Girlfriend's best friend hates me?

[eaedx]

My girlfriend's best friend has never approved, she openly hates and resents me. She sees me as just another guy taking the two away. I accept the fact that when you are in a relationship, a serious amount of time goes into seeing each other, and that the time with her other friends will have to be cut down a bit. I do not however try to stop her from being with her friends. I think friendships outside of a relationship are great and I encourage them to get together. They do, but this friend still wants all the attention and it's driving me crazy. My girlfriend is fully aware of the fact that her friend hates me, she feels "sad" that her friend wouldn't support her. Before I came along, they were going through a rough patch (not exactly sure why though). Anyway, I feel like friends should support their friends for the things that make them happy. I make her happy. I think a good friend should see that and step down a little, because although friends are great people and great influences, they are not your partner, the one you are committed to, and they cannot expect all the time they once had. I just can't come to tell my girlfriend that she has a "bad" friend.

So...what can I do? I'm kind of stuck here, and I wish this animosity would stop, and that her friend could be happy for her, her life, and the other things and people in her life that make her happy. I wish she'd stop being so self centered and realize that she does have great things and people in her life, and although cut back a bit, she still does get to enjoy time with all her friends.

I can't help but imagine what would happen if this friend gets a guy friend-I think she doesn't understand how much time a serious partner can take. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong here. Let me know what you think. Thanks.

[LittleMissGriff]

Honestly, there isn't a thing you can do. This, even though you're suffering from it's effects, is not your problem. Anything you do to build a bridge between her friend and yourself will only end in fire because her friend has irrational issues attached to her friend. Until either your girlfriend or her friend force those issues to be resolved, you're stuck.

It's not fair, it's not right, but it's the truth.

Your best bet for change is talking to your girlfriend. Let her know how distressed you are about the situation. Also let her know that her friend's possessive and hostile nature isn't health and that you're worried for her friend's well-being. Something is clearly not-right. Hopefully, your girlfriend will try to find the underlying issues in the relationship.

Honestly, if it were my friend, I would have called bull-sh*t by this point because it is neither fair nor appropriate to deny your loved ones time with other people they enjoy unless they are somehow detrimental to their well-being. You are obviously not.

[Phoenix52]

Here's a good idea for you:

You want your girl, right? OK! Then tell that best friend of hers to stop 'C*CKBLOCKING'. That is exactly what this b*tch is doing.

The best friend is still single, can't find a guy for herself, so she's jealous about it. And she's trying to f*ck it up for you both.

I hate it when guys try to c*ckblock me when I'm gaming a girl, but it's even worse when girls c*ckblock their freinds from the chance of getting it on with a guy who's interested in them.

The best freind does need to support your relationship and be happy for you both. Either she does that, or she should hit the road and stay away. Any negative talk about you signifies she's a rotten b*tch who's trying to bring your girlfriend back to where she's at ... single status.

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

Well what you need to do is not let it get to you and don't show your girlfreind that it bothers you..

if your girlfreind asks about your feelings on the matter just say that you have no problems at all with her freind and you like her as a person.. Most women value the advice of there close freinds so you don't want to make things worse by saying bad things about her.. just keep things light and funny.. at the end of the day you have nothing to prove to her freind..

JKust focus on your girlfreind and treat her right show her your a guy who she can trust and is fun to be with..

its up to your girlfreind to talk to and deal with her freinds not you..

Good Luck

-Chris

[Boring01]

Dude, just simply annoy her. If she was such a big impact on your relationship, your girlfriend would had dumped You already. Maybe, she's jealous because she lives all by herself with her dying mother and retarded cat.

[eaedx]

I hate to laugh, but this is actually a pretty true statement. You are actually very close (in my opinion) to describing this friend. Don't tell her though XD.

[chettah-two]

Who cares about her best friends.. should be your ATTITUDE.. not your words...