Do you think some women feel entitled to men's friendship?

[wtf30]

Just a honest question. I had noticed this when having discussions with my ex-gf.

She was complaining to me how she just wanted a few male friends, because they are more fun than women. But the guys she was hanging out with were only interested in hanging out with her if romance/sex was a possibility...

I laughed at this. As a guy I know this to be mostly true... But she was very upset by this. It's fucked up that all they care about is sex from women. My reply was... well it's true, but not so simple.

The overly simple answer is women don't make good friends for men in general. I find that when I hang out with so called "female friends" we do mostly what they want to do. They dump all their problems on me and expect me to just agree with them. This is not how men act. Women have little interest in typical male activities, and when they are around guys participating in such activities they actively voice their displeasure until those men agree to do something they want to do.

On top of that, put yourselves in their shoes. Say there is a really hot guy that you like at work. You hang out with him a few times to try and get close, only to find out he doesn't like you that way, and talks to you about all the women he does like that aren't you. Would you still want to hang out with this man as a friend? Don't you think that might be a little hurtful and would make it hard to move on?

My point is this... Yes men are not entitled to sex / or anything from you, but you are also not entitled to our friendship. If we realize we don't like you as much when sex isn't involved then so be it. So don't get mad next time the guy you thought was your friend doesn't want to hang out with you anymore because you won't fuck him. Just realize if that happens you guys were never friends in the first place.

What do you ladies think about this? Do you think there is any truth to women feeling like this?

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+1 y

I guess my point i, if women really want to be friends WITH men, maybe they should attempt to be better friends TO men.

Not just whine when the guy that did everything she wanted him to do didn't stick around when she wouldn't fuck him. Lol

[kaylaS91]

Some women might feel like that.
It really depends on where they were raised, as well as in what sort of culture. I was raised in a regular family, economically speaking. So... I don't feel like men are ever obligated to put up with me.

[wtf30]

Lol, probably true.

I think its interesting though that men usually don't care how many female friends they have or even if we have any. I don't know why that's is? Why do women care about that and men don't? It's a weird thing.

[kaylaS91]

why do women care about how many male friends they have?

[wtf30]

I don't know. That's what I'm saying. But it is a complaint I've heard from many women. That me not don't just want to be friend so with them. So maybe not the # that's important.

[kaylaS91]

... that's very weird. I've never heard a single girl tell me she's worried about how many male friends she doesn't have. On the contrary, I've heard quite a few girls talk about how they have far more male friends than female friends. I kind of prefer friends who are male, too.

[wtf30]

You're right, I guess I said that wrong. I've mostly heard them complain that these guys that they wanted to be just friends with didn't want to be friends with them if sex/relationship wasn't involved. I also hear women complain about how it is hard to make female friends too though, so I don't know what's going on now that I think about it. lol.

[martyfellow]

Lots of spoiled girls out there. So many still have the princess complex and thick every guy should play up to them.

OF course, mainly the ones from a wealthy background... but also the more attractive girls.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Everyone has their right to befriend anyone they want.

[Caaarl]

Yeah but they don't have the right to your friendship it's your choice if you want to be friends or not.

[Caaarl]

Yes!!! Especially after a break up!

[wtf30]

LOL, I guess so. I guessing it's the male companionship they miss. I also find men tend to be better, more reliable friends. But maybe that's cause I'm a man. Lol

[PLguy]

Yes, that's how they act