I am 24, a recent college grad and now work full time.
My girlfriend, Janet, who I have been dating for three months, is 23 and senior in college.
We met in college, but didn't start dating until recently.
We like each other very much, but there is on problem. All the time. She never has any money.
She only needs two classes to graduate so she is working very often (9a to 5p, 3 to 4 days a week), but works 30-45 minutes from where she lives so a decent chunk of the money she is making goes to her gas. She makes between 10-12$. Not a lot...but it's not bad for a college student.
I, on the other hand, have a full time income and have no problem paying my rent, bills, car, etc.
She "rents" out her moms old house (her mom got remarried and moved in with the guy) with a few friends.
Her rent is ridiculously reduced. She pays $300 a month, which, in the neighborhood she lives in is easily 2 or 3x more if her landlord wasn't her mom.
However, for the three months we've been dating she always complains how she is broke.
I hear her say it every few days.
During winter break from school she worked almost full time.
How she has no money, I'm not sure...
When buy presents for Christmas she had to run to the bank really quick cause her account went to the negatives.
But at this point I am convinced she doesn't pay rent. I think she is just embarrassed to live in a house (that her mom owns and her roommates pay rent) for free.
Why do I think this? Cause she lives at her moms house and her parents are very wealthy and because Janet complains she never has any money.
Even though $300 is much, it's still a lot for someone who doesn't have any money.
I'm in kind of a dilemma because I make a decent amount of money, but then against I don't feel like it is necessary to treat her every time we go out.
Because that's pricey. She is very spoiled by her parents and I don't want to spend $50-100 on dinner every week.
She mentions all the time that she has no money so we can't even split it.
I am not cheap, but it gets pricey to take your girlfriend out all the time.
On top of that, if she has an idea to go out and make plans I don't think I should pay.
I wouldn't mind treating her once in a while, but I'd like it if she paid once in a while or offered to split it.
At this point I am very frustrated.
What can I do?
I mentioned to her that we can't go out nearly as much cause I need to be more conscious of money, but who knows.
What do you guys think?
Thanks!
My girlfriend, Janet, who I have been dating for three months, is 23 and senior in college.
We met in college, but didn't start dating until recently.
We like each other very much, but there is on problem. All the time. She never has any money.
She only needs two classes to graduate so she is working very often (9a to 5p, 3 to 4 days a week), but works 30-45 minutes from where she lives so a decent chunk of the money she is making goes to her gas. She makes between 10-12$. Not a lot...but it's not bad for a college student.
I, on the other hand, have a full time income and have no problem paying my rent, bills, car, etc.
She "rents" out her moms old house (her mom got remarried and moved in with the guy) with a few friends.
Her rent is ridiculously reduced. She pays $300 a month, which, in the neighborhood she lives in is easily 2 or 3x more if her landlord wasn't her mom.
However, for the three months we've been dating she always complains how she is broke.
I hear her say it every few days.
During winter break from school she worked almost full time.
How she has no money, I'm not sure...
When buy presents for Christmas she had to run to the bank really quick cause her account went to the negatives.
But at this point I am convinced she doesn't pay rent. I think she is just embarrassed to live in a house (that her mom owns and her roommates pay rent) for free.
Why do I think this? Cause she lives at her moms house and her parents are very wealthy and because Janet complains she never has any money.
Even though $300 is much, it's still a lot for someone who doesn't have any money.
I'm in kind of a dilemma because I make a decent amount of money, but then against I don't feel like it is necessary to treat her every time we go out.
Because that's pricey. She is very spoiled by her parents and I don't want to spend $50-100 on dinner every week.
She mentions all the time that she has no money so we can't even split it.
I am not cheap, but it gets pricey to take your girlfriend out all the time.
On top of that, if she has an idea to go out and make plans I don't think I should pay.
I wouldn't mind treating her once in a while, but I'd like it if she paid once in a while or offered to split it.
At this point I am very frustrated.
What can I do?
I mentioned to her that we can't go out nearly as much cause I need to be more conscious of money, but who knows.
What do you guys think?
Thanks!
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ps. I meant she makes $10-12 per hour in case that was unclear.
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