Hm, I'm 5'1 and 114 lbs and I'm thin, so I can't possibly imagine what scale you are comparing yourself to but whatever that is, it's not healthy. If you go to an internet weight calculator and type in your weight, you are considered small, so that's the first thing I'll note. Maybe this is a body issue thing you have going on, those sizes are completely normal. What isn't normal is the people in magazines (who, by the way, don't really look like that in real life. I know, I've seen countless). That said, it sounds like you have confidence issue which would explain why men are less attracted to you. Men are attracted to people who are confident in themselves, especially the ones worth having in your life so find ways to be more comfortable with yourself. If you see room for improvement, go to the gym and eat healthy. Be happy with yourself but also be realistic and what you've mentioned so far indicates you are completely fine. Don't compare yourself to a standard that rarely exists and when it does, is often unhealthy. If your "friends" gasp in horror when you tell them what size you wear, those aren't really friends and you should find people that accept you as the person you are. Again, go by health calculators which tell you your weight is fine. It sounds like a combination of you surrounding yourself with negative people who want to feel better about themselves by putting you down and that you have your own issues you need to work out with yourselves. You have some very unrealistic expectations and that is a concern, talk to a therapist if you need to. 116 is completely beyond normal for your height. If you don't believe me, look it up.
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Why are you still friends with those people? They're toxic to YOU! Get new friends, enjoy your life, not their snippy gasps and remarks.
Also, why are you worried about your size? According to the BMI chart, at 5'4 and 116lbs, you're normal, right? There, even scientists agree lol Maybe your so-called friends are the TOO SKINNY ones (unhealthy!) and they're just trying to make you feel bad (especially if you have a sexier/nicer body that you just don't know you have because they don't want you to know that the boys look at you more than at them ;) so just feel good about yourself.
About your family. You won't be able to get RID of them so just give them facts:
A. THEY're the FAT ones! No, that was just a joke but seriously, you should mention that they look overweight too then you can add that you matched ;)
B. If they keep calling you fat or chubby, then just call them fat or chubby too
Example: they say, "Wow, you're still chubby/fat." (some people have no shame)
you say, "Wow, you too!" (so be shameless with them) that should even the score hehe
About people siding together to make you miserable...
That's human nature but it's up to you if you want them to get you down...
Besides, why are you allowing that? Just smile sweetly (even if you're angry... think Miss Universe lol), wear nicer clothes, and be more confident about yourself :)
I really hope all goes well for you because I've been there :)
I am 5'1 and 130 pounds, but I carry it differently, and am more of a broad shape. I've fought with it my entire life. I've always wanted to be the tiny little thing, which I will never be. I've starved myself, exercised excessively, and it ultimately made me depressed.
I used to get made fun of in high school, but even during the times I got made fun of, I still got noticed outside of high school and I didn't know how to handle it. Even now after I have lost weight, I still get insecure, but I still get noticed. I can freak myself out all I want, but at the end of the day, I have never had a boyfriend tell me he thinks I'm too big or that I should lose weight, so I can't use that as an excuse if it isn't true.
Your weight is so light for your height, you are fine. Chances are, if you are wearing bigger sizes, that you are built more athletic- stocky hips and thighs, etc. However, I can't see how at 116lbs you would be larger than a 4 in jeans
Its tough, because sometimes you are measuring yourself against an ideal, and you don't even know where you get it from, all you know is that it is an ideal and you want to look like it.
What the flying f___ is wrong with the people around you?!
Seriously, I think they're just so miserable in their lives that they have to bash someone who they see they can affect with their bullsh*t to feel better about themselves.
Horrible. Disgusting. Outrageous. I'm not even sure why people like this exist!
Actually, yes I do. Because no one told them not to be, and they were too dumb or just didn't bother to care to see past the wall of pain they have caused and their obliviousness to their own error is the greatest sin they could ever have.
Oookay.. now that my rant is (semi-)over, I can basically say 116 lbs for 5'4" is already a FINE, HEALTHY WEIGHT. Anyone who says otherwise should be SHOT in the FACE. IMMEDIATELY. You should seriously stop hating yourself merely because the people around you are obsessed with stupid false ideals that make no sense, are unjustified and exist only to help consumerism and self-loathe.
And to tell you the truth, yes, I always notice the girls who are at least slightly overweight. And they tend to be at least around 128-132 lbs.
So...just stick to who you are, if you really don't like your current appearance then do some exercising and start jogging and stuff, but to me, it seems unnecessary, and all the people around you have no idea what they are talking about.
I only read up to, "I'm 5'4" and weigh 116lbs" and I had to stop after first reading you're claiming your fat. Sweetie are NOT fat and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Relax, I'm certain guys are eying all the time without your knowledge.
My advice is you're just fine and healthy at 116lbs. You do NOT need to lose any weight. I truly laugh reading your question, "Am I too big for guys to be interested in?" because you're NOT fat!
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First of all -i don't know why you call the people who you hang out with friends. they sound neurotic disrespectful and shallow. I don't know what that makes you for calling them friends and basing your self confidence on their opinion.
116 at 5 4 is heavy for some people- light for others. Depends on the individual.
I'm quite a bit lighter than you but id be extremely uncomfortable at your weight. People balk at my weight and I don't care . I'm healthy I pretty and have energy & I'm happy. Anyone who has a problem with my body , can shove it up their ass.
My point is, If you are healthy and have energy at your weight- then feel good. F***what people say. Have a stronger sense of yourself then to let it falter at the mention of clothing size.. Really people are starving and suffering huge denigration in the world. Who gives a sh*t about friends being skinny... are you american? Americans are often super self absorbed. id say go volunteer get a taste of what it means to have problems and just get regular exercise and don't eat crap. Most people have hideous diets. just be healthy. hang out with people with a conscience not people who are so self conscious they act like fools. And make sure your friends respect you. bottom lime for friendship is respect.I'm sorry, but your friends sound pretty mean. For anyone, to comment on someone's weight is hurtful. And at 116 pounds, you are not overweight. Even if you did lose 10 pounds, why do it to impress them? Obviously they are obsessed over the wrong things. I would lose your loser friends, honestly. Not trying to be mean but friends shouldn't bring you down.
I know exactly how you feel, I am a bigger girl myself, much bigger than you. I am in the same situation as you, but my friends don't make a big deal about my weight. Sure it sucks that I can't wear what they do, I would love to, but I know that my body type won't allow me to wear the small sizes. I have naturally bigger boobs and butt, even if I lose weight and I have in the past, those don't really change. I can only get so small, and that is usually still too big to fit into those small sizes. So I feel your pain. You just have to learn to accept yourself for who you are.
If your family members are saying things to you too, I would tell someone. It is not right for them to be making you feel bad about yourself. As I said before, you are not even close to being overweight.
Don't let people bring you down. If someone is making you feel bad, than maybe its time to rethink why they are in your life in the first place. Keeping negative people around you is only going to bring you down.wtf, sweetie your not fat. My sister is 5'4 and weighs the exact same size as you do and she's not considered fat at all. Ur friends should just shut up about how tiny they are and making you feel insecure about your size. Peoples bodies are just diffrent, maybe you won't look cute in what they can wear but you will be able to find a flattering look for yourself too, like I said before peoples bodies are just shaped diffrently. Like I'm 5 foot and weigh 100 pounds and I fit into clothes shaped for my body, I can never wear what my best friend who is 5 foot 2 inches is wearing cause she has bigger hips then me, but she's not considered fat cause she weighs 114. But if your dead on serious about losing weight try walking while listening to your ipod, itouch,or iphone. Or maybe going to the gym. I think you sound perfect sweetie, and all guys are diffrent. Maybe some won't like you, but there are plently of fish in the sea. What my mom used to say to me is 'you have to kiss many toads in order to get your prince.'' Guys also look for a good personality too, so you could always win them over with your personality too. Ur not to big at all, and I think you just need clothes that flatter you to bring your confidence out. good luck sweetie :)
Wow.. I take it you're from America? I live in England, we weigh ourselves in stone over here and I am around 8 stone. There are 14lbs to a stone which would make me about 112lbs. I am 5'4" and I am very happy with my body! You sound as if your height and weight are just about perfect. My doctor says my Body Mass Index is slap bang in the middle of where it is supposed to be and you seem to be very similar to me.
I lost my Aunt to anorexia nervosa. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain which leads both men and women to think they are too fat. She had two sons aged 8 and 11 and she left them behind because she wasn't happy with the way she looked. She was the skinniest, most beautiful person I had ever seen, yet something inside her head was telling her she was too large and needed to be thinner and eventually this obsession took her life.
Don't EVER let your friends tell you that you're ugly or fat or large or anything along those lines. As long as you are healthy and comfortable in who you are then you will get noticed! Men notice women with confidence, if you feel unattractive in yourself then you will come across as unattractive to others. Just be yourself and you will be noticed!I don't think your fat at all.
I know how you feel to be the "fat one" as you said it all my friends were tiny tiny and I was 230lbs compared to their 135lbs all throughout high school - I have lost weight not the weight I desire to be but enough to make me happier.
I have learned one thing you can't look at others and expect to be that size everyone is built differently and is not meant to be super thin.
Guy's I know like average not super skinny - just be you and be proud of who you are and how you look and they'll notice you. The confidence and happiness you will be able to show off will attract them to you.
I'm sure you are a beautiful girl and you will find a great guy at 116lbs you have nothing to worry about.
Not only was I 230lbs in grade 11 - one of the top football players at my high school was interested in me shortly after we started talking we dated. I was a big girl dating one of the football stars who was not big at all he was very fit and muscular and was still interested.
Be happy with who you are and others' will see the beauty you have.YOU ARE NOT FAT
You are underweight, and unhealthy because of it. Gain some weight for your health, and be proud of your body! Curves are Beautiful!
Also, why are girls so interested in being unnaturally skinny? No clue. They will regret it later, though, trust me. There are a plethora of diseases related to being underweight, not to mention a high miscarriage rate or the possibility of complete infertility. Mens inherent programming attracts them to women who are fertile (there are physical attributes that denote this such as properly spread hips and a decent weight to name a few) and girls at your weight or LOWER are not attractive according to the inherent wiring of the human brain.
sorry to break it down to unsexy science, but that's the truth.I find a little extra chub is more cushion for the pushing. Especially if the chub is in all the right places. I've met some chubby damsels in my time and some of them were down right cute, like, beautiful face, nice boobs, nice butt, nice complexion, but just chubbiness and plump all around. Didn't mind hooking up with them, but anyways, some chubby girls know how to carry them selves well, they know how to dress talk and walk and are very elegant, nothing wrong with a fat chick every once in a while if she got game.
So anyways, first of all you're friends shouldn't make you feel fat, they should make you feel sexy. Second, 116 lbs isn't even that much weight, so don't worry about it. Third, don't work out to lose weight, work out because its healthy and take it one day at a time and before you know it you'll be firm and fit.116 pounds? Fat? Seriously?
Dude. ANYONE who weighs 116 pounds IS NOT FAT.
What's your size, like 6 or something? 4? Not fat. In fact, you could wear a size 12 and be thin. Depends on your bone structure, etc...
Anyways, your weight doesn't matter since it all comes down to how your frame is built.
A girl weighing 140 pounds could look thinner than another one weighing 120 pounds.
Anyways, I weigh 150 pounds, I wear a size 9-10, and I don't look fat. Because I'm not fat.
I get noticed by plenty of guys. So could you if your so-called friends weren't ruining your self-esteem. Confidence is the key, girl. :)
(it sounds cheesy but it IS true. Once I started liking myself, guys started to like me too!)Yes, I do notice "fat" girls, and you don't sound like you qualify. That's not THAT heavy for your height. It sounds like You might just have some meat on your curves, but if it helps you to lose weight, I'd say 106 is a good target. Sounds like your "friends" are TOO skinny, and I'd be gasping in horror at THEIR sizes! They don't sounds like too great of friends treating you that way, and you sound like a MUCH better person! Seriously, my ex was your height & bteween 106-116, N I thought she was perfect. Once she got below 106 though, she started looking TOO thin, N I found out she was throwing up all her food to get her weight that low. I wish you luck, but wether you lose 10 lbs or not, I think you're beautiful N your "friends" are cruel a**holes that need tomind their own business. Just ignore them...
this is retarded. I weigh 160, STOP COMPLAINING! lol if they gasp in horror about your size they aren't your friends! and 106 for just any girl is absurd ( if you are naturally super thin of course its fine but just to be smaller than your friend Is dumb hunny)! dang...i'd be nothing but bones...nothing else no skin or organs or fat or muscle just bones. who cares about weight, its just a number. no one sees what's on the scale unless you weight yourself in front of them. my smallest was 127 and guess what size I wore? a size ONE! lol. it doesn't matter really tho just make sure you look healthy and drop those stupid girls! <3
haha. your friends just need help because they must be sick if they are claiming you are fat. They must be either not eating or have tiny little frames. You probably have a bigger frame than them and more muscle which I personally like more than girls who look like little boys. Eat your green beans and cornbread and shake what your mama gave you. :D I would kill to be 116 pounds right now at 5'4. I know how you feel though because I got to 120 pounds before and my big friends thought I was anorexic but my Asian boyfriend thought I was fat. it's really relative but being an average american and too much smaller than you are now is unhealthy.
i think your size for your height is good, I have a friend that's 5'1" and I'm 16 so a mentor and she's 5'4" and they both are at least your size but they are still skinny. guys DO notice bigger girls, but then there are jerks so mostly the one that don't go for stin thick are mre open minded but your not fat as far as I'm concerned, I'm 5'7" and weigh a good weight but get called fat becaue of health crap so yeah but like you I have motly thin friends, it happens. you should not be being called fat, chubby or obese by anyone! most people do look good with a little meat, because its gross to see ribs. I noticed now that you said people can stop answering but since I already typed ill just finish. ifyou want any other answers post them and let me know, ill try to help. I'm 16 like I said so I'm going through what you went through and are but its worse for me, I'm actually not skinny like you lol.
I knew a woman that was about your height and she weighed almost 200 lbs for most of her life. One year she finally decided to do something about it and became a body builder. She has more muscles then I've ever seen on anyone. Now I'm not saying be a body builder, but I don't think you need to limit yourself. I believe that you can lose as much weight as you want to lose. I'm not suggesting you go for the "stereotypical" weight I'm just saying that you sell yourself short if you don't think you can lose as much as you want. As far as noticing the "fat girl" I personally do. In all honesty, some of them I find attractive and some of them I don't. The same as any woman of any size. But that's just me. I feel that as a society we set standards that we all believe represent beauty and health but we neglect to realize that we are not a "one size fits all" society. People should do what feels right for them not what "society" thinks it should be.
Yes guys notice and never think they dont!
"Fat girls" as you put it do get noticed.. I admit not as much as the "skinny girls"
But guys do see them... If you think your body is a problem then the guys will see it and act the way you do..
I liked this girl who was "over weight" she was nice to me and had a great smile..
I thought about asking her out.. But befor I did I wanted to be her friend to see her personality first.. So I asked her to join me to go have fun as friends first befor I knew if she wanted to date her...
Guys notice you if your nice and smile...
But you may have to be friends first... So they can get to know you..
My suggestion is just be yourself... ;)omg your not fat, your kinda ridiculous. don't post questions, just so you can hear people say your not fat, just sounds very immature to me. reality check, you are dillusional, get rid of your stick figure friends, and don't be afraid to go and eat something
Skiiny chicks scare me. I'm afraid I'll break them if I hug them. I'm confused anyways. 116 doesn't sound that bad to me. You could afford to gain some weight.
0.o 116 pounds is not fat at all! tell your friends to start eating some meat! you are actually under weigh! you will be noticed by guys, in my opinioun guys like me do not like girls to skinny but still havecurves and if your 5 4 with 116 pounds only then you got some nice curves!
Posts like this really do show why I see girls settle for guys who have absolutely nothing going for them. Because your image of yourself is so unbelieveably bad that you think that's the best you can do.
And another thing. Guys love boobs, not 10 year old boys. I wouldn't care if you were 140. I can promise you I'd be more attractive to a healthy looking girl than one of your 100 pound friends since I curl more than they weigh.This is ridiculous, if you're only 5'4 and you weigh just over 8 stone you're trim?!?! Your friends must look like greyhounds, they'd be better suited chasing a rabbit round a circuit, drunk people betting on them than making comments about you. How stupid
You might just have more musule or something when your 5'4 and weigh 116lbs you are not considered fat you are at a healthy weight. But if you want to lose some wieght this really helps a lot when your eating lunch don't eat everything on the plate just eat like one thing same with dinner but with breakfast eat everything also go to the gym and work out 6 days a week and reward your self with something. Only have a snack after dinner not after lunch or breakfast. Like for lunch have 3 small cookies and that's all it will make you lose alot. I have already lost 20 pounds in 2 weeks. I hope this helped somewhat.
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