My girlfriend is taking advantage of me. What should I do?

[desperat-romeo]

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now, I'm always there for her and I love her dearly but lately I've been wondering to myself, I do anything and everything, and I'm not getting very much in return.

almost every weekend I go over to her place, (yes she doesn't live with me yet) and in the whole time I cannot remember her ever coming over to my place to surprise me, unless I go up there pick her up and drive her back down, and its a 45min drive just one way.

i don't mind it, but my parents don't even know her that well and that is what I really was hoping would change.

I'm always worried that if I upset her that she may leave me, and I'm only writing this on here because if I wrote it on facebook she would be mad that I am making her out to be a horrible person.

Don't get me wrong in this either, she is a wonderful person and I love her so much, iv got a ring down in my room, but I'm waiting for my house to get built,

I'm just really confused at the moment,

I'm a nice guy and I don't want to hurt her, but I don't want to be walking on eggshells the rest of my life, and I really don't want to be the 2nd most important thing in her life, when she is the most important in mine.

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

well there isn't another way to say this but YOU NEED TO MAN UP.. your letting her walk all over you and its making you unhappy..

if someone you know does somthing to make you unhappy then you have the right to let them know they have wronged you so long as you do it in a calm and respectfull way.. now if she is unable to understand or respect you for standing up for yourself then I'm sorry but this women is a waste of your time...

you MUST get over your fear of being alone.. hell I was dating a fitness instructor for the past 3 months.. needless to say she was stunning but I didn't think things were going well so I ended it.. now I could have kept dating her becouse I wanted to keep her around but I would only have been wasting my time with her.. don't get me wrong it hurt to leave and hurt even more knowing I wouldn't be able to see her again.. but at the end of the day your looking for someone who makes you feel good as a person.. someone who adds to you and if fear is preventing you from forming a balanced and healthy connection then you need to either address this with her OR walk away..

Good Luck

- Chris

[Phantom_operator]

That is a tough situation there my friend. I feel for you as I am going through a very similar thing. I'd move heaven and earth and lie to the world for my girl, do anything and everything, sometimes being EXTREME in ways, and I get very little in return. Anyway, your deal, well at this point you need to have a little heart to heart with her. If she really loves you, then she is going to want to understand how you are feeling and try to change that. But sometimes you need to realze that people are not mind readers. You do have to come out and say it, but I also understand where you're coming from when you say you don't want to p*ss her off. She sounds a lot like my girl. That just comes down to how you word it, tone of voice and show compassion behind it. Good luck

[sameer711027]

Hi..there, Greetings to you why do you feel she is taking an advantage from you why don't you think in positive way why do you feel that she is not caring about you nor thinking of you nor worried about you why do you make your mind in that way might be she is busy with some work or might be she is having some problems or might be she wants to silent with you because some girls they think if they show more importance to the guy thy may loose them that is the reason might be she is just don't want to show her emotions to you rather she is quiet to you! its nothing wrong with her and don't worry much about it but rather make her happy and be more thankful to her and try to be more expressive rather thinking yourself in wrong way!

Regards

Sameer