You Definitely Made a Good Decision by not having that talk. If you would have, you would have scared him away for good no doubt!
I'll tell you exactly what happened... Guys get spooked really easy when a girl starts wanting to push things to be serious. Any talks of where is this going, where do we stand, what's our future actually kill a guys attraction for a girl. And I'll tell you why...
Whenever we are dating someone, both people are subconsciously evaluating if they think this potential partner is pretty much the best possible partner they can get.
When a girl asks, Where do we stand, it communicates I'm not sure if you like me as much as I like you, but I need to know. And ironically, that question alone can make a guy who thought things were going well begin to question things. He thinks, "Why is she unsure if I like her, is there something about her I don;t know about. Should I not like her? Can I do better? Why is she trying to pin me down in a relationship.
If she is pressuring me, its prob because she knows I'm the best she can get, and she wants to snatch me up before I realize I can do better.
All these thoughts come up in different forms in different guys, when a girl asks a guy where they stand.
So you def, did right by not asking that...
So now what...
Let me use a metaphor to explain what happened and what to do...
Let's say that when we start dating someone, it's like two people standing on opposite sides of a seesaw with it completely balanced. To be in a relationship the two people need to get to the middle of the seesaw without one person moving too fast and tipping over.
When things get more serious in dating, its like taking a step forward on the seesaw. If one person takes a step forward, the other needs to step forward as well or they will be out of balance.
Girls that are a virgin, can easily spook a guy. Its Scary in that guys think once a virgin has sex she will get overly emotional and want to get immediately married.
This guy probably got a little spooked, so he stepped back on the seesaw. By him stepping back though, it made you want to step forward, which was why you were so compelled to tell him you missed him after just seeing him recently. You had felt that he stepped back, and it compelled you to want to step forward.
However, right now the seesaw is out of balance. And when its like this, the first urge is release all those emotions and have a talk that will assure you. But it wont.
Having a talk is another huge step forward on the seesaw and will completely flip over yalls relationship beyond repair.
For him to feel comfortable again, you have to do what's counter-intuitive and step back to balance things out. Act like nothing is wrong, everything is fine and you're not worried about it.
Only when you step back will he be able to come forward again..
Play it cool and take it easy!