I was seeing this guy for about a month.
So I texted him last night asking if we could hang out. Which then he replied, "Sure, you're welcome to come over anytime." So I told him I would be over around 8:30pm. He then told me that he needed to talk to me about some stuff. Hmmm. Anyway, so he's about 30 minutes away from me. It's pouring rain too.
I arrive, and he offers me a beer. He goes outside to smoke and then gestures to me to go outside with him. He shuts the door, and then apologizes to me for getting intimate with me the last time we hung out (making out). He then tells me that he has a girlfriend. And then he tells me that it was unexpected and he thinks I'm a much better person than he is and explaining that he's an alcoholic, chain smokes and doesn't even have a license. I get mad and I'm like, "So you make me drive all the way up here just to tell me this?" And he says that he hopes that we can still be friends and wants me to stay and hang out. I'm pissed and trying not to cry...I go inside and text a girlfriend asking if I could come over. The guy keeps trying to talk to me while I'm texting and I just hold my finger to him and tell him to shut up. He's offering me food, more beer and offering to hang out longer.
So...I grab my keys and I head out the door. He then chases me holding his jacket over my head so I don't get wet. And I tell him that I don't need him to help me and as I walk to my car (in the rain), I hear, "So we can't be friends?" I get pissed. I stop and turn around and storm back to him and I say, "Why the f*** do you still want to be friends?" He tells me that I'm the coolest and most awesome girl that he's ever met and he doesn't want to lose me as a friend. He goes on to say that he still wants to hang out and do things together. I'm just sitting there...and then he offers his jacket again (I take it because I'm getting soaked at this point). I hand him his jacket back and wave goodbye to him and as I walk away... then he says, "It's not because of your weight you know". I stop again and go back and I say, "I wasn't even thinking about that...but thanks for making it awkward." And he tries to explain himself again. He goes on to say that he REALLY wants to be friends and then he says, "Okay, how about this: Don't talk to me for a week. And if you still want to be friends, call me or text me. The ball is in your court." I tell him that I honestly don't know. He walks me back to my car and tells me again how awesome of a person I am and he hopes to hear from me soon.
We got along really well...and I guess when I get over his douchebaggery and over him emotionally I wouldn't mind being friends. But I think that might just be asking for trouble. I've already moved on and started seeing other guys again and have a couple dates planned for this weekend
So yeah...WTF. I'm used to when a guy isn't interested, he cuts you off and never talks to you again. That would be easier at least.
So I texted him last night asking if we could hang out. Which then he replied, "Sure, you're welcome to come over anytime." So I told him I would be over around 8:30pm. He then told me that he needed to talk to me about some stuff. Hmmm. Anyway, so he's about 30 minutes away from me. It's pouring rain too.
I arrive, and he offers me a beer. He goes outside to smoke and then gestures to me to go outside with him. He shuts the door, and then apologizes to me for getting intimate with me the last time we hung out (making out). He then tells me that he has a girlfriend. And then he tells me that it was unexpected and he thinks I'm a much better person than he is and explaining that he's an alcoholic, chain smokes and doesn't even have a license. I get mad and I'm like, "So you make me drive all the way up here just to tell me this?" And he says that he hopes that we can still be friends and wants me to stay and hang out. I'm pissed and trying not to cry...I go inside and text a girlfriend asking if I could come over. The guy keeps trying to talk to me while I'm texting and I just hold my finger to him and tell him to shut up. He's offering me food, more beer and offering to hang out longer.
So...I grab my keys and I head out the door. He then chases me holding his jacket over my head so I don't get wet. And I tell him that I don't need him to help me and as I walk to my car (in the rain), I hear, "So we can't be friends?" I get pissed. I stop and turn around and storm back to him and I say, "Why the f*** do you still want to be friends?" He tells me that I'm the coolest and most awesome girl that he's ever met and he doesn't want to lose me as a friend. He goes on to say that he still wants to hang out and do things together. I'm just sitting there...and then he offers his jacket again (I take it because I'm getting soaked at this point). I hand him his jacket back and wave goodbye to him and as I walk away... then he says, "It's not because of your weight you know". I stop again and go back and I say, "I wasn't even thinking about that...but thanks for making it awkward." And he tries to explain himself again. He goes on to say that he REALLY wants to be friends and then he says, "Okay, how about this: Don't talk to me for a week. And if you still want to be friends, call me or text me. The ball is in your court." I tell him that I honestly don't know. He walks me back to my car and tells me again how awesome of a person I am and he hopes to hear from me soon.
We got along really well...and I guess when I get over his douchebaggery and over him emotionally I wouldn't mind being friends. But I think that might just be asking for trouble. I've already moved on and started seeing other guys again and have a couple dates planned for this weekend
So yeah...WTF. I'm used to when a guy isn't interested, he cuts you off and never talks to you again. That would be easier at least.
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