Hello, to start of with, I've been a sad and lonely person all my life. I had a really hard childhood but it made me a really motivated person. I do admit that, social life aside, I can't complain about my life (but what is there really I can do if I am alone?). I work as a programmer for... Show More
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I feel sorry for you. But the only way your going to succeed in your desire for what you want, is to grow. I'm not saying "change", but "grow". You seem stubbornly inflexible in your desire to stay the same. You will NEVER get what you want that way.
What does it take? Drastic action. Going to therapists, reading books. These things are superficial. You need to take it into your own hands. Discover who you truly are. Explore the spiritual side to yourself- if you believe in that.or you inner self. Life is a journey of discovery- you sound like your stagnating.
being anti-social is a downward spiral.it gets worse. Being social gets easier the more you practice it.
One of the problems you also face is this: If you do find a women, what are the chances you can even make it work? With all of the qualities you described, you'd have to find someone as
socially inept as yourself. Now I don't mean to be harsh. I'm trying to shock you out of your complacency here.
This is a time for change. You have to make yourself a valuable commodity so that someone will see you as a potential mate.
Take care of yourself, go to the gym, try to make yourself look as good as possible. Dress well.
Learn new things.learn how to be a good lover. Read up on tantra, or the tao of sex, if the occasion should ever arise, that you meet a woman. Hey, the art of non-ejaculation, a very valued quality which is easily learnt, though rarely practiced- through lack of knowledge, can be learnt on your own.
this is your voyage. Make the best of what you have, and things can happen for you. I understand your feelings, because those same feeling have plagued me on occasion, but they are temporary, and I'm sure if, that if you undergo a DRASTIC attitude change- you will get what you want.
Make the change- only you can do it for yourself.