We are all defined by the choices we make in life, for better or for worse. I'm a firm believer that if someone wants to do something, they will. If you really wanted to go, you would have found a way if she meant that much to you and I'm not sure why you didn't, that's something you'll need to examine and think hard about. You describe her as the love of your life, yet you chose not to be there when she needed you the most. I understand work is important, but the family of your partner might as well be yours when you truly love someone and she must see you as part of her life and family and therefore this seems really nonsensical to her. One of the hallmarks of a good relationship (or even friend) is sacrifice and a willingness to be there when it's most important to be. You staying and working sounds like you put yourself first, which is the last thing she probably needed at that moment. I'm not going to lie, I understand why she's upset, and I think she's justified being that you've been together for two years and you describe the relationship as having been 'great'. If you aren't willing to bend and be there for her, she can't be expected to do the same. Relationships are built on mutual sacrifice. This was definitely a mistake and you'll have to face the consequences, whatever they may be. My advice is to talk to her about it, to be honest, to try to determine with her why you made the choice you did, to acknowledge it was a huge mistake and to reassure to her that while you weren't there for her then, you promise you'll be there for her now. If she ends up giving you that chance, don't ruin it or take advantage of it, truly be there for her and prove yourself to her by being consistent and doing the right thing from this point forward. If she's there for you and if you really love her, it shouldn't even be a question.
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I think she will get over it. But she was obviously relying on your for support, but you chose to work. Its probably made her doubt can she rely on you in future cases too. Just tell her your sorry, and that you couldn't be there to support her but it won't happen again. Just reassure her I guess. Flip it around you would prob pretty hurt she wasn't there to be your support at a families funeral. Like I said just reassure her.
You need a grand gesture of apology. I don't know what it would be but you need to show her without a doubt that you are very sorry for your actions and that something like it will never happen again. She needs to know that you will be there for her without question. Find a way to show that to her.
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