You feel that if you carry on with a guy for sometime, then it may lead to a serious relationship that may not be comfortable at all. So, this thought has lead you to get scared to carry on with someone. Listen, none of the relations are void of imperfections, in fact relationship is to make the other one complete by love, understanding and sacrifice. So, just do not have too much expectations, accept the one if you too like him, just get along with him, know him better, and if you develop strong feelings then you can give a serious thought. JUST DO NOT BEGIN THE RELTIONSHIP ON A SERIOUS NOTE, go smooth, observe and learn new things and get matured before you start off a serious relationship with someone.
You just need to ease up. You must have some serious commitment issues if you can't let a guy in or let yourself out to the guy. And that doesn't always happen cause something happened to you as a kid to make you scared of it, it's sometimes just how you turn out.
But really, it makes no sense. You shouldn't be scared to commit to someone. And if you're worried that you'll get hurt then you need to be smart about your relationships. It's really nothing to worry about as long as you don't go crazy about it.
Hmm this doesn't seem like a problem of how "great" they guy is.
Many times if you're in tune with yourself you begin to deny your true feelings, which onlly explode in your face at the end.
Regardless of how great a guy is, he may not be what you want or seek. Usualy when you meet the person that magneticly draws you in, you will not be able to resist them and there's no fear.
If it goes beyound this, I suggest talking to a therapist. Most times your childhood has nothing to do with this type of situation either. There are many factors that contribute to fears.
I am the exact same as you! I really do struggle with commitment and I still can't get over it! It's a horrible feeling cause there are some great men out there!
It pretty tuff to go through it's not just as easy to say I will get over it as 4 years of being single im obviously not getting anywhere! I'm talking to a boy just now he took me on a date on Tuesday and right now I'm wondering what to do! There is nothing wrong with him but it's as if I'm trying to find something wrong 🙈
I do the same exact thing. I have no clue as to why I do it I was googling for an answer and this popped up ughh I need a solution !! :s
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you should feel more comfortable with yourself. And also don't be scared of what you want.
You should relax... When the right one come along it will fill right.
you need to work on your social skills
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