Guys, why do you try to make girls jealous?

If you and a girl are actively flirting and it's clear enough that she likes you and you like her why would you all of a sudden start trying to make her jealous by flirting with other girls right in front of her. Doesn't it make more sense to just flirt with the girl you like and have that move forward? If a guy starts flirting with another girl in front of me my first instinct is to move on and assume he isn't that into me...So why do you guys do this


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  • it doesn't work on men, but it works on women.

    Jealous promotes needy and clingy behavior. It makes women fight for their man and show more interest, call more often and thus it works.

    The problem with making a man jealous is the fact that it makes him LESS attractive. He becomes needy and clingy, he calls more and suddenly you like him less.

    The other thing it does, is like you said, it makes you assume he doesn't like you, which is actually to his benefit.

    If he shows too much interest, then he's creepy.

    If he shows none, than he's safe.

    If he shows Disinterest, then you like him.

    Creepy is showing interest too soon for no good reason, combined with wanting it more than the other person.

    And if you want it more than he does (which now you are thinking about him now because of what he did, which means you are more invested in him than you were before, and more than some joe blow that you blew off 2 seconds ago) Then it works.

    When its not working, its working.

    And that's why men do it.

    Men would not do it, if women didn't train men to behave this way.

    Its obviously asshole behavior, but as we all know, women like assholes. SO congrats, you get what you ask for.

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      Noooo that's actually not true. This part 'The other thing it does, is like you said, it makes you assume he doesn't like you, which is actually to his benefit.'

      Because when a girl doesn't think a guy likes them most of them actually get mad and give up after a few attempts. Like that whole hot and cold thing guys use, that only works for awaile, at least with me. Then I'm done.There's only so much a girls heart can take.

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      If you prove to a man that you don't play games (stop testing, be upfront and honest about what you "really" feel) then a man will be more than happy to stop playing games.

      Unfortunately most women will be turned off and leave a man if he stops playing games.

      Even if she stops.

      For instance when a man says "i like you and want to date you" in the first 3 minutes of talking to a woman, he's being honest, he does. he's not playing games. But then she's creeped out, and he has to play games.

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      I feel the same, and I'm a woman. Dating a guy who is flirting around with other women, is extremely unattractive. I've always left that kind of guys, thinking that they can enjoy the other women they are flirting around with instead. If a guy already hurt me from the beginning, what else can he do?

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  • Guys try to make girls jealous out of insecurity. It's a stupid thing to do, I know, and not all guys do so, but some immature guys will try to test you by flirting with other girls. The best you can do is ignore him.