The point about why asking a woman her weight is wrong is the same as asking a man about his monthly income.
If a girl asks a man about his bank balance, that shows that she is just interested in his money, and not the man. Similarly, if you ask a girl about her weight, it conveys that you're simply interested in her body, and not her personality.
That being said, it's more of a humiliation for the asker, than being rude to the one asked. However, if it's a casual topic, or one thing leads to another, and the people involved know each other and have no problems regarding it, there's no reason why asking a woman about her weight would be rude. It's mostly rude if you don't know them. And as with everything else, access increases as relationships progress.
A lot of women will find that asking such a question is rather rude. It's not necessarily wrong, but under most context, most women will not take a liking to that kind of question. Usually has to do with their upbringing/culture. We kind of live in a culture where some women are insecure about their number despite the fact that how much they weigh does not indicate their health.
I think this picture explains why asking how much someone weighs doesn't make much sense to me.
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It can be rude when it's applied to her weight like you're stating and not because your curious. It's not wrong to ask. It depends on why you're asking her. Most women are highly insecure about their weight. I'm underweight for my height myself, but I don't get insecure about it because I know what I eat, and I know that I have a high metabolism. I know I need to pick it up. But it's hard for my body to pick it up. I'm sure if somebody asked you, you would feel a little violated even though you really shouldn't.
I don't give a shit really. But I'm also not overweight.
Lots of people will take it personally because of some kind of cognitively dissonant self consciousness.
If it's a friend then I don't see why she would take it harsh, it's just a question at that point. But you should probably phrase it with tact and in the right context. Such as if the idea of weight comes up and you ask "May I ask you how much you weigh?". At least with that you can give her the option to say she would prefer not to answer.
Why would you even want to ask don't you already kinda see it😂
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I think it depends on why you're asking, and why it's so important for you to know.
If you're really close with her and you share those kind of things with each other then maybe it would be okay (but again depending on why you want to know). She may even just tell you herself without you bringing it up. But otherwise it's probably better to just not ask.
Many women are very self conscious, and if her weight is one of those things that she's self conscious about then it could just be more cause for her to worry about it. You can see what she looks like, and weight really just is a number. I don't think there's really a need to know, just as when I see a guy I don't feel the need to know how much he weighs
Weight doesn't matter, but it really bothers most women it makes us feel self conscious about our bodies and want to lose weight if the numbers are higher than we expected. For example: I'm around 5'8 & 1/2 and when I weighed myself on a scale I was around 120lbs and I was devastated i don't know why that's not a high number at all especially considering my height and the fact that I work out daily and play sports but it just made me feel more self conscious although I know muscle weighs more then fat it still made me feel bad about myself, so if you were to ask me how much I weighed I'd be pretty offended, but I guess it would depend on the girl and how well you know her. If you asked your mom or sister they wouldn't mind because you probably are used to telling each other everything but it depends for other girls.
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It depends on why you ask. I don't get offended when my really skinny friends ask me because I'm really skinny and I know we may have the same problems and can even support each other (bc my weight is below the minimum). It makes me feel bad when people point it out just because, like, I freaking know I'm too skinny, people don't need to dig deeper on that. If you're exercising together or stuff like that it may not be an issue as well but I cannot imagine other kind of situation in which it would be right (besides looking for support/reassurance/help or comparing when exercising in a friendly way).
really it comes down to person to person bases... if it's your partner and your open with each other on that level then it may be ok... but even then she will usually feel self cautious and not comfortable with it. Unfortionitly we live in a world where society shows us that in order to be pretty you have to be this certain weight. You have have to have this certain look and so forth but personally most guys don't get the memo or agree... it's media that makes these stipulations not the average man. Perhaps if we lived in a world where people weren't judged by their weight the women wouldn't care to tell.
ask away I say. it's always ok to ask a person how much they weigh. if they don't like the question, that's on them. not you. it shoiuldnt be offensive to have someone ask you your weight.
this stems from society's need to shame women into feeing like they need to fit a certain size/number criteria before they are valid as a human. Asking a woman for her weight (so long as it's. it used against her at all) is totally ok by me. noonish should be ashamed of how much they weigh
just don't ask. you could really hurt someones feelings with asking and i can't really think of a reason why it is important to know. it is also painful for very skinny people. I've struggled with an eating disorder and was very thin. people asked how much i weighed a lot and that was very painful especially when i was trying to recover
I think it's fine in the context of online dating, especially if she asks about your height first.
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It's okay to ask a friend that, if you were already talking about bodyweight or fitness-related stuff. Then it seems like you're just curious. Otherwise, the question feels intrusive. I'd feel like the guy was trying to size me up, haha. Like "are you under the weight limit of women I date?"
I see absolutely nothing wrong with asking even face to face, if a person gets offended by it I think its because they are offended of themselves, obviously they aren't happy with it or feel insecure. Its no different to asking how tall you are. So how is it wrong, unless of course the person is wanting to decade them for their weight which is not the question but the person.
Are you her doctor? If the answer is no then you have no reason to ask.
It's not wrong, but you will probably offend a lot of girls lol. But I'm sure you would have the correct judgement to know if its ok with her or not.
I remember I told the DMV guy my weight when I renewed my license last year and he started to laugh at me and was like "riiiiight" and put me down 20lbs lighter cuz he didn't believe me hahahah
Yes, its wrong if you don't know them. If you know them well and talk about things like this, then so be it.
However, it would be like me asking how big is your penis? I mean what's the point of asking someone something so trivial? Out of curiosity?
I think questions like this open up a Pandora's Box of further questions, for e. g., "So you think I look fat?"
It would be a swerve in terms of questions I would ask someone.
Women don't like it.
In my case that doesn't bother me because I'm skinny, but most of girls find it offensive. And anyway, even for me, when someone ask me that, I assume it's because they find me "too" thin and maybe it bothers us, and sometimes it really annoys me. So no, don't ask a woman how much she weights. Anyway, you don't need to know exactly, looking at her is enough to know if you like her body type.
u I don't think it's wrong to ask, but she also doesn't have to answer. Some people are not comfortable sharing information like that. If people ask me how much I weigh, I usually just say "enough", lol. Not because I'm not comfortable, but because I think it's kind of a funny answer. I'm about 165 lbs in case anyone's wondering 😃
It isn't wrong to ask a woman her weight as long as you aren't planning on shaming her for being too skinny or too fat. Some woman will be very closed off to that topic and sensitive but personally me I'm just open about it but some people aren't a fan of that topic so just be careful who you ask.
I weigh a hundred pounds and hate being asked what my weight is. After I tell people it usually leads to them skinny shaming me by saying I could use a burger or whatever. I think if I can move and rotate a 400 pound person by myself, I'm doing alright.
I really don't care about the local strength of gravity. Weight is just a number if she's not sitting on my face or in cowgirl, but if she looks fat to me I probably wouldn't be asking her anything anyway and would probably avoid her, regardless if she's got a scale under her and what it would read.
if she is the kind of girl that she wears good and watch out for how she looks like holy shit dont ask lol its like asking a woman how old is she even if she is 10 pounds she would be mad lol. if she is average kinda of girl she wears fine and not really into grabbing attention and to have the spot light on her it should be ok.
Of course it's wrong ! You don't know her personality and what she feels like about her self and you don't know what she is insecure about , besides what's It doesn't matter and it's not important , so if you really care about her , you wouldn't ask her something as a stupid as this.
there's a couple of things my dad used to tell me never ask a woman one you never ask a woman her age and you never asked woman how much she weighs so I think it's wrong to be asking a woman her weight in other words it's none of your damn business and she never ask women things like that for one that makes you look like a damn fool for two makes them feel just like they're fat or something even when they're not it's just my opinion shared by my father
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