I am 26 and I am tired of not having a girlfriend

Hello, to start of with, I've been a sad and lonely person all my life. I had a really hard childhood but it made me a really motivated person. I... Show More

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  • I feel sorry for you. But the only way your going to succeed in your desire for what you want, is to grow. I'm not saying "change", but "grow". You seem stubbornly inflexible in your desire to stay the same. You will NEVER get what you want that way.

    What does it take? Drastic action. Going to therapists, reading books. These things are superficial. You need to take it into your own hands. Discover who you truly are. Explore the spiritual side to yourself- if you believe in that.or you inner self. Life is a journey of discovery- you sound like your stagnating.

    being anti-social is a downward spiral.it gets worse. Being social gets easier the more you practice it.

    One of the problems you also face is this: If you do find a women, what are the chances you can even make it work? With all of the qualities you described, you'd have to find someone as

    socially inept as yourself. Now I don't mean to be harsh. I'm trying to shock you out of your complacency here.

    This is a time for change. You have to make yourself a valuable commodity so that someone will see you as a potential mate.

    Take care of yourself, go to the gym, try to make yourself look as good as possible. Dress well.

    Learn new things.learn how to be a good lover. Read up on tantra, or the tao of sex, if the occasion should ever arise, that you meet a woman. Hey, the art of non-ejaculation, a very valued quality which is easily learnt, though rarely practiced- through lack of knowledge, can be learnt on your own.

    this is your voyage. Make the best of what you have, and things can happen for you. I understand your feelings, because those same feeling have plagued me on occasion, but they are temporary, and I'm sure if, that if you undergo a DRASTIC attitude change- you will get what you want.

    Make the change- only you can do it for yourself.

    • Thats dumb. I get more girls living in my moms house sleeping on the couch. The dude just needs confindence. For fuck sake my pops has a beer belly and my mother is a model. How is that possible? He makes her laugh. he's confident. There is no journey. A man is either a man or he is a boy. Boys go on journeys because they choose to learn things the hard way. A man gets what he wants cause he takes CONTROL of his life. How is it that a dude like Beetlejuice "The comedian" gets so many women and he is atrocious? Confidence. That is all you need in this world. I mean confidence and by that im not saying be cocky. Women hate insecure dudes. Take My friend Justin as an example, he's rich, looks like Robert Plant, plays guitar like Jimmy Hendrix "literally the guy is THAT talented" but he gets no women. Me on the other hand the bands bass player, the least talented member in the group gets all the women. I have confidence. Stop the fairy tales ladies and be men. Bitches dig that.