsive because she's busy, or because she's just not interested. I know this sounds corny, but prepare yourself and maybe write a small list of topics to talk about so you don't run out of ideas. Best of luck!
It's my guess she is really is busy. I am actually having this issue...I have an interest to date, just no time. Work is nuts, family is nuts, and so I usually only get one weekend night to do SOMETHING. The problem is...if someone I'm only half interested in asks I am scared to commit. But if it was someone I was REALLY interested in, I would make the time. So...prolly she really is busy. But probably she's only half interested in you. If you want to make her fully interested, you best step up your game a lil. :)
does she ever attempt to contact you on those days she's free and ask you out instead? because if she keeps on putting you down all the time you ask her out, then dude don't waste your time because its impossible she has no free time. if I really like a guy no matter how busy I am, I would take a second to find a spot for him. if not then I'm not interested at all.
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almost anyone would need more info to give you a smart answer. what's the tone of her voice (or texts) when she cancels? how much notice does she give you? (if she's constantly cancelling an hour before, that's bad news) does she offer make-up times? (if not, the interest level is unsure to low).
Easiest way is just to send her a text saying: "tell me a couple days that work for you and I'll see." pick the second day she offers. if she says "i don't know" or something like that, she's not interested. someone as busy as this will probably be in command of her schedule and know what she's doing weeks ahead of time.
hope this helps, peace.
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Her texts are fairly friendly. This is an issue about setting up a date not getting it to follow through, I have yet to set one up with her, so "giving notice" and "canceling on me" is N/A. I ask her is she wants to go out on day X, she says she is doing Y on day X and therefore can't do it. She does not offer any alternative available days.
Im wondering if she really is a busy person, just not interested, or playing hard to get.
I slightly misread that (it was late and I was drunk), assumed she'd been cancelling on you. the last piece of my advice is still applicable though. ask her for two days, not one, because if you're automatically available any day she is it looks like you've just been waiting for her. do that instead of continually asking for this day and that. every time you ask for another day you look a little weak.
I agree just say hey wanna go out sometime? Let me know a time/day if you can! Hope to talk to you soon
done. if she doesn't like you in that way she'd probably delay texting and be like well I'll let you know bah!
If she's not offering make-up days, that's probably a sign that she's not interested, sorry. When a girl likes a certain day doesn't work for her, she'll offer another date so she had a chance to go out with him. :( Again, sorry.
Woah, sorry. If she's not offering make-up days, that's probably a sign that she's not interested, sorry. If a certain day doesn't work for her, she'll offer another date so she had a chance to go out with you. :( - A minute ago
both answers could work out.But it depends with how many times and when you ask her out.It maybe genuine that the time you ask her out is when she is busy.Try to find sometime on weekend or even on evenings.Let her understand that you need to have some time with her.If that fails then nothing will work, just find another person but remember not to act desperately.
Hope you succeed.
To me, if she is not offering alternative days to go out but just turning down your offers, and has done it several times, she is not interested. If she is playing hard to get, she is going way too far.
The only way I would not give this advice is if you are one of those guys who calls a girl up the day of or day before you want to see her. That is inconsiderate and many girls are going to turn down a last minute date. Doesn't sound like that is what you are doing though.
It all depends. If you met her online and she keeps blowing you off then she is probably scared and does not have trust issues with men. If you know her from work, school, or whatever then she might be leading you on, being a tease, or maybe she's just not that interested. I don't do this, but I have heard and seen this from my friends.
You aren't considering the fact she may really actually be busy and cannot see you, and it could be neither one of the above, not disregarding the above facts as they are possiblities, but some people really do plan things on the wrong days by chance.
The only way to find out is to ask her directly if she is interested or not, if she isn't then you would be able to tell, if not by a direct answer back, by her behaviour and tone.
She could just be not interested. If she is not making the attempt herself to want to hang out, then she just might not be into you like that. I wouldn't wait around for her.
If she doesn't suggest other days to meet up, she's either really shy, or not interested. Try and speak to her face to face, and read what you think the situation is.
Go for one last shot: see when she's free, do it non-obviously.
A few days later mention you are going out. Say she can join. (as in you are not asking her, you're giving her permission to come along, it's all about the mindset)
She could be not interested or she could be busy... or playing hard to get... Like someone said more information is needed... it could be any of those
Well, I have given all that I know: she's fairly friendly tone in texts, evertime I ask her if she wants to go out on day X she has something to do on that day and says she won't be able to do it on that day. offers no alternative days.
if you were playing hard to get, would you always make yourself seem too busy to be available to go out on dates offering no alternative available days?
im in a similar situation, met her while she was volunteering at my job during a three day event, before we left i asked for her number... we texted nonstop (almost literally) for the first week and then settled into a more comfortable routine. i have asked her out to dinner directly (might have been to soon) but she polity declined with the grounds of only having just met me. as a side note her ex was an absolute d*** going so far as to say only reason was with her was cuz her friend was taken... we have been talking almost a month now and having made afew teasing invites i knew she would likely not take up (but would follow through on if she did) i invited her to renfest (which we both enjoy) and she said she was busy through the closing weekend, she then sent me a screenshot of some of her friends asking her to go that weekend and turning them down too... she's a college student, and will soon be moving 2 hours away, im willing to make the drive but i need to know how to approach it.
um maybe she really is busy. try to find out what's going on in her life and try to help. become involved. now if she blocks this attemp, then she probably doesn't want that kind of relationship...
that she is doing both. playing hard to get and she is actrually really busy
Just try to work your dates around her schedule. She may be just as frustrated as you for not being able to be together much.
She probably isn't interested in you as more than a friend, if I were you just move on. Sorry to say.
Some girls like the persistence. Just don't sacrifice your self esteem doing it. Make sure you're fitting it other girls in there.
It can go either way. Let her know that you want to take her out and see what she says. If it sounds good to her, then ask her what day will be good for her.
She likes the attention but blows you off when it gets real like a date etc.. she might string you along when you stop paying attention.
just be honest with her and ask her if you guys will ever get to hang out
If she is not offering an alternative day then she is not interested! If she liked you then she would make time!
I'm finding now two of my prospective who were supposed to date with me are in always busy mode now. Why they don't block me completely? microwavebd@gmail. com
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