You have to stop caring about what everyone else wants and focus on what you want. That's the only way you can be happy.
If you don't really like guy B, then you're going to have to be honest with him and stop hooking up with him. If you really just want to use him physically and you have to lead him on to do that, you're probably going to feel guilty about it which sucks.
If you're really into guy A, maybe you need to figure out where you two stand. Do you know if he's being exclusive with you? Does he want you two to be exclusive? As long as he doesn't have a double standard, you two can work things out.
If you are only hooking up with guy B because you don't want to hurt his feelings, that's what's bothering you. Never do something just to make another person happy when you're hearts not in it. That will just end up hurting everyone more.
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Your probably just the type of person who doesn't like to decieve others :)
if you want to be with guy A & feel bad about Guy B
Dont Do anything further with Guy B :)
& its probably because guy a makes you feel secure in a way
or some way positive/good about things
& you don't want to hurt him
:) but you need to choose, because you can't have both
if your feeling like this :)
If your positive that it was flirting and he didn't tell her to stop then maybe you should think about moving on. If he has respect and love for you then he'd tell her to back off.
Because female psychology is not inherently designed to cope with sexual feelings for multiple partners. (limited ability to engage in polyamoury)
It's just a generalisation, but it holds well.
You like Guy A. You want to keep Guy A. Messing about with Guy B puts that in jeopardy.
Simple..you're blowing any chance you have with this guy A. Time to stop fooling around with B and pursue A seriously, no?
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I'm in the same situation right now! I hooked up with guy B last night and I feel disappointed and gross with myself. And it wasn't even sex! I think its because you have strong feelings for guyA but guyB was more convenient in your time of need. Next time think of the long run and holed out for the one you truly love
You better stop feeling guilty. Your not in a relationship with "A". He is probably doing the same thing and not even thinking twice about it. Don't feel guilty for something pointless.
Simple reason, you have feelings for guy A, you have begun to love him.
idk but you shouldnt. if he doesn't want you to hang out or hook up with other guys then you should be exclusive. on the flip side, how do you know he's not doing the same with other girls?
Well, in the end, the decision will be up to you...Funny thing is, I am in a situation similar to yours, me being guy A. Don't really know about her and a guy B, but hey, anything is possible. I am doing everything I can to show her that I would be the best for her, but in the end, she will decide. All I can do is hope, and trust.
I think that you clearly have stronger feelings for guy A than you think and that's why you are feeling guilty. I could be wrong just giving you my opinion. Just chill out enjoy life and have some fun.
From what you said, it seems that you like guy A, since you care about what he might think about your actions. Which guy treats you the best ? Which guy do you really like?
Well good for you. I bet guy A does care for you.
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