It seems like in these times, a huge age gap isn't as taboo as it used to be. I mean look at some celebrities like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore! I say that if you really do love her, your family will pretty much have to accept her. Your family might be skeptical at first but if she's everything you say she is, I'm sure they'll come around in time. I mean, at least she's not older or the same age as your parents right? Also since you're an adult, they should respect your choices to date whoever you want. You can make your own decisions and choose who you want to be with. You should probably warn them or at least discuss the age difference before letting her meet them. It's probably better to give them some time to mull it over before springing the news on them. Also, it might be a little complicated if you're considering something like children in the future, but that's a whole other issue! Good luck to you and your girlfriend!
Have they met her? If they've met her, they obviously know she's older, but just not how much older. If they haven't met her, it's just going to depend on how accepting they are of people in general, and how much they trust your judgment. If they're not accepting, and they don't think you've got your act together, or one or the other, then you may have a problem.
But, if they care for you and believe you regularly make good life decisions for yourself, you probably won't have any difficulty. When introducing her to the family, I sure wouldn't make the age difference an open topic for discussion. I don't think I'd say anything about it unless someone brings it up. Even then, I think I'd want to have that conversation in private.
These things are tricky, however, the less it seems to bother you, the less likely it will bother them.
They may be a bit shocked at first. But at the end of the day, what they will really care about is if she loves, admires and respects you. If she cares about you, then that should be enough for them to be open to her.
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You don't need to tell them, I think you should point out that it could be worse like she was really a he dressed up like a girl, or that you are gay...not so bad in that light...
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