well me and this guy have been talking for some months now and whenever he invites me over, we end up watching movies and making out. we have never had sex before because I'm not ready. well recently, we haven't hung out in a long time but we usually see each other around campus briefly and he...
well me and this guy have been talking for some months now and whenever he invites me over, we end up watching movies and making out. we have never had sex before because I'm not ready. well recently, we haven't hung out in a long time but we usually see each other around campus briefly and he texts me everyday. yesterday, he got drunk and told me that he wanted to see me but I said that it was too late. today, he asked me what I was doing tonight and I said nothing. then he said "u mean coming over" and I just smiled.
so what do you all think? does he really like and care for me or is there something else I'm missing? and how do I make it clear to him that I want something more than just making out. to be his girlfirend
The situation as you describe it is that he is looking for a hook up and your looking for a relationship. Firstly stop being so available, he has to understand if he wants time with you he has to earn it by treating you as a female and respecting you as a person and taking you out for a date. You going over to his, you are putting yourself in a vulnerable situation.. If you want to know where you stand stop going around every time he calls, and if he is serious about you his actions will prove this, otherwise the best thing that will come out of it is that you will know where you stand. Start making and going out with other friends too.
If he starts getting lower and more aggressive with his hands each time you make out, even after you warn him that you don't go all the way, and if he's not talking to you a lot (I.e. taking more of an interest in your life and problems, etc) and just wants to get physical when you come over, then yeah he doesn't care about you that way. You're just a hook up. Sorry
It sounds like you're kind of groping blindly in the dark, trying to figure out the nature of this relationship. You want something more formal and it sounds like you have no idea what he wants (to be your BF, just fwb, just pals). If I were you I would take the initiative and tell him that you like hanging out with him and you think it would be fun to do more stuff together. That'll let him know what your aiming for .
Keep in mind, he has a pretty good deal going with you now, so he may try to be vague and hazy. If he is, let his actions tell you his intentions (in other words, if he begins to ask you out more and take you places instead of just texting and sometimes making out.
i know exactly how this feels, its like you like him a lot but you don't know if you should continue what you have because you know it will be there or if you should risk putting yourself out there and saying "hey I want more than making out" and risk him pulling back completely. I suggest before you make out with him or do anything else ask him flat out if he wants anything more that fwb. if he doesn't its not worth your time worrying about. but if he does you'll feel so much better. either way you will have an answer and you can go from there. I say this because the same thing happened to me and long story short I ended up getting screwed over and it still hurts. hopefully this works out for you! :)