If you answer it doesn't matter, than give me example of someone you dated and/or are attracted to that doesn't meet the mold of someone with a special occupation (like a soldier, athlete, doctor, lawyer, etc).
I"m grateful for my job.
I’m 21 and in my last year of university for reference. As much as I hate to say it I have realized over the last few years how important it really is. From going out to bars or markets or get together at friends houses 99% of the guys that approach you to have a one night stand aren’t very career oriented or college educated guys. I find that guys that value their occupation and education treat women much better.
Even since I was starting to date at around 16 I always found myself looking for boys who had those kind of traits, I guess it’s just a female instinct. I think the reason why is because of the way I grew up, my parents both had degrees (dad in business and mom in teaching) but my mom took a break to bring us up. I couldn’t have imagined my childhood without having my mom there literally whenever I needed her. That’s why I think a man with a good education and a good career is important. I also find that guys that have good jobs and a good education mostly come from good families which again as I hate to say it is very importantly to me. Sorry I don’t sound like most of the other girls on here with their “I only want someone who loves me” rubbish but I’m just tying to give a completely honest answer.
I'm in my 20s and I've recently just realized how much it does kind of make a difference... not so much job I suppose, but education... which is reflected by what type of job a person chooses. I'm not attracted to boys that act like hicks or appear to be "gangsters." That leaves out a lot of men... so I'm basically attracted to the lawyer types... geeky types... I can't help it though. When they give me the hick/gangster vibe I generally don't like them as anything more than a hookup. I'd like to say that I'm not judgmental about these things, but I am clearly not attracted to some types of men.
you say you would hook up with a redneck/gangsta. But would you just hook up with a white collar guy (and not get into a relationship with him?)
I would probably hook up with both but only consider a relationship with the white collar guy... I know I'm terrible...
well the hook up argument is a seperate question I guess. I just have seen a lot of women attracted to the blue collar/manual type. But maybe I haven't been around everywhere. But yeah, you probably would have a bit more stable future with a white collar guy.
hmmm yeah. I don't really know how to explain that one. I hope that helps a bit though!
Ugh . . . *facepalm* . . . so you mean, the idiot hick/gangster/guido types get a hook-up, but the guys that spent 3 extra life-draining years after college, get to wait 3-6 months because they're placed on the relationship potential (marriage potential) boat? F*** that, I'm acting like an idiot from now on.
haha I think I was more saying that hicks/gangsters go in the "only a hookup" category and not the future potential relationship category. does that help?
yeah maybe, but not love
thank you for being honest. If women would just reject douche's outright, both sex and love...well there would be a LOT LESS douches. But will women ever be able to change their emotional impulses? It's mostly biological...so I doubt it.
thats actually a really interesting comment. to be honest, the only reason I ever started hooking up was because I wanted to help kill the stereotype that only men can hook up and be called players... women = sluts etc. I figured if more women participated it would become less of a slutty thing and more of an okay thing. maybe I didn't do that right? I just thought it was unfair that men could get so much action and women just have to sit on the side and wait.
you are right, men get more popularity the more action they get and vice versa for women. Although that is starting to change. That is one of the FEW double standards men enjoy by the way. But why couldn't you just hook up with a nice guy for a one nighter? Why does it have to be a prick?
havent really found one I guess. sometimes I think theyre nice, but they never call the next day, or ever.
Honestly, their profession is up to them, I can't complain when their job makes them happy or feel complete. My dad and uncle are police officers, so I do prefer men in uniform (military, police, even security), but I've dated construction, sales, med student, etc. As long as they are pleased with where they are in life, I'm comfortable with it. I'm very independent and it's nice to brag about my man's future plans or job, but it's not a deal breaker.
My guy is a overnight security guard and makes little to nothing but he's happy he has this job, and I don't mind. And I'm 22.
doesnt really matter to me as long as the girl isn't a lazy ho bag, and has a steady job
well women seem to place their highest value on a man's resources, his social standing
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As long as he isn't doing what the common "high school" or "college" student is doing, he should be fine.
I personally like the idea of a guy who has gotten some education after high school and has a degree. He need to have some ambition of a career and not planning on working as a manager of some place. (I hope that doesn't come off as shallow, but it probably does and I don't mean it that way.)
Personally, I have gone against that though. This guy I was totally crushing on, got his High School Diploma and started out in college and realized it wasn't for him. Instead, he now works with people with special needs and on the side does landscaping. (I also could've made an exception because we were best friends, or it could've been the fact that I am a sucker for guys who work with people with disabilites.)
nah I respect your choice totally. You looked deeper in the guy. I'm educated and have a decent job. Don't hate, but it's not exactly the sexy lifestyle I once had. I'm just having a hard time being confident about it. It's not easy going from a badass fighter to an office guy.
Badass fighter huh?! lol Two extremely different ends of the spectrum! lol Office guys can be sexy! Do you want to fill my printer? ;) lol so kidding! what kind of office job?
I'm an ex pro mma fighter. I loved the sport, the truth is most guys make food stamps. I work in online technology now. It pays decent and I'm trying to have a good attitude about being a white collar guy now. But my loneliness is making wonder and ask questions above.
Well just try to stay confident that what you are doing is (maybe?) the best option right now. Do you have to wear the whole collared shirt and tie? That's super gorgeous!
I often wear polo shirts...ha. I had a funny fighter nickname. I'll send you message about it personally (I'm careful not reveal my identity on here)
lol ooo lala!
I'm 20. My whole thing is CONTRIBUTE SOMETHING! please be sure that we work together. If you lose your job mommy will encourage and continue to love you but no LAZY men please. I am a very submissive woman when it comes to finance so it really is not my right to expect my man be the richest of the rich or have the best job or " manly " job.. I need someone to love, respect and honor me. Someone to treat me good. I am a very simple girl believe it or not.
well I hope you stay that way. I noticed younger girls are a little more easy going, but as they age they build these "checklists" for men. Job/social status is usually close to the top
it has never played a part in my decision to be someone's girlfriend. never. actually most of the guys I have dated have been in construction or the military. I really don't care. if I like you as a person and I am attracted to you it doesn't matter. as long as it does not go into the realm of unemployment, laziness, no ambition etc.
I'm not picky about what a guy does for a living, I'm a waitress so who am I to judge ?
As long as he has goals then he could be working the worst job in the world and it wouldn't matter to me.
Just as long as he works, isn't lazy and can pay his own bills then it's fine.
I don't care how much money he makes because I pay for my own things honestly.
because poverty is my greatest fear realized, it would be an absolute necessity to date someone with excellent money making abilities. by the way, most girls answering this question are either lying, or don't know what's good. money is in everyone's better interest.
yep
I prefer a guy who has goals. If he is working a sh*t job but pushing to get somewhere better in life..I can dig that. If he makes decent money and is content with what he is doing..MORE POWER TO HIM..!
well I'm not thrilled with the job I have right now. I don't hate it, but don't love it either. But my number one goal is pay of my credit cards. It's giving me a shovel to dig out of a hole.
You have to start somewhere right?
yes I'm looking at this as means to something else
first, I believe people should date within their own socioeconomic class for obvious reasons. second, I find it totally useless marrying someone who wasn't good at making money. what is the point? might as well stay single.
well what you said above is sad, but very true. I commend you for being honest. However tell me how many women fantasy about "dating up"...i.e. finding a rich guy. A while ago in the book store I couldn't notice a few books giving women advice about "dating up" or finding that pot of gold...and I'm not talking about looks. I'm going to stick to my office job...good money...ha.
it would really depend. I'm not talking necessarily about dating someone with A LOT of money (although that would not be bad). but someone who is resourceful and has a skill would be very important. I was raised in a middle class family (my dad was in the army) so I would like to have that type of lifestyle throughout my life. and yes I know girls can also become successful but a guy who is resourceful is an important element I look for. it's just practical.
lol practicality has nothing to do with anything, besides you sitting on your ass, letting your man pamper your every want and need.
advantageous is the word your looking for
When a woman is HONEST with you, is this how you treat her? What do you want; for her to lie to you and tell you money doesn't matter, and that it's all about love and personality? Show some respect. Maybe it's not what you want to hear, especially if you're not pulling in the money, but at least it's the honest truth.
I feel your rustration beastman, but I agree with jdcpa. You got to learn the play the game or the game will play you.
I'm 24. Well, if he's happy with his job, that's great. At least he picked a smart job and not a stupid one. If it was something like a clown, I would be a bit concerned and it would be time to change jobs. If he's making the right amount of pay, it's fine with me. Not really into guys who are in the military though. Means not much time together :(.
Dunno. Like I mean if he's a doctor or a lawyer I think I'd be satisfied with his amount of pay.
Like, if he's making $12,000 a year, lol..
well as long as he's making tons of money, I won't be bothered
spoken like a true american girl
i tend to be attracted to guys who work with their hands and have some element of physical labor in their jobs.
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is this a genetic thing? 100 years ago 99% of the guys were physical. However the world is changing. I just wonder if women will ever grow out of the blue collar mindset.
why does this trouble you so much...
not as much now. I'm grateful to have a good job in tough times. I'm proud of what I did a few years ago, but there's a time for everything.
ok... I was just wondering dude
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